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Pulled dd out of nursery

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Pinkcappucino · 30/11/2023 20:03

Because of constant Illness. She started in may and has been off sick more than she’s been in. We can’t take it anymore.

One thing after another and she was grey, exhausted, miserable and investigations didn’t show anything but she just can’t be this unwell so we have withdrawn her . I was only PT so have gone back onto full UC (luckily my circumstances mean they won’t hassle me) which is a shame but she is due to go to school in sep 24 so will see if things improve.

Are there just more illness this year it seems horrendous??

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DisquietintheRanks · 30/11/2023 20:13

There does seem to be a lot around at the moment. But I also remember my two (now teens) getting endless bugs/colds/viruses at that age so maybe it's always been that way? I do remember sobbing on my husband one February and wanting to pull them both out of nursery and take them to the Mediterranean for a couple of months because we all needed a break from the constant illnesses and feeling it couldn't be normal.

MissHoollie · 30/11/2023 20:16

I did this back in 2007 with my eldest
The vomiting bugs every 6 weeks were awful.

YourNameGoesHere · 30/11/2023 20:18

Honestly as shit as it seems it's totally normal, especially as she's not been in childcare until 3. I wouldn't have removed her to be honest, all that's going to happen is you're pushing the problem down the road and she's going to catch everything when she starts school in September. I'd far rather she missed nursery than school.

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platinumplus · 30/11/2023 20:20

Pinkcappucino · 30/11/2023 20:03

Because of constant Illness. She started in may and has been off sick more than she’s been in. We can’t take it anymore.

One thing after another and she was grey, exhausted, miserable and investigations didn’t show anything but she just can’t be this unwell so we have withdrawn her . I was only PT so have gone back onto full UC (luckily my circumstances mean they won’t hassle me) which is a shame but she is due to go to school in sep 24 so will see if things improve.

Are there just more illness this year it seems horrendous??

Don't blame you. Some kids are just made of stronger stuff than others.

Some kids I knew at nursery were never really ill, or not ill enough to be off. Both my kids have always been prone to being under the weather. Both at nursery and school.

It sounds pointless for her to be registered there (and presumably you're paying for her to not be there too).

platinumplus · 30/11/2023 20:21

YourNameGoesHere · 30/11/2023 20:18

Honestly as shit as it seems it's totally normal, especially as she's not been in childcare until 3. I wouldn't have removed her to be honest, all that's going to happen is you're pushing the problem down the road and she's going to catch everything when she starts school in September. I'd far rather she missed nursery than school.

Both my kids went to nursery and caught everything.

Then went to school and caught even more stuff. So not necessarily a win to keep her in nursery.

Zanatdy · 30/11/2023 20:23

My kids got really sick the first 6 months or so of nursery. I had no choice but to continue as we needed my salary. My GP said it’s normal and they won’t miss much school as they will have good immunity by then, and it was so true. If I didn’t need to work, I probably wouldn’t have kept them there as so hard seeing your kid get quite sick all the time, my work were very good but must have thought ‘not again’

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Pinkcappucino · 30/11/2023 20:32

It’s just awful she’s catching everything we are even getting things like hfm plus an ear infection and then it was an overlap between norovirus and strep throat. I don’t think it’s building immunity I used to keep telling myself it was but this was just too much

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DisquietintheRanks · 30/11/2023 20:36

It does sound like a break to recuperate a bit would do her good. You don't strengthen the immune system by getting run down.

MissBuffyAnneSummers · 30/11/2023 20:37

You are just delaying it till school. She will catch everything then instead of now as she won't have built up immunity.

megletthesecond · 30/11/2023 20:39

It's normal, and an awful stage when you're in it.
Maybe just do a few less days for a while. Don't lose the place though. Don't do anything at weekends, just recharge and get as much fresh air as you can.

YourNameGoesHere · 30/11/2023 20:41

Pinkcappucino · 30/11/2023 20:32

It’s just awful she’s catching everything we are even getting things like hfm plus an ear infection and then it was an overlap between norovirus and strep throat. I don’t think it’s building immunity I used to keep telling myself it was but this was just too much

It is indeed shit to see them so poorly but removing her is genuinely unlikely to fix things. She's not got long until she starts school so whilst removing her now might seem logical you'll just find yourself back in the same situation in September.

carddino · 30/11/2023 20:41

I'm sort of mixed on this.

All my children are covid or just before so no mixing.

I withdrew the twins for this reason. I then faced bigger battles which are still ongoing.

The little two are being broken by bugs. The older ones are hardly in school.

I don't know what the answer is but I agree it is absolutely relentless

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Pinkcappucino · 30/11/2023 20:42

MissBuffyAnneSummers · 30/11/2023 20:37

You are just delaying it till school. She will catch everything then instead of now as she won't have built up immunity.

She wasnt building up immunity she was getting more and more run down. As far as I’m concerned building up immunity was done by her being breastfed and fully vaccinated etc and being so unwell so often and on antibiotics regularly isn’t good for her

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Pinkcappucino · 30/11/2023 20:43

YourNameGoesHere · 30/11/2023 20:41

It is indeed shit to see them so poorly but removing her is genuinely unlikely to fix things. She's not got long until she starts school so whilst removing her now might seem logical you'll just find yourself back in the same situation in September.

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I think if that happens I’d have to home educate as I’ve never seen any of my kids so ill it’s absolutely awful and relentless

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CalistoNoSolo · 30/11/2023 20:44

Sounds like she's massively run down and open to every virus and bug going. I think you're absolutely doing the right thing. She can always go back in the spring. My dd didn't go to nursery at all and it didn't do her any harm, quite the opposite in fact.

YourNameGoesHere · 30/11/2023 20:45

Pinkcappucino · 30/11/2023 20:43

I think if that happens I’d have to home educate as I’ve never seen any of my kids so ill it’s absolutely awful and relentless

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That's quite a drastic reaction to be honest. What if she wants to go to school like her siblings?

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Pinkcappucino · 30/11/2023 20:45

carddino · 30/11/2023 20:41

I'm sort of mixed on this.

All my children are covid or just before so no mixing.

I withdrew the twins for this reason. I then faced bigger battles which are still ongoing.

The little two are being broken by bugs. The older ones are hardly in school.

I don't know what the answer is but I agree it is absolutely relentless

I don’t think she’s even had a ‘normal’ cold. Never just a snotty nose and sneezing etc like my others , it seems to be high fevers and severe sore throats , awful mucus and coughs plus all the other things so it was the only option. Really hoping she gets a break now poor thing

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Autumnleavesarefallingdownagain · 30/11/2023 20:46

Honestly I just don’t think this is normal. Or I should say, I don’t recognise it. Neither of mine were sick like this when they started nursery at 2.5 and 3 respectively. There’s another thread about this sort of thing but I don’t understand it at all. I wonder if there’s any kind of relationship with diet, pollution (indoor or outdoor), whatever making many children’s immune systems compromised

CityLass · 30/11/2023 20:46

YourNameGoesHere · 30/11/2023 20:18

Honestly as shit as it seems it's totally normal, especially as she's not been in childcare until 3. I wouldn't have removed her to be honest, all that's going to happen is you're pushing the problem down the road and she's going to catch everything when she starts school in September. I'd far rather she missed nursery than school.

I never went to preschool or daycare and I wasn’t constantly ill when I started school at 5yo. The other children were similar as the mothers all stayed at home. This constant illness phenomenon only started when daycare and preschools became the norm.

Moveoverdarlin · 30/11/2023 20:46

You’ve done the right thing. Keep her warm and rested. Get her to drink well. I’d really spoil her, being sent in to nursery when you feel unwell must be miserable for her. She’d much rather be with you. To all the people saying you’re just delaying it until school, I would just ignore that. My daughter started in reception and I’m amazed at how little illness there is.

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Pinkcappucino · 30/11/2023 20:47

YourNameGoesHere · 30/11/2023 20:45

That's quite a drastic reaction to be honest. What if she wants to go to school like her siblings?

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She loved nursery when she was able to go but it got impossible as she was in for a day or two then off for 1-2 weeks .

Hopefully it won’t be the case but it had got to the point where the negatives far outweighed the positives unfortunately

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carddino · 30/11/2023 20:49

@Pinkcappucino totally the same. I look at other parents in awe who say oh it's just a cold, just a sick bug. NOT HERE. It's antibiotic or steroid, it's hospital for three days for sickness and swelling.

I cannot understand it. We live on a farm. They are outside, their diet is great, they were BF, except the twins because they were adopted and I was told I wouldn't have children then did.

They have vitamins, sambucal, they are vaccinated.

I cannot book anything, they will be sick. It's just awful.

Todaypicard · 30/11/2023 20:52

I also don’t think this is quite normal - certainly at the severity you describe. My daughter didn’t go to nursery, started preschool at 3 part time, and has now been full time at school September. She was unwell once at 10 months with a viral cold, then about twice more at preschool with a mild cold, and that’s it! Breastfed and continues to be!

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Pinkcappucino · 30/11/2023 20:53

carddino · 30/11/2023 20:49

@Pinkcappucino totally the same. I look at other parents in awe who say oh it's just a cold, just a sick bug. NOT HERE. It's antibiotic or steroid, it's hospital for three days for sickness and swelling.

I cannot understand it. We live on a farm. They are outside, their diet is great, they were BF, except the twins because they were adopted and I was told I wouldn't have children then did.

They have vitamins, sambucal, they are vaccinated.

I cannot book anything, they will be sick. It's just awful.

Same we have spent a small fortune on probiotics and vitamins etc. I was almost convinced the blood tests etc that the gp ordered would show something and everything was normal.
We make sure we do hand washing too but still so many stomach bugs . My other dc always got colds and had 2-3 days a bit grotty then fine but time in between each cold this is multiple things on top of each other. I just felt we needed a stop and reset and get her back to better health as she’s really run down

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carddino · 30/11/2023 20:54

I would and did do the same. I just don't know how to move it on now.