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Wine bar on my own

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vernatheraven · 26/11/2023 16:57

Just been the quiet wine bar by mine in my own. And had two glasses of red.

Read magazines, spoke to no one. Done some online Christmas shopping.

I'm going to do this once a month.

I loved it.

I do think it depends where you go but I loved that little two hour sanctuary on my own.

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vernatheraven · 26/11/2023 16:58

Am I weird I would you judge someone for this?

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OkayScooby · 26/11/2023 16:58

I think that sounds lovely

Perfectlystill · 26/11/2023 16:59

Being totally honest I probably would make assumptions but it sounds really nice!

GoudaThunkIt · 26/11/2023 17:02

Sounds like bliss. I may do this next week.

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vernatheraven · 26/11/2023 17:02

It was really nice it was spur of the moment needed to get out.

The bar tender helped me choose wine. He gave me three shots of wine to choose.

It was just nice. Maybe it was so nice as it was a one off.

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tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 26/11/2023 17:03

Perfectlystill · 26/11/2023 16:59

Being totally honest I probably would make assumptions but it sounds really nice!

Very curious what those assumptions are?!

Ragwort · 26/11/2023 17:03

Sounds lovely.. I miss wine bars, where abouts do you live? Haven't seen a good wine bar for years.

I wouldn't judge at all, apart from admiring your confidence to go out and not care about being alone.

Toesaresoweird · 26/11/2023 17:03

I would think good for her.

Would so do this myself. You've given me an idea!

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vernatheraven · 26/11/2023 17:03

Perfectlystill · 26/11/2023 16:59

Being totally honest I probably would make assumptions but it sounds really nice!

What assumptions would you make if I can ask please just want to see if any ring true to me

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tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 26/11/2023 17:04

Sounds fab though OP good for you. I absolutely think this should become regular You Time Grin

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vernatheraven · 26/11/2023 17:04

Ragwort · 26/11/2023 17:03

Sounds lovely.. I miss wine bars, where abouts do you live? Haven't seen a good wine bar for years.

I wouldn't judge at all, apart from admiring your confidence to go out and not care about being alone.

I live in the northwest major city.

Quiet part of where I live

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vernatheraven · 26/11/2023 17:12

tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 26/11/2023 17:04

Sounds fab though OP good for you. I absolutely think this should become regular You Time Grin

It deffo will.

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lesdeluges · 26/11/2023 17:14

What's the problem with doing this? Is there an assumption that women going to such places alone are on the pull or what? That's probably what a pp was hinting at.

I get so mad that a woman has to start a thread to justify using a public wine bar on her own. Honestly.

A man would not even blink going anywhere alone. But then again loose women do don't they? (joke but maybe it's a perception).

I do it all the time. I go to bars, wine bars, coffee shops you name it. And I don't even drink! Free country, but the drinks (especially non alcholic ones) are expensive lol.

Delatron · 26/11/2023 17:16

We would never judge a man sitting having a pint alone - so many do. It winds me up that people claim to ‘make assumptions’ about a woman in this way. I hope you extend whatever misplaced ‘assumptions’ to men too.

Anyway OP that sounds so lovely. Relaxing and a real treat.

The thimbleful of wine brigade will be on here any moment now to proclaim you have a drink problem.

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vernatheraven · 26/11/2023 17:16

lesdeluges · 26/11/2023 17:14

What's the problem with doing this? Is there an assumption that women going to such places alone are on the pull or what? That's probably what a pp was hinting at.

I get so mad that a woman has to start a thread to justify using a public wine bar on her own. Honestly.

A man would not even blink going anywhere alone. But then again loose women do don't they? (joke but maybe it's a perception).

I do it all the time. I go to bars, wine bars, coffee shops you name it. And I don't even drink! Free country, but the drinks (especially non alcholic ones) are expensive lol.

There shouldn't be a problem with doing this.

I didn't have one today. I loved it.

I'm going to do it again. Every month.

I didn't feel self conscious- that's on me though because I shouldn't anyway but it's not what we as women or me normally do.

You seem like you're already there! I'm getting there.

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Gobolino80 · 26/11/2023 17:21

I work a couple of evenings a week in wine bar and I wouldn't think twice about someone coming in on their own. One of our regulars comes down and sits on his own with his book whilst he has a couple of pints and another who is having an awful time with his elderly parents at the moment, comes in for a quiet pint before he goes home, I think he sees it as a bit of breathing space, he always has a bit of a batter when I'm serving him and then sits on his own.

VanityDiesHard · 26/11/2023 17:32

vernatheraven · 26/11/2023 16:58

Am I weird I would you judge someone for this?

Far from it. Back when I drank, wine bars were my indulgence. Sadly, I couldn't keep it to two glasses, which is why I don't drink any more. I wish that I was the sort of person who could drink moderately. As you are, you should enjoy your weekly treat!

TruthThatsHardAsSteel · 26/11/2023 17:32

Perfectlystill · 26/11/2023 16:59

Being totally honest I probably would make assumptions but it sounds really nice!

Why? What assumptions would you make? Would you think the same if it was a man? Genuinely curious

Floopani · 26/11/2023 17:34

2 glasses of red and three shots of wine with some peace and quiet sounds lovely!

I also highly recommend taking yourself out to dinner or to the cinema. Let the judgey people judge!

theduchessofspork · 26/11/2023 17:34

Perfectlystill · 26/11/2023 16:59

Being totally honest I probably would make assumptions but it sounds really nice!

Are you from the 70s?

I do this all the time OP (partly because I travel for work), it is bliss and as far as I can tell no one has made any assumptions other than I’m chilling out

VanityDiesHard · 26/11/2023 17:34

lesdeluges · 26/11/2023 17:14

What's the problem with doing this? Is there an assumption that women going to such places alone are on the pull or what? That's probably what a pp was hinting at.

I get so mad that a woman has to start a thread to justify using a public wine bar on her own. Honestly.

A man would not even blink going anywhere alone. But then again loose women do don't they? (joke but maybe it's a perception).

I do it all the time. I go to bars, wine bars, coffee shops you name it. And I don't even drink! Free country, but the drinks (especially non alcholic ones) are expensive lol.

OMG this. I am far less misandrist than the majority of Mumsnet, but that is one thing about some men which annoyed me to no end. I could almost set my watch by some CF trying to chat me up when I was out drinking. Either the barman or another customer. Highly annoying.

AuntieMarys · 26/11/2023 17:37

"Make assumptions " ...do tell!
What a ridiculous comment. Its something I do regularly and have done for years.

WilloTheWispy · 26/11/2023 17:39

When I’m out I often see women (and men) chilling on their own, with a paper, or a book, or listening to something, on their own. I always just assume they want some peace and me time! I’ve done it too.

I totally get it op. Glad you enjoyed it. 🍷

EllaPaella · 26/11/2023 18:30

I've done this a few times when I've been away with work. I really enjoy it and often see other people who are on their own in restaurants as well. Would love to know what 'assumptions' people might be making 🤣

blackbeardsballsack · 26/11/2023 18:37

I don't think that assumptions lady has been able to come up with any assumptions.

I can't think of a single assumption that I would make other than 'oh there's a woman drinking wine and reading magazines, she must have fancied a nice bit of wine and a little read. I fancy doing that myself'.