Do people with nice families...

[3LittleFishes]

Turn out emotionally incapable of weathering life's storms?
The people I know (so not a scientific sample size by any stretch) with nice, loving, supportive families are all very 'delicate'.
I am not talking about big things like bereavement or divorce, I mean the little things in life that are stressful or annoying.
People usually describe me as 'calm in a storm' and 'strong/unflappable '. I occasionally am described as 'hard' (which I don't like!) but what choice do I have, if the shit hits the fan there is only me to scrape it up!!
Am I right in thinking if people are cosseted by an adoring family they lose the ability to get on with things themselves?

In a real crisis I am very calm and capable but admittedly I can be a little bit 'delicate' with day to day stresses - e.g. rude person on the bus. I think because most of my day to day interactions are 'nice' I am always a bit taken aback by rude/shouting people.

I never argue back - I just always feel a bit sad after (occasionally have a little cry later at home)

I think it's the opposite. I have no one to lean on and I'm a nervous wreck. I'm always scared of what is going to throw a spanner in the works this week. It grinds me down.

Unsure, but I do know that the things that were a bit difficult in childhood like working around my dad's depression/mood swings, I struggle to deal with in my own relationship, I'm hyper aware of people's moods and can't stand them being mardy so we have to have it out, it makes me anxious and I can't just ignore it

But I overall had a fairly decent childhood, no abuse or neglect, and I'm quite good in difficult situations but aware I possibly come across as cold (for example a close family member is dying, but I don't tend to cry about it around others), my way of dealing with it is more 'what can I do/how can I help/make things better'. I'm worried about how I will come across when the time comes as I imagine I will be quite stoic and less emotional than the other family members, but in my mind someone has to hold shit together and be strong for the rest of them (I know that's not the case)

I think that a kind supportive and stable family often allows for being able to make significant life choices without the likelihood of homelessness or pennilessness. Look at the number of ladies on here who have no family to turn to when dealing with really abusive situations and end up with the choice of staying put or refuges or 27 year olds who suddenly can't afford their rent but know they will always have a bed at their parents (even if parents not together)