What stupid little inconsequential things do people you live with do that enrage you?!

[Fraca]

I live with adult Ds. By the kettle, I have a spoon rest with, unsurprisingly perhaps, a spoon on it. I leave the spoon there all day because I use it to stir my tea. In the evening it goes in the dishwasher. Adult ds knows this.

And yet, Every Time I go to stir my tea, my spoon has gone! Every. Time. I mean, tbf, I've probably only mentioned it a million times so I expect I should say it a bit more often. This morning, the absent spoon has catapulted me into a seething raging murderous mood.

Like I said, it's the little things ...

It’s a man thing because they are generally not responsible for washing and changing said tea towel, hand towel or bath mat.

Leaves underpants and socks in tiny little screwed up balls under the furniture and then complains that he has no clean underwear because the magic washing fairy hasn’t sought them out

He is a 47 year old man. Why does he do this?

also: when cooking, will never do the washing up but might soak a dish and leave it balancing half on half off the sink. So a potentially lethal ceramic baking tray filled with boiled water is just waiting there, casualty style, for a child or pet to tip it over

Definitely first world issue but my dh has a habit of mucking up a table and/or guest loo that has been prepared for guests, so he will serve drinks and let it dribble all over table cloth, or wash his hands and drop soap everywhere. Drives me mad!

He also blocks kitchen sink plug without clearing it out, doesn’t rinse out dish cloth or sponge after doing washing up, puts socks on floor by side of laundry basket (not inside it), and worst of all, folds up wet towels instead of letting them hang on designated hooks to dry out! Grrrrrrrrrr.

He also asks me every morning if I would like tea or coffee when I only drink tea when I wake up and we’ve been married for over 25 years 😂

And (on a roll now 😁😂) my sibling when staying with us manages to rummage in dw for a clean mug first thing while holding dripping coffee percolator jug over newly washed dishes and covers them in blotches of coffee grounds!

How 🤷‍♀️? And why 🙈?

My cleaner leaves the dirty cloths outside the washing machine , they are coloured you can't miss them- every week I say if someone is putting a wash on please put the cloths in too. Never done - it's only me.

DS - Wiping Toothpasty mouth on the communal hand towel in the bathroom. Why is it all over his face in the first place ffs?!
DH - Never washing pan lids properly and putting them away dirty. Said pan cupboard being stacked like he's had some sort of fit while doing it, lids and pans in total chaos... Aaaaagh! Never hoovering the edges of rooms just a vague going over the centre of rooms then making sure we all know about it. Never remembering to put bins out on bin day, I am solely responsible for remembering or they are forgotten. Never being able to find ANYTHING he's mislaid even after he's 'had a proper look'.
Leaving all his shoes everywhere (yes including right behind front door) for us all to trip over but still constantly losing them.
I love my partner dearly but my silent nickname for him is Mr halfarsed! 😭

DH empties the bins every bin day, but takes the upstairs bins downstairs to empty them. He doesn’t bring them back upstairs afterwards. They just fester in the hallway until I lose my shit.

Speaking of shit, I go to work in the morning just as DH and DCs are getting up. If one of DC has a messy poo, DH will just ignore the skid marks on the loo because ‘it’s not his’. But he was the adult ‘on duty’! 5 year olds can’t use a toilet brush FFS.

As we approach the day we food shop on, and food runs low, DH will sometimes order himself a takeaway for lunch (WFH) then let me scrabble round for a balanced dinner for us all.

I used to live with someone who would put the teaspoon down on the kitchen top NEXT TO THE SPOON REST 😱

I seem to be the only person in the house capable of binning empty toilet paper tubes.

Leaving dirty dishes in the sink, so every time the tap is used they fill up with water, and I have to pick up wet slippy dishes with bits of food floating in them, plus a tea bag or two decorating them, and put them in the dishwasher. Drives me mad. Just put them in the dishwasher or leave them on the side ffs.
Stock photo but a good example.

Weekend cutlery😂

Cupboard doors left open. Dirty pants left on bathroom floor. Everything put in the trolley in the supermarket is picked up, examined and then questioned if we need it. No, I was drawn by the attractive label of "Lidl Baked Beans" which really appealed to me so I bought it for decoration. 🙄🤦🏻‍♀️

DH never initiates putting stuff in the dishwasher just let's me do it, but then when I have loaded it will take stuff out and reorganize everything. Just do it all in the first place for goodness sake if you don't like the way I do it.

Usually unloads it and puts stuff away but says things like "where does the potato masher go?" . In the same drawer it's been in for the last 40 odd years.

Doesn't see the pile of recycling waiting to go out even though he has walked past it to go outside 27 times. Then in the 30 seconds it takes me to do it, he has piled more stuff there. Aarrgghh!

I love him dearly though.

Opens post, leaves letter AND torn envelope lying around, BIN it fgs

Never opens a new soap, I struggle with my arthritis and cannot manage it but he will prefer to use the tiny sliver of soap that is left rather than get a new one out

opens a drawer, leaves it open

loads dishwasher but will not wipe worktops or oven

I feel quite mean writing this one as it doesn't affect me in any way at all and I love DP more than cake....but....
The way he eats is just weird. For a start, everything must be eat with a knife and fork. Pizza, burgers, wraps, sandwiches, everything. Then, he gets some food on his fork, puts it in his mouth, then while he's chewing it...he sort of taps and chivvys the rest of the food around the plate. Not to anywhere in particular, just moving it. If its something like risotto, it all gets scraped back into a neat blob again while he's chewing. WHAT IS THE POINT?? I see his brain visually melting down when eating soup as there's nothing for him to fucking tap.

He's a spoony fucker too so suspect is co-morbidly forky fucker.

I'm sorry for disappearing, I had to leave home and distance myself from the offender or there would've been serious consequences.

Soooo many of these irritations apply here too and I am simultaneously sorry on all your behalfs, and glad to know I am not alone.

Pours a glass of fruit juice every morning, drinks it at the sink before sitting down for breakfast and leaves about a sixth of it in the glass. Walks away from the glass. Finish it, sling it or pour bloody less

No-one else besides me, knows that empty loo rolls go in the bin, not chucked in the corner

I pulled my son up about this once. He denied it was him and said "what am I? A kitten??"

DH’s howls of despair at mildly irritating events…spent all weekend running into kitchen/ living room etc to find such horrors as running out of semi skimmed milk ( I thought he’d cut his hand off) or misplacing the remote control ( seriously injured himself).

When he finally banged his leg against a table on Sunday evening ( which to be fair looked painful), I just rolled my eyes and walked away as he hobbled dramatically to the sofa.

DH only hoovers up crumbs that he sees, I.e the spot where the kids crushed crackers/biscuits etc right under his nose. The rest of the room gets left unvacuumed.

Actually gives me extra work to do

I might have to stab them.

You beat me to it.

Our bedroom is supposed to be an absolute sanctuary. All that is supposed to be in there is the bed, bedding and my beautiful vintage bar.

DH constantly clutters it up. It drives me bonkers.

Adult DS leaves drips of water across the kitchen floor every time he gets a drink .