Anyone else just really bloody struggling with life?!

[mumof1littlebun]

Not necessarily one big issue just lots of little ones making me feel like I am constantly struggling 😕

I really need to get on top of everything but just finding it all so hard. I have two young children, work part time but don't seem to be able to get on top of the house and have put loads of weight on since having ds2 but don't have the motivation to do anything about it, mainly cos I'm tired and fed up so it's a vicious circle

Yes. Am exhausted. Stage 4 cancer. Diabetes. Arthritis. Business owner with 20 staff. Uni course. Second job. Kids. Dogs. Cost of living. Debt. It's a shit show of a merry go round and I just cannot get on top of it all.

Am taking a leaf out of Dory's book and just keep swimming..........

Deep breaths OP. Your not alone. <unmumsnetly hug>

Yep. Struggling across the board. Sympathies.

Is there anyone else at home? Are they pulling their weight?

@ChocoChocoLatte sorry to hear your struggles. They are way worse than mine, I hope you are doing ok

@Screamingabdabz yep I have a dh but sharing household chores is a massive bone of contention in our house and also the mental load I carry, he just well, doesn't

Same here! Self employed, work far too many hours trying to keep business solvent but it's nose dived recently.

Always skint, feel like I'm failing my kids, house is a constant mess and memory and focus is shot to pieces!

But as they say, this too shall pass

Shit @ChocoChocoLatte that sounds full on I am sorry that you are going through so much. Sending you a virtual hug,

I was coming on to post to say my dad is in the hosp I have been suffering from stress migraines caused by worrying about my dad Xmas is coming and we don't have much money am self employed so can't get signed off sick, and now I am knackered and getting a stye, and can't fucking sleep.

@mumof1littlebun not at all, it's all relative and it's def not a competition. You just need to keep breathing, taking one step at a time and remember you don't have to achieve everything all at once.....

@notahincheratall being self employed sucks some times doesn't it. Sending best wishes to your Dad and soothing thoughts to your head.

Yes, feel thoroughly overwhelmed with life. Now on my own but with commitments and working full time, I just get on top of it all. The house desperately needs more than a lick and a promise but I don't have any energy or motivation

Yeah, life is overwhelming sometimes. It can feel like an endless 'to do' list and constantly beating yourself up for not getting through it.

It's almost the end of the year though, so hopefully some rest and relaxation coming up for many of us soon - keep going! 💪

I'm in a similar situation OP.

I think extra weight I put on in last couple of years is really affecting my energy levels. i have depression and comfort eat.

I have a couple of breaks from work over next 6 weeks but work is going to be horrific in 2024 because we don't have enough staff.

There’s just bloody too much to do in modern life.

In the past, houses were for cooking and sleeping after working outdoors. Now they are a whole branch of labour in itself.

What can you simplify? Is it an option to get a cleaner in? If your dh isn’t keen on doing his fair share maybe he could go without a few pints (or whatever) to pay for that.

With the weight, I’d suggest appreciating that it keeps you warm and put off any guilt on that score until it’s time to turn the heat off! It’s much easier to get outdoors with the dc in the summer and once you’re moving regularly for fun reasons it’s easier to capitalise on the motivation. But we’re supposed to be a bit more cuddly when we have small dc.

Yep! Have way too many balls in the air and keep dropping some. Cost of living is a nightmare. I try to channel Lin-Manuel Miranda in 'Mary Poppins Returns': "Soon the slump will disappear, it won't be long. Sooner than you think you'll hear a bright new song. So hold on tight to those you love and very soon from up above you'll be blessed, so keep on looking high." ❤️

@Nonplusultra the thing with the weight is that my diet is terrible and I'm feeling very unhealthy so as much as I want to lose weight I also really need to improve my health

@nutellacreppe I definitely have a never ending to do list which I am sometimes great at keeping on top of but at the minute feel so overwhelmed with it that I end up doing nothing!

I didn't sleep well last night so few don't feel like doing anything today even though the house is a tip, there's school uniform to iron and life admin to do 😫

@Frostythereindeer oh I definitely comfort eat 😕 every day I day I'll start again and end up eating rubbish cos I feel tired and down

I totally get this. I have been on my own with 2 DC since they were 0 and 2 (now 13 and 16) - gruelling but on the other had I often think (after talking to friends with partners) that exhausting as it may be - there is no one to resent about who does what.

But I agree that for a number of reasons - stress mainly - I don't look after myself. Everything goes into the DCs. I weigh 2 stone than I should. I no longer find the time (motivation) to go running like I used to. I feel like I have lost who I really am.

Sorry no advice just solidarity

Yes. I've had an ear infection and labyrinthitis for two weeks. I'm off work and it's a new job
and they are being off about it. The house is a state because if I don't do it no one does. I've got to finish some decorating and I can't because poorly. I'm behind with Christmas shopping and I'm fed up of doing it all for our DD's whilst ex h does fuck all (he's currently on holiday in Mexico), then moans when he has to pay for half their presents. We are having a big party for DD's big birthday in a few weeks and I'm behind on prep for that too. I'm worried about how to pay for everything (I don't get paid when I'm off sick). Dh's ex wife is being a spectacular pain in the arse (after three years she hasn't let up for a minute) and all four of our kids are being entitled and horrible at the minute. My dad has for dementia and I suspect so has my Mum. Fuck my life.

Also I am overweight. And if recently started to get on top of it with better diet and four times a week swimming which was working and I was enjoying. And which is what gave me the ear infection on the first place probably so that sucks.

I suspect if you can tackle your diet, you will find you have more energy to tackle other things. (From someone who has been there).

Start small. Don't remove anything from your duet, just add in (for example) 2L water and 5 fruit/veg per day. Or 2L water and one exceptionally nutritious meal per day. See if it makes any difference.

I am you OP. Learning to be very kind to myself and try to enjoy all the little things not stress about perfection. Make time for treating self and enjoying the children.

Totally empathise OP. I am WFH today and I have already:
Taken a call for an appointment for DC
Taken another call from school for DC
DH asking for a policy number he is unable to find (not sure why he thinks I have it readily to hand),
Currently providing support & care for a member of my staff who has messaged in today with a personal crises
I am planning/organising all of Xmas, we will host
Planning/organising a holiday booked for Jan
Usual home stuff of tidying/laundry & all the financial issues around bills etc
Dropping/picking up from school
I'm running interviews this week for a role in my team

.. as well as all the day to day off of cooking dinners/washing up etc

There are just too many pressures

Fed up here. Just generally. Eg: Of back pain, of fighting everyone constantly: of having to ring consultants secretary pre my next appointment only to find my dexa scan isn't in.

I do my job properly. Why isn't everyone else doing theirs?

@piscofrisco sorry you've got so much on.. if you're a newbie swimmer make sure you dry your ear canals after a swim..to get water out..a dry ear will never get infected!