How much do you hear your neighbours?

[Greeneyestoo]

Just that really, and if you do, how much does it bother you?

For context, we are mid terrace and constantly hear the male half of one side who very much likes the sound of his own voice. It drives me nuts. OH is less bothered usually but raises his eyebrows when he really shouts and hoots. I'd have not voluntarily chosen to live in a mid terrace but I moved in with OH so no choice really. We will move at some point, but curious about whether I'm odd or intolerant. Feels a bit intrusive and just really irritating when I can hear the neighbour over our TV.

Is it unreasonable to think you shouldn't be able to hear someone hollering all day long?? He is also a champion door and cupboard slammer!

We lived in a flat until last year and never heard a thing. Occasionally, if we were very very quiet, the sound of furniture shifting (you know how it sometimes has a loud squeak) could be heard.

Dunno about upstairs, but downstairs had a young boy. Not that we ever heard him!

Not much also mid terrace, hear the kid run up / down the stairs but they'll hear
Mine do the same.

Previously on one side we have had screeching arguments and sex in the bath, wasn't sad when they moved out.

I just accept it, we live in a terrace, I'd love to live in a detached in the middle
Of a field but can't afford it.

Not much thank god

One of the reasons I'm thrilled to be detached

People upstairs very quiet, in fact so are most people where I live. But I once had a corner house where I could hear next door's music as she was trying to drown out the people behind her. She seemed to have no concept that she was annoying us.

Best you can hope for is if either you or noisy bloke moves.

Thanks - we're planning to move out of town and upsize to a detached, mostly for more room but partly because neighbours are such a lottery. I probably am too sensitive so it's for the best really!

Mid terrace and the lady on one side has an incredibly loud laugh, and a lot of occasions to laugh (guests round, phone calls etc). It's very annoying but also obviously unreasonable of me to be annoyed. I'm a little envious of her great social life too 😂

All the time, but as its mostly laughing I can't bring myself to be too angry about it. The rare parties do make my blood boil and puts me on edge though.

We only hear the neighbour on the left when Manchester United are on the telly. Fortunately the 10 year old on the other side has given up the trumpet so we never hear a peep from them! Victorian terrace with thick walls though.

The screaming hell spawn next door..at least 6 hours a day, if you add it up, and generally starts the day before 7 am. I do not need an alarm clock. I'm one step away from calling social services for a welfare check as I know it's emergency housing and it's not normal. We've had lovely families in before with no issues like this.

I’m in a new build flat with neighbours above, below & next door & barely hear anything. There’s a family with two small kids next door & the people above have a dog - don’t know who’s underneath though.

Sorry to hear that @murasaki sounds terrible.

I know things could be worse, we nipped their loud music in the bud when they first moved in, thank god. I'm just surprised that some people are completely unaware of how noisy they are personally. Or maybe just don't care??

We live in a semi and a very quiet couple live next door, if their grandchildren are round you can just hear them but I think the walls are pretty solid. I did live in a flat years ago where you could hear everything and it drove me up the wall.

When we lived in a mid terrace, we initially had very little neighbour noise. Then the house next door sold and was developed so downstairs was open plan, all wood floors from carpet and they installed a metal spiral staircase. It massively increased the noise and meant we could hear it all over. They weren't particularly noisy and were very nice people, it was just the layout of the house. It also meant we got noise in our bedroom in the summer if we and they had their windows open; previously their dining room had been at the back of the house so was generally quiet by the time we went to bed.

Having said that, we moved when DC1 was one year old and still not sleeping, so the poor neighbours probably had a worse time than us in that final year!

We live in a very robustly built semi now and can't hear the neighbours inside our house and they say they can't hear us either (which is good because my kids are bloody elephants.
When we lived in a mid terrace we could hear the ones whose stairs that backed onto ours but only when their teenager had a strop on the stairs
Men's voices do tend to carry more as they are deep and we loose the ability to hear the higher pitches as we age, so we notice men's disproportionately.

Victorian flat and occasionally hear top floor as they go upstairs. Apart from that, could be in the place on my own for all I hear.

We're in a semi and don't hear the bloke next door too much - he's our age, 60s. Sometimes he taps out a tune on the kitchen worktop when he's happy

A lot, but less than it used to be. One side had older children with musical instruments and arguments. Those children are grown up now, so I just hear heavy feet on the stairs and non-stop barking dogs. The other side has a baby now which I hear, but luckily not in my bedroom. I don't hear any of it when the TV is on or if I have earphones in.

They mostly don’t care op.

We lived in an end terrace and could hear their every (long) phone conversation and we could watch our tv with the sound off because theirs was so loud. When we asked if they could mind the volume of their tv they kicked off and blared it louder and repeatedly slammed doors all night!

We moved. Sadly into a semi where we had the same issue, we just didn’t realise at first. The people we moved next to were super quiet. The people that moved in when they sold were not.

Happily detached now but I’m still quite traumatised by the last house and have a panic attack if people are outside in the street making a bit of a noise walking home from the pub. I just can’t lose the terror of those awful years waiting for the noise to kick off. I wish all the inconsiderate people were forced to live next door to each other, so they could suffer, and us quiet people could live next to other quiet people.

We're in a semi in quiet close.
We hear next door when our house is quiet, nothing too intrusive (not talking, but the occasional cough, or things being rearranged in their living room). I'm sure they hear us under the same circumstances (we both have primary aged children).

mid terrace - only hear one side when they hoover and it’s very faint, you have to be exceedingly quiet to be able to hear it.

The other side have thankfully moved out - we heard both their miniature dogs barking 24/7, heard them singing badly, all their visitors, all their conversations, their 2am - 4am arguments word for word, heard them shouting at their dogs at all hours, heard them doing diy (18 months worth and everyday including every weekend) and hoovering at midnight plus banging it doors and running up and downstairs like a heavy herd of wildebeest. To name just a few of their noisy and unsociable habits.

The entire street were happy to wave them goodbye!

We are mid terrace and hear one side alllllll the time! Get woken by their dogs barking, then have to listen to them screaming at the poor things. They argue with eachother frequently. The room adjoining our bedroom they use as an office so hear them on the phone, yawning, sneezing, can hear whole conversations etc. And they must have a room full of doors as hear doors being slammed constantly! They drive me mad! Even my kids have picked up on the arguing and shouting at the dogs. Other side occasionally hear the little girl having a tantrum, and they must have a dinng table/chairs pushed against a wall as we hear the screech as they are pulled out! Thankfully we only rent, Can't wait to move!

I was really worried about noise as recently moved into a mid terrace but it’s a big Victorian thing and don’t hear anything!
one of my previous houses was a semi and could hear ever single thing.

I am next door to students. I can hear them running up and down stairs, and their bathroom is next to my bedroom where I can hear the light being pulled. Otherwise not at all. They’ve had one party so far though when I was treated to much amusing conversation at midnight in that bathroom (someone called Caitlin was very sick).

We spent 20 years in a semi with about 2 feet between us and the next pair. We heard very little when inside but the perpetual summer barbecues got to us in the end.

Now, nothing. The house is gated within a gated road. There are 8 houses and we barely see a neighbour, let alone hear one. Occasionally a barking dog. I hate the isolation with a vengeance. it wasn't me that wanted to move

In my mid-terrace, very little.

The most noise I hear is when the guy next door has a man-sneeze (you know the kind) or a loud argument with his mum, which is infrequent.

I don't hear the other side at all unless they're outside in the garden.

The smell of weed, though, tends to waft in from both sides when I'm in my garden.