I absolutely despise the mornings and getting up.

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I’m 50 and I have never been a morning person but the older I am getting the more I am struggling with my morning routine.

DH alarm goes off at 5.30am which (even though he is quiet) disturbs me and I can’t fully return back to sleep. DS then gets up half hour later and is the noisiest person in the morning so after that I’m just snoozing on and off until I get up at 6.45. I then wake dd up (she hates mornings like her mother!). I will feel like a zombie for hours.

I long for the day when I can retire and slowly rise at my optimal time which is around 8-8.30am. Until that day, I will continue to hate every weekday morning!

All my friends are morning people and have no issue.

Anyone else like me, who loves their bed and lie-ins?

BeckhamSeven I have to do all my exercise in the early evening, my body feels like concrete in the mornings, even walking the dog around the block is hard going!

I feel your pain! I hate mornings and getting up and I’ve never been a morning person. I love my bed and just want to stay in it especially in the winter when it’s dark and cold. I have to drop dd to the school bus every morning and I hate it so much. I long for the day when there’s no more school bus and making packed lunches.

I genuinely struggle to wake up anytime before 8am. This is why I have a job that’s only 10 mins on the bus with a 10am start time. DD also goes to nursery 1-6 because I’m sorry, I can’t get her to nursery for a morning slot!

Hear! hear!

I'm exactly the same , absolutely hate mornings. Takes me an absolute age to feel awake and normal in the morning. I've always been like this no matter what time I go to bed I struggle to wake and get up. Even as a child I begged to be allowed to stay in bed rather than get up early to catch a flight to a dream holiday ! The rest of my family are morning people they leap out of bed in great form , chatting and full of energy . I just want to sit in silence with a coffee in the dark

Sadly our spare room is directly under our bedroom and beside our stairs, he would still wake me.
Dh isn’t the noisy one really, he does try hard not to wake me but I don’t sleep too heavily (think that’s been pre-programmed in me since having dc).
Ds is the problem, he gets up at 6am and it’s as though a herd of elephants have been let loose!

I’ll join. I can handle getting up after 7, if I must (after 8 is better) but anything before 7 is not daytime IMO.

DH and DC1 are the early risers in this house and I and DC2 are the slugabeds/night owls.

Admittedly I do go to bed far too late but if I go earlier I can’t get to sleep and then just get cross that I’m missing my evening!

I don’t know what will happen in retirement if DH and I don’t have anything we need to get up for. We’ll be like ships in the night.

Oh and OP: earplugs

they don’t block everything out fully but enough to be able to doze more deeply at least.

Totally with you on this. It isn’t the morning I despise though (it’s probably quite beautiful out there) but the way the whole of society is set up for morning people. You are seen as sick or abhorrent if you aren’t up and going for a run at 6.30. I’ve never been a lark but post menopause it’s got a lot worse. I fall asleep okay at around 12 but can’t stay asleep so end up reading through the night and sleeping in until 9 or 10. The clocks going back are a big gift to me, the extra hour really helps, winter is much easier generally, I dread summer and all that bloody light from 3.30am. Thankfully I’m self employed. I don’t make any appointments before 11 😃

I am very similar. Got a job where I can either work from home and flex my start time to suit.

I feel you pain OP, it's especially difficult during the cold dark winter mornings.

this isn’t the thread for me! i’m up with the larks. This morning to go for a run, but yesterday it was so i could potter around in blissful silence. And then an early (pre 6) walk with the dog. There is something quite heavenly about this time

I’m an absolute morning hater. Always have been. I once worked a job where I was covering the twilight shift, 2pm to 10pm every day. It was great, I got up at 8am and had the morning to potter round, shop, go to the gym etc, then work, then still a bit of energy left over before bed about 1am. I now live in Germany where the culture is very much an early riser one. 😣 This is not my way!

Why comment then?!

I think the perception of 'laziness' comes from a time before we lived in a 24 hour society.
Before the Internet you would have limited hours in the day to get things done, shops like the grocer or butcher only stayed open until 1/2pm in smaller towns (as the butcher had been up since 3am doing prep for the day!) You just wouldn't have been able to get supplies if you stayed in bed until noon.
It is still relevant for a lot of us today, I start work at 8am, my kids start school in another county at 8.40am so we all need to be out of the house before 7.30am. Whether we like it or not we have to be early risers.
The 'late to bed, late to wake' people I know are lazier than the early risers, part of the reason this pattern appeals to them is because of how quiet the evenings are, they don't actually have to do anything.
Most of the early risers I know spend their days running around getting things done before going to bed early exhausted and ready to do it all again the next day!

I’m just an I love my bed person. I go to bed at 9 with a book, lights out at 9:30 then wake up at 6 but don’t crawl out of my lovely warm bed until getting on for 8. I’m better in summer but at this time of year it’s pitch black at 6am (I live in Spain so it’s darker in the morning here than in England). Bed is just lovely - coffee and cats. Perfect!

someone got out of bed on the wrong side! ☕️

Dawn is a really magical time of day and it’s true that us night owls miss out. I only ever witness it once or twice a year! I’m always amazed and in awe on those rare occasions.

I am also a night owl, as is my DD. Natural sleep time is around 12-8 or 1-9.

If I have to get up at 6:30 or before, my entire day is wasted as I can barely keep my eyes open let alone function.

There is no way I could do exercise at 5 or 6 am. Physically it feels like being woken from a deep sleep in the early hours.

Me too.

I have chronic insomnia. Well, I think I have delayed sleep phase syndrome as if I go to bed at a time that suits me (early hours of the morning) I can fall asleep quickly. When I worked shifts, the 7.00pm- 2.00am suited my body clock fantastically.

Now, I'm always sleep deprived and want to cry when my alarm goes off. Especially in the winter. I woke up this morning with a 'tired headache' and feel crappy. I will wake up early evening and be wide awake when I should be getting tired!

5:30am is the middle of the night as far as I’m concerned 😆 even worse in winter.
I feel your pain @RedorangeyellowBLACK
Ive always hated early mornings, hated being dragged out of bed for the school bus as a teen and resented always having to be at work at 9 as society dictates.
Happily now I home educate my DC and waking up when our bodies like is one of the perks. I appreciate it so much and do not take it for granted at all.

I had to get up at 5 recently and it threw me off for days! Can your DH get a Fitbit/smart watch? Alarms on those are silent vibration on the arm of the wearer, I find them much better at waking me and it doesn't disturb DH at all. At the moment you're being woken at 5:30 every morning, even just waking at 6:45 would be an improvement

I’m so with you there. I adore my bed, it my absolute sanctuary.
And I do so miss my cats snoring gently next to my.

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Can I recommend Loop Silent earplugs. My DH gets up earlier than me and drives me mad banging around and drying his hair etc. He also snores. I resisted earplugs for ages because they were uncomfortable and fell out, and also why should I be uncomfortable when he’s causing the problem?
I finally gave in and got the Loop ones and they’ve been amazing. I can hear my alarm still, but his doesn’t wake me, and if it does I can easily fall back asleep because it’s not followed up by loads of getting ready noise. I’m so much happier since I got them and much less tired.

Me! I've never been a morning person, but I really do struggle to be any use before about 10am. I'm up at 7am on week days to give DC breakfast and get them ready for school but it just seems to get harder the older I get, I'm 40 so by no means old.

100% agree with this!

Helenahandkart minipie I have tinnitus, sadly earplugs amplify the screeching!