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Breastfeeding newborn when have a toddler

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Mamato29192 · 11/11/2023 20:35

Want to know experiences of this. Did your toddler get jealous at all? Was it okay? Did you tandem feed. My son only has boob on a morning now will he up it when he sees his sister on the boob loads? What's it like really breastfeeding 2. Is it hard. Easy?

I just don't know what to expect and want to be prepared. Not gonna lie little stressed lol.

Tia 😊

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HBZ287 · 11/11/2023 21:05

Toddler had almost finished breastfeeding when his brother was born. He then wanted to feed as much as the baby, and every time the baby did. But that only lasted a couple of weeks, then he was back to only feeding every couple of days or so. The easiest way was to be topless on the sofa for the first fortnight! It’s exhausting but won’t last forever. Benefit for the baby is they don’t have to wait for your milk to come in, so shouldn’t drop too much weight from birth.

Make sure you drink and eat enough to keep up with demand!

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Mamato29192 · 11/11/2023 21:11

HBZ287 · 11/11/2023 21:05

Toddler had almost finished breastfeeding when his brother was born. He then wanted to feed as much as the baby, and every time the baby did. But that only lasted a couple of weeks, then he was back to only feeding every couple of days or so. The easiest way was to be topless on the sofa for the first fortnight! It’s exhausting but won’t last forever. Benefit for the baby is they don’t have to wait for your milk to come in, so shouldn’t drop too much weight from birth.

Make sure you drink and eat enough to keep up with demand!

Glad to hear it didn't last too long. Aww that's good to know. Oh I will. The thirst and hunger was awful! But will make sure I've got water and snacks next to me. Thank you 😊

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Mamato29192 · 11/11/2023 21:11

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HBZ287 · 11/11/2023 21:15

Oh, and just remembered: I felt massively touched out by both of them feeding at the same time, and there were times when I had nursing aversion to the older one as his latch / feeding felt much stronger. I had to keep remembering he was also still my baby.

Bey · 11/11/2023 21:19

Following as I'm wondering the same thing. When are you due? How old will your toddler be when babies born?

im only very early but my toddler will be 22 months when baby arrives. He currently still feeds so much and I'm really not ready to stop any time soon. Ideally I'd like to have stopped before baby arrives but I'm open to tandem feeding although nervous at the thought

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Mamato29192 · 11/11/2023 21:25

HBZ287 · 11/11/2023 21:15

Oh, and just remembered: I felt massively touched out by both of them feeding at the same time, and there were times when I had nursing aversion to the older one as his latch / feeding felt much stronger. I had to keep remembering he was also still my baby.

I will keep that in mind. Thank you

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Mamato29192 · 11/11/2023 21:26

Bey · 11/11/2023 21:19

Following as I'm wondering the same thing. When are you due? How old will your toddler be when babies born?

im only very early but my toddler will be 22 months when baby arrives. He currently still feeds so much and I'm really not ready to stop any time soon. Ideally I'd like to have stopped before baby arrives but I'm open to tandem feeding although nervous at the thought

I'm due Christmas eve and my toddler is 19 months. I am nervous about it too. Just for the fact he's gonna up his feeds. Just hope it doesn't last too long.

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roarrfeckingroar · 11/11/2023 21:27

I stopped breast feeding my first when he turned 2 because I was 5 months pregnant. There was enough time between ending feeding him and starting with newborn for him not to be fussed at all. He was interested in what I was doing but not jealous.

karmakameleon · 11/11/2023 21:28

I tandem fed and to be honest it was the worst part of breastfeeding for me. DS1 was 25 months when DS2 was born and I’d been trying to encourage him to give up. When his brother arrived he decided that there was no way he was going to stop. I felt completely touched out and actually a bit blergh about feeding him. I did manage to convince him that his brother really needed it for food so he had to let him go first but at every feed he’d sit and watch wistfully, waiting for his turn. For those first few weeks I just basically fed one, then the other and then start again. It was horrible but it did help deal with a lot of toddler jealousy about his new sibling so I went with it. I tandem fed for a year in the end when DS1 seemed to lose his latch. He started to complain that the milk wasn’t coming and cut back and then stopped. His brother carried on for a few more months and stopped when I became pregnant with DS3.

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Mamato29192 · 11/11/2023 21:29

roarrfeckingroar · 11/11/2023 21:27

I stopped breast feeding my first when he turned 2 because I was 5 months pregnant. There was enough time between ending feeding him and starting with newborn for him not to be fussed at all. He was interested in what I was doing but not jealous.

Aww that's good. Since he only feeds the once and I've got 6 weeks to go I might wean him off completely. I don't know if that would be best. That's good to know. Thank you for your comment

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Bey · 11/11/2023 21:31

Mamato29192 · 11/11/2023 21:26

I'm due Christmas eve and my toddler is 19 months. I am nervous about it too. Just for the fact he's gonna up his feeds. Just hope it doesn't last too long.

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Good luck and congratulations
:)

I am hoping that if he does want to feed when the baby does at least it may keep him still for 5 as he's already constantly on the go 😬

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Mamato29192 · 11/11/2023 21:34

karmakameleon · 11/11/2023 21:28

I tandem fed and to be honest it was the worst part of breastfeeding for me. DS1 was 25 months when DS2 was born and I’d been trying to encourage him to give up. When his brother arrived he decided that there was no way he was going to stop. I felt completely touched out and actually a bit blergh about feeding him. I did manage to convince him that his brother really needed it for food so he had to let him go first but at every feed he’d sit and watch wistfully, waiting for his turn. For those first few weeks I just basically fed one, then the other and then start again. It was horrible but it did help deal with a lot of toddler jealousy about his new sibling so I went with it. I tandem fed for a year in the end when DS1 seemed to lose his latch. He started to complain that the milk wasn’t coming and cut back and then stopped. His brother carried on for a few more months and stopped when I became pregnant with DS3.

I've got a feeling if I try to stop it he won't. He only feeds the once. That's what I'm going to tell him that it's his sisters food. Good to know it helped with the jealousy. Thank you for this. It's nice to know other experiences

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Mamato29192 · 11/11/2023 21:35

Bey · 11/11/2023 21:31

Good luck and congratulations
:)

I am hoping that if he does want to feed when the baby does at least it may keep him still for 5 as he's already constantly on the go 😬

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Thank you and congratulations to you too 😊

Yeah that's a good point haha. I just know my son will want it every time his sister does.

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headcheffer · 11/11/2023 21:36

roarrfeckingroar · 11/11/2023 21:27

I stopped breast feeding my first when he turned 2 because I was 5 months pregnant. There was enough time between ending feeding him and starting with newborn for him not to be fussed at all. He was interested in what I was doing but not jealous.

This was the same for me.

gentlemum · 11/11/2023 21:43

I'm in the same situation, 5 months pregnant and my son will be 23 months when new baby arrives. I initially was keen on tandem feeding but my milk has definitely dried up and toddler still nurses for comfort and I'm getting a bit of an aversion to it and especially to him constantly twiddling my nipples. I'm worried if I carry on and go to tandem feed I'm going to find it hard and I don't want to have any negative feelings towards my toddler as really he is still just a baby too. But he gets so much comfort from it now I don't know if I want to wean.. feeling really torn!

roarrfeckingroar · 11/11/2023 21:43

@Mamato29192 glad I could help. I really didn't want to tandem feed. It was amazing how quickly DS1 forgot.

karmakameleon · 11/11/2023 21:54

Actually, I do remember another positive about tandem feeding. It did help with some common breastfeeding problems like engorgement and blocked ducts. Basically the toddler sorted it out. I also didn’t have to worry about supply in the early days and sore nipples weren’t such a problem as they had been with DS1.

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Mamato29192 · 11/11/2023 22:47

Thank you for all the comments. Will reply to the ones I haven't in the morning. Eyes are getting heavy 😴

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HaveALaff · 11/11/2023 22:52

My milk dried up around 7 months of pregnancy. DS1 was around 1yo then. He was 16 months when DS2 was born.

He was quite small, so was not jealous but he did get really upset at me ignoring him. It took 2 weeks for him to get used to it and it's all fine now.

RinklyRomaine · 12/11/2023 05:19

My toddler pretty much weaned himself at 20 months, had his last feed ten days before his brother was born. I think the milk slowed right down and altho it felt early, I had terrible aversion by then and wasn't upset. Once the baby arrived, he decided he was a big boy and didn't need the baby's milk and that was that. A bit sad, as his brother weaned a lot later, but also a relief. Good luck! DD is a Christmas baby and still loves it.

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Mamato29192 · 12/11/2023 09:29

gentlemum · 11/11/2023 21:43

I'm in the same situation, 5 months pregnant and my son will be 23 months when new baby arrives. I initially was keen on tandem feeding but my milk has definitely dried up and toddler still nurses for comfort and I'm getting a bit of an aversion to it and especially to him constantly twiddling my nipples. I'm worried if I carry on and go to tandem feed I'm going to find it hard and I don't want to have any negative feelings towards my toddler as really he is still just a baby too. But he gets so much comfort from it now I don't know if I want to wean.. feeling really torn!

I've had no aversion yet but I know it could change once the baby is here. My son gets comfort from it too. I'm just going to keep doing what he wants for now

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Mamato29192 · 12/11/2023 09:30

roarrfeckingroar · 11/11/2023 21:43

@Mamato29192 glad I could help. I really didn't want to tandem feed. It was amazing how quickly DS1 forgot.

You really did 😊 appreciate it. I wouldn't mind doing it. But I could feel differently when baby is here. He might wean completely before she's born. Who knows. I'll follow his lead.

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Mamato29192 · 12/11/2023 09:33

HaveALaff · 11/11/2023 22:52

My milk dried up around 7 months of pregnancy. DS1 was around 1yo then. He was 16 months when DS2 was born.

He was quite small, so was not jealous but he did get really upset at me ignoring him. It took 2 weeks for him to get used to it and it's all fine now.

That's good to hear. Glad it's all fine now. Good to hear other experiences. I just hope my son won't be jealous.

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Mamato29192 · 12/11/2023 09:34

RinklyRomaine · 12/11/2023 05:19

My toddler pretty much weaned himself at 20 months, had his last feed ten days before his brother was born. I think the milk slowed right down and altho it felt early, I had terrible aversion by then and wasn't upset. Once the baby arrived, he decided he was a big boy and didn't need the baby's milk and that was that. A bit sad, as his brother weaned a lot later, but also a relief. Good luck! DD is a Christmas baby and still loves it.

Aww that's good to see that not all toddler's want the boob when baby is here. That's fair enough to feel that way. I've had no aversion yet but could still change. Thank you and that's good 😊

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Mamato29192 · 12/11/2023 10:19

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