No good deed goes unpunished- your examples

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Going through an issue with a family member, would have just have been easier to say NO the request right at the start. Got no thanks for what we did do and are the bad guys for not doing or agreeing to more.

Neighbours asked my DP to order them a new tv from ebay, which he did, and they gave him the money (not sure why, but they do everything in cash, so never order on-line themselves). When it arrived, he handed it to them. The next day they dumped the box it came in on the pavement. Of course, it had DP's name and address on it, and he has now received a £400 fine from the Council for flytipping. Neighbours pleading poverty and DP unwilling to tell the council what happened in the name of good neighbour relations.

I helped an old lady who’d fallen off the pavement and offered her a lift home. Once she was in my car she told me that I had to drive her home, 200 miles away, because her daddy would be waiting for her. I said 200 miles was a long way so she said I should take her to the train station and got her purse out to pay for the ticket but it was full of buttons and milk bottle tops.
I took her to the local police station who hopefully tracked down which care home she’d absconded from. She wet herself on my car seat.

I saw a man fall and smash his face. I asked DH to give him a lift home. The fella was drunk and pissed in DH's car. I was in the dog house.

My 90+ year old aunt isn't very nice but I am the only person in the family who helps her. I do her shopping, change her bed and wash her bedding, take her to all her medical appointments, take her clothes shopping, out for lunch or coffee or a drive, have her to our house for lunch/tea, organise workmen to complete jobs, help her with support systems eg carers, social worker. She has always been demanding and difficult.
A couple of weeks ago she told a social worker infront of me and her cleaner that I am no help, I do nothing for her and she prefers her neighbours. She has no cognition problems.
I've had enough. 😁

I used to run a B&B and DH took a booking for a young girl who was doing work experience at a specialist place about five miles from us. There was no public transport and she didn't drive (neither did DH). I'd never driven there before and didn't know the road.

He negotiated with her mum that I would drive her for an amount... which covered the speeding fine I got on the first morning. I was doing 47 in a 40 which is ironic because I thought it was a 60 and I thought I was being careful and I never (knowingly) speed 🙄

Still irks.

In the middle of my food shop sprang to help a man who'd had a major heart attack.

Threw my coat to the floor, did CPR , liaised with emergency services. Managed to resuscitate him long enough for him to get to hospital (sadly he died later on).

Then realised that the paramedics had scooped up my winter coat along with his belongings.

Never saw it again and had to go out and buy a new coat.

Still worth it though and I'd do the same again. So not sure if it falls into your 'No good deed goes unpunished' category or not.

Paid for the bloke in front of me at the M6 toll as his card wouldn’t work. Barrier lifted for me so I drove through, got fined for not paying. 🖕🏼

@LuluBlakey1 are you in her Will??

Another one where I was the recipient of the good deed.

Working at a pub out of town. Huge, unexpected dump of snow. All buses stopped so the Landlady offered to give me a lift home. We skidded, hit a lamp post and wrote off the car that they'd only had 2 weeks and hadn't finished paying for.

Turned out landlord was a multiple convicted drink driver and unbeknownst to the landlady (his wife) the car wasn't insured. They had to buy another car. 😮😞. I felt so guilty.

When my dgm died her dd my aunt was in a wheelchair with MS and still living at home .. She lived 50 miles away and expected me to get the bus or a lift with dc whenever she demanded - I did for a few years... . I declined a Christmas visit as my dc was due Christmas eve.. She blanked me after that. Full stop. Not even a call to ask after the dc.. We were her only family. ..she left her entire belongings and that of my dgm- to her carer... Not sure how that woman was allowed to or slept at night..

Single parent of primary aged children, own successful business. Took on an employee who seemed great but he was really stuck financially, I knew of him so thought I'd give him a chance. Turned out he was very lazy and almost cost me a lawsuit years after he'd gone.

£10,500k loan that he took out against the company for a car...then he vanished. He's now a Talk Sport Radio presenter.

No 😁It's all going to animal charities- which I fully support.

My mum devoted her whole life to her family…I am talking mum, dad and sisters in every way possible Grandad died 6 years ago and granny moved in with mum so she didn’t have to go to a care home. granny died 7 months ago and my dad 10 weeks ago. My aunts haven’t been near my mum since they received their payout from the will.

my mum (unbeknown) had been paying her sisters rent for the last 8 years!!! I found out and put a stop to it.. the cheeky beggars wouldn’t even pay for their own mothers headstone, me and mum had to fit the lot, pay for the funeral and all the other expenses while also then burying my father!

Ive genuinely never seen anything so evil and hurtful in all my life.

@LuluBlakey1 I hope you r now withdrawn all assistance.

Tbf I wouldn't be happy if you forced me to take some random smackhead home in my own car

Once held a door open for a wheelchair-bound woman, was clearly one of the progressive 'blue hair and pronouns' type people who loved finding things to get offended by. I held door open because i'm a polite, decent human being

She gave me a right earful about how i shouldnt take pity on her for being disabled etc. etc. Wish I slammed the door in the mare's face

This is very sad. Your poor mum 😞

Nothing so awful as other posters, but everytime I put in extra effort to help somebody you'd politely describe as a little testing at work with things like reports, answering their barked questions nicely, setting up automated systems to make their life easier, that kind of thing, they use it as proof that it's never been their responsibility, it's mine and I'm trying to palm it off on them.

Management are fairly used to it, but whenever there's a new starter, I have several months of dealing with yet another person initially totally convinced that I'm a mean and workshy twat picking on a helpless victim.

I have. I feel guilty - but this is a pattern with her and our family. I am the only one left apart from a cousin 300 miles away. She is highly manipulative but alone.

@Toddlerteaplease

We were in holiday in the UK , the other side of the country to where we live . We were the first at the scene at a very nasty car crash . I was comforting one of the drivers trapped in their seat while Dh called the ambulance. Once all the police and ambulances came we were blocked in . Made statements and found out that our hazard warning lights had drained the battery of our car . Asked the police if they had jump leads we could borrow and they said no they don’t carry them . We were stuck for 4 hours with a child and dog in the car waiting for the AA long after everyone else had left .

@mushroommummy why did she pay their rent?

@OldTinHat Googling TS presenters..

@ebts what? Did the neighbour know you paid their fine?

Well presuming she cared for her and had more of a relationship with her than you did, don't see what's wrong with her leaving her things to whoever she pleases?