Is there such thing as 'the one' when it comes to relationships

[DeepFriedKermit]

And how did you know you'd found them?

No. There is no such thing.

If 'the one' means the person you want to spend the rest of your life with then yes.

But with over 7 billion people in the world, there'll be more than one person suitable to do it with.

You’ll just know when it happens.

Yes there is.

I think yes.

No. There are plenty of "ones" you just need to meet one of them.

Absolutely, I've been with my partner 12 years and he is absolutely the one.

No. Real life isn't a cheesy romance film.

No I don't think so

There's so much luck involved it's more
Like the "right now" than the one

If there was only one how could you possibly meet them? Generally, people find relationships and fall in love quite easily. They may not always make the best choices but that isn't because there's one perfect person out there that they missed.

No. I love my DH and can't imagine being with anyone else. But there are probably plenty of other people I'd feel the same way about if I'd happened to have met them at the right time/place.

So you guys who think yes - presumably you haven't met the one? Because it would be an absolute miracle for me to have met that one in 8 billion. I tried out seven and then picked DH. A good guy. But heck no way he's going to be even top 10 if you consider the whole 8 billion. He's a bit prematurely grey for a start.

No. The one that suited me in my teens was very different to the one in my 30s.

No, I love my DH and I'm very happy with him but I'm sure if we hadn't met I'd have been happy with someone else.

I think it’s an unhealthy myth personally
and drives some unhealthy behaviours

I think enjoy the one you are with , when you are with them

For me yes but pure luck if you meet them. For many there's someone who'll do. Same goes with women I suspect, no doubt many of us are 'meh, she'll do' as far as our partners are concerned.

The one you think is 'the one' quite often isn't in my experience. Mine came along when I'd given up all hope and was all set to spend out my remaining years living with cats 🤣

Well there are lots of potential ‘the ones’, but the one who turns out to be the actual one for you is the right person at the right time

Also, I met him whilst shopping in a supermarket. I was buying creme fraiche- but he always tells the story of how we met and tells people it was femme fresh so now everyone thinks I have a smelly foof. Ace.

No such thing, I agree

Tim Minchin’s “If I Didn’t Have You” sums it up for me. 😊

I agree with this.
I love my DH, I have no interest in finding anyone different. He’s not perfect but then neither am I.
If I’d never met him or met him at a different time in life then I hope there would have been someone else who I could also build a happy life with.

No, I think there are several (probably several million) people in the world you could have a happy long relationship with. I don’t believe you can guarantee it will be lifelong though

I don't think I could ever feel the same way about anyone else as I do about my husband. Meeting him was the biggest stroke of luck I was ever given in my life. Together 16 years now, since we were 20 years old, and I truly believe he's the one.

You will never feel ‘the same’ about another person, that’s true. All relationships are different.
But you have no clue what other ‘luck’ you might have had if you’d not met him.