I've gained over a stone since summer, again 😭

[ChubbyFunsta]

First 5 months of the year consisted of me loosing weight for a summer holiday.

Since then I've gone from 11st to 12st.

My scales were broken and we're showing me at closer to 11st and although I felt heavier and clothes felt tighter I just trusted the scales in a blissful state of denial.

New scales and checking the old ones with weights confirm.

I'm so pissed off with myself.

I've had a bloody gastric sleeve and I still can't keep my weight under control.

Now I'm thinking about all crash diets and VLCDS to lose a stone before christmas.

Im so fed up with myself.

I had to lie down this morning to do up my jeans.

I’m totally with you.

It's just a constant battle isn't it?

Lifelong.

Doesn't help that my husband can eat like a horse all day long and never moves past 10.5st, yet I look at a pack of hobnobs and gain 2lbs.

You could be a bear. Have you checked that recently?

I have allowed my legs to become inhumanly hairy 😯

There you go!

Same… I spent 6 weeks losing only 5lb for hols and put it back on in a week, I wasn’t even that bad! Just had ‘normal’ food and no snacks and hardly any alcohol…
Its hard to keep motivated :( when I was younger I’d lose 4 or 5lb in my first week on slimming world!

I'm already sat here wanting a piece of toast 😐

The only way realistically to lose weight and sustain it is to fundamentally look at your lifestyle/food choices and change them permanently.

Making drastic changes and crash diets are miserable and that's why they aren't sustainable because we fall back into old bad habits.

This usually means the weight takes a bit longer to come off, but it generally stays off.

@FrangipaniBlue is correct. I took this path several years ago, it took a while to get the weight off, but it has stayed off. You can still enjoy the things you love, just in moderation. I understand that it's not easy in the beginning to change habits, but hang in there and you should see results. Patience is key (something that I don't have much of myself!).

I try to stick to the 80/20 rule...80% healthy eating and 20% treats etc. It is working for me. Good luck!

You have to learn how to stablise once you have lost weight - and once you have lost weight you need to eat less than you need to be stable at a heavier weight

Eating "normally" isnt the solution because that's what put the weight on in the first place

(To. Pp) You might need about what half your husband need if he's large and active

Eating healthy food only works if you eat healthy portions

I shocked myself the other week - thought I'd make up a batch of scones , had a recipe from the 80s. It said it made 12 scones - o only got 8 scones and they looked tiny - we are so used to everything being much bigger than it used to be

To the pp who looks at the hibnobs- do you eat one or two a day or many more ?

I don't eat more than 2 because I have a gastric sleeve and they make me throw up if I do 😂

It's just poor diet and no exercise

The key for me is to not have lots of foods that I can't resist in the house, but to allow myself to eat what I want when I want to. Sounds confusing but if I do a food shop I'll buy myself some nice chocolate, cakes etc and enjoy them at home, but I won't keep a big stock in as I tend to binge. So nothing is out of limits but I do need to make the effort to buy the foods I can't resist. When I buy snacks for my husband and son it's usually stuff I don't like so much. That way it isn't a temptation.

The key for me is exercise. If I get lazy and stop working out I gain weight, regardless of what I do or don’t eat. I lost a lot of weight a couple of years ago and have kept it off by running 2-3x a week and lifting weights 2-3x a week plus walking 15-30k steps a day. If I didn’t move around this much, I’d definitely have regained a lot of it. It’s great because I can still eat chocolate every day.

Yes, exercise does help, I'm now walking for 2 hours a day.

@Sartre that's a great lot of exercise but how on earth do you fit it all in in a day/week though ? this week I will do as many 5/6k runs as possible at the gym, WFH all day so no time to do lot of steps every day. When it's bright and sunny I like to go for a 2.5 hour walk, it's around 7-8 miles.

I agree with this! They say you can’t outrun a bad diet but regular exercise has definitely been the key to weight management for me.

I'm unclear if you are wanting support to change the situation or just wanting to vent. If you are wanting support I'd be happy to share what worked for me but I don't want to put that on you if you're not wanting that at this time.

I think perhaps you need to lose the mindset of 'losing weight for a Summer holiday' and 'losing weight for Christmas'.

You don't want to bet stuck in a 'gain/lose, gain/lose' cycle.

As always it's lifestyle choices that need to change and become regular but it's incredibly difficult I know.

I know what the problem is. I'm an emotional eater, I'm a sugar addict, I'm lazy and I use food as a comfort.

Even after having weightloss surgery I still do the same things just in much smaller doses but it's obviously still enough to make me gain.

My whole adult life has been a cycle of weight loss and weight gain.

I'm just tired of myself.

I would love to hear what helped you, I want to sort it but just can't see anything changing. It hasn't in 25 years so far

I've lost 7 stone, well 6 now! I don't want to regain anymore.

Yes I agree with @TheresaCrowd, my most successful weight loss has been just because I was fed up and didn't feel like myself. I didn't manage it for a wedding, a holiday or summer. I'm not sure if the pressure of "need to lose X amount by Y date" just completely put me off or my head wasn't properly in the game but I've lost the stone I wanted to steadily and kept it off so far. Also with no specific goal to work towards, there's no feeling of "I've finished that now, get the pizzas in!".

I thought that not having an event or similar in mind that I wouldn't be motivated at all, but it worked for me.

what worked for me - vanity - a goal - a limited period to be intense and `intermittent fasting

Yes - I did lose weight for a college reunion - found it motivating and it was fab... 20lbs in 12 weeks... looked great in sexy black jumpsuit

Yes ... I did do intense - Michael Mosley 800 pd for 12 weeks, knowing it was just 12 weeks and he says any longer and your body adapts to reduced calories

And intermittent fasting, fairly low carb/reasonable protein and Lots of veggies/berries is what has kept it off... really works for me... Yes maintenance often tougher than losing it. I do a range of eating windows from 30 minutes to 9 hours... I am post menopause so have to be strict... BUT what makes it easy for me is feeling full and satisfied when I eat, being able to eat with mates and being able losing 3 or 4 lbs fast if they come on over a sociable weekend.

and investing lots of time - 30- 120 mins a day -

I knew I had a life long problem so worth investing this to sort it.... noting everything I ate, planning what I would eat, reading lots online to keep me motivated, strong accountability systems - a dieting buddy, reporting weight and steps daily to husband (who as instructed to say nothing unless celebrating my achievement), joining weightless groups online (facebook, mums net)...

And feeling PROUD of my achievements

YOU have done amazingly - you lost 7 stone, and have kept 6 of them off - a huge huge achievement. And you only put on the 14lbs as you thought you weren't....

How about setting a more realistic goal for Xmas and using it as a motivator, while knowing you are aiming to lose for life... eg 8 or 10 lbs... imagine what you are going to wear, how good it is going to feel when you've lost it etc.... And then have the goal of keeping it off during those xmas weeks... and lose the last 4lbs or so sometime in the spring??

You've lost 6 stones. 👏 WTF are you down on yourself?

Because it's such a struggle to keep it off? And in just a few months I've gained a stone back.

If I don't battle it yet again I'll end up up 18stone again.

Yes it's an achievement but it's not finished. I don't think I'll ever naturally stay slim

I'm 10 years out from a sleeve gastrectomy, and my advice is to put your sleeve to work as it was designed. Protein Protein Protein. Make sure you're drinking enough, reduce carbs and move more. Did I mention lean protein? It really is the key to feeling sated and to break out of the carb craving/sugar cycle. You can do it, I promise.