We've just got in from being away for half term, and DM has brought us a food parcel...

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What would you put in a food parcel for 2 adults and 2 teens to tide them over til tomorrow? DM has always had a disordered relationship with food, but this is one of her "best" efforts! I appreciate the gesture - which she insisted upon - and I have enough experience of her "meals" * to have got milk, bread, ham and a few bits in on the way home. To which we can add her food parcel of:

1 bottle wine
6 pack individual Mr Kipling type apple pies
2 bags of marshmallows
1 box Christmas chocolate biscuits

Apparently we'll all be very tired (we are, very early get up for flight) and need the sugar. She genuinely thinks that this is the basis for a good, light evening meal. (And yes, she's type 2 diabetic!).

The thought was there at least. The bottle of wine would’ve been enough, at least she got sweet things for the teens 😂 good old grandma.

Don’t find fault, at least she was thinking of you all.

This thread is bonkers.

There is nothing kind in offering and promising to solve something for someone else and than not doing it.

Hope she feels well about it, as that is the only potential positive value here.

I think it’s lovely.

If that was from my mum I'd be giving her side eye and binning the lot.

It's a snack, not a meal.

I don’t understand the issue? Were you expecting a Sunday roast for you all? I’d be appreciative of the gesture! Did you clean your own house out of all tinned, packet & frozen food before you went away?! Surely there’s something to make for a meal for you all until tomorrow?

Are you normally so ungrateful? She wasn’t obliged to provide a meal for anyone!

how pedantic, and how on earth is it relevant how the food was packed?

Honestly some of the posts on this thread are just bizarre!

@GuinnessBird

YABVVVVVU to throw away perfectly edible food because you’re having a tantrum

What a lovely thought. She's trying. Give her credit- it's a kind gesture

What a lot of strange MNers you are!! I would have been more than happy with that food parcel, and would have appreciated the gesture. Do none of you ever deviate from a totally healthy lifestyle?

My late MIL used to put a reliable set of items in for us when we got back from a long trip away (bread, butter, milk, eggs, bacon, cheese) but my late DM would have included totally random stuff (probably what she had in the fridge she didn’t need 😂).

Neither are around any more and I miss that no one buys stuff for me to come home to anymore.

I do buy for my adult DCs - having learned from my late MIL rather than my late DM!

That's really thoughtful of her. You sound really ungrateful

Oh that's Sweet, a lovely bag of treats to nibble whilst you order a takeaway! I wouldn't be so ungrateful

I agree - my DM could have left me a bag of peanuts and I wouldn't dream of coming on MN to complain.

That’s really nice. I mean it might not be what you solely eat but as a gesture it’s kind

Huh?!

She brought a bottle of wine and some sweets treats for when they got home.

Then she is bringing them an evening meal and pack lunches for the next day!

She is an absolute angel!

I think most people who you are close enough to do these favours, like my old NDN, would want a fairly basic fresh package of everyday stuff they hadn't had to trudge around the supermarket for after a long journey. So, in my book it would be a breakfast, even in the evening, and I would assume that any kid stuff would be in the larder apart from milk, juice, fruit, eggs and yoghurt. You would have flour to make pancakes, for example?

You sound lovely

..... you'll miss her when she's gone

Was it not her way of hinting for a cuppa?

HNRTFT but I think it was really kind and thoughtful of your Mum . Be grateful you have a caring Mum and feel sorry that you felt it necessary to take the piss out of her on MN .
FWIW you do know that small supermarkets are open on Sunday evenings and most arrival halls have M&S shops ,where you can grab basics!!

I would be so happy if I had someone in my life to provide a little food package when I came home from holiday! Of course what she provided isn’t a main meal- but lovely nonetheless. I would smile to myself, and know her well enough to have ordered essentials, but I’d still think that was very sweet. You sound a bit spoilt!

God the replies. I think this is hilarious OP, and you were prepared for it, so obviously you’re not posting because you’re miffed.

and of course the DM wasn’t OBLIGED- she offered, insisted even, on bringing marshmallows for dinner. And suddenly all these posters who presumably can quite happily live on marshmallows start having an absolute freak out that anyone would think this is funny.

oh well half term’s over thank god

Take her away with you next time.
She can come back to your delicious snack.
That’ll teach her about food values.

It was the other way round.

OP's DM first messaged to offered to bring food - for evening meal and packed lunches, so the OP wouldn't have to do shopping.
Was told the packed lunches aren't necessary, so she said she will bring evening meal stuff.

And than she brought wine, biscuits and marshmallows.

The OP came to the wine and marshmallows, got bemused that this should be the evening meal, and offloaded here. People started to call her ungrateful, questioned her ability to take care of the supper and created theories about "welcome home package" and what was actually offered, so the OP added the original message.

And I am saying, that offering to take care about the meal and bringing biscuits isn't really thoughtful or something to be very grateful about. That OP's DM did it to feel good herself without making anyone's life easier.