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QuestionTyme · 2023-11-04T19:30:56+00:00

For me, I would love to have a family someday. I'm planning to conceive a baby next year!

thecatsthecats · 05/11/2023 12:14

QuestionTyme · 05/11/2023 07:21

This is nice team work. The beauty of being on the same page. Pleased for you.
Would you be investing to generate more or are you looking to save £1.5m in cash? Either way, it's inspiring; keep going

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A little of both. We both love travel, and five years will hit a golden age for our son to travel too. And with a home paid off and a huge pot of cash, we will be able to do whatever we want with our careers without worrying about pensions and living costs etc.

Poppytops82 · 05/11/2023 13:40

ilovebagpuss · 05/11/2023 11:47

@Poppytops82 hope you don't mind me offering this comment.
My DD had a serious MH episode with OCD and we saw a private psychiatrist in the end on credit card.
It can be linked to so many underlying conditions and is a way to control those issues too such as ADHD or anxiety.
My point being is that a low dose anti depressant made a huge difference to be able to dampen out the OCD. They explained that they would not expect a teen to be able to think themselves out of it with strategies without some help to cut the anxious drive.
Anyway just a bit of info might not be any help.
My DD still has times where it flares up but is doing well most of the time. I hope your DS improves too.

Thank you 😊
He's under camhs. Had ERP therapy, on Sertraline. Had a good spell and relapsing again...:-( it just feels like it's going to be a life long battle.

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QuestionTyme · 05/11/2023 13:45

JamSandle · 05/11/2023 12:02

Dual citizenship

This is one of my goals too. Can't wait

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QuestionTyme · 05/11/2023 13:47

vidflex · 05/11/2023 07:47

I want to walk without a frame or sticks. I used to run for many years but I suddenly became disabled in the last few years. I go to physio and I'm getting stronger. I keep being told it probably won't happen but I'm stubborn and I will do it.

I will do it
This is the mindset. Yes, you will. See the possibilities.

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QuestionTyme · 05/11/2023 13:49

Wednesdaysotherchild · 05/11/2023 09:09

Children/live birth not miscarriages - 5 rounds of IVF, 7 lots of meds a day including immune suppressants and a whole host of other things alongside. It’s a mission but may not succeed.

Sounds like you've been through it. It's a testament to how much you want it. I've always thought if it's meant to be, it'll be. And the next one might just be the one.

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LookingForPurpose · 05/11/2023 13:56

We really want a motor home for when my DH retires so a few weeks ago we started saving towards it after a small unexpected windfall. We now have £1200 in premium bonds and I've set up a standing order to put £50 a week into them. So in 5 years we will have a nice little deposit towards one and the £50 a week will then cover a small loan repayment to top it up. I don't want anything ridiculously fancy, just big enough to take our grandkids away and go around Europe for a few months at a time.

I've really struggled with my weight since being diagnosed with several auto immune diseases and last year I finally bit the bullet and went to my Gp. I'm now under the bariatric team and hoping to have surgery soon.

TwoBigNoisyBoys · 05/11/2023 19:55

@Gnomegnomegnome thank you! It’s in public health, mental health and wellbeing and I’m specialising in the social determinants of health in menopause, and how loss of creativity in childhood affects adult mental health. It’s fascinating!

TwoBigNoisyBoys · 05/11/2023 19:56

Thank you @QuestionTyme 🥰

Tapasita · 05/11/2023 20:21

I am doing similar things to @DominiqueBernard as I’ve realised how important it is to conserve some space for yourself. Life in general can be a total assault on the senses so…………..I keep relationships with colleagues strictly professional. I don’t indulge in any petty squabbling or power games. Haven’t got the time or the emotional energy for that shit. People at work are not within the circle of trust. They are colleagues, pure and simple and I’ll only talk to them when/if needed. I’m very friendly and civil but there’s zero emotional investment there.

I am very very loyal to a close group of friends of many years and I make sure I set dates to see them regularly. I don’t watch the news obsessively. That way lies madness & fear. I keep my expectations in life very simple and appreciate time spent on walks with my kids, at the park, sitting on the floor by the fire and playing with magic sand or toy cars or drawing pictures. I cuddle both my boys at least twice a day - I’m a very physically affectionate person and it relaxes me to cuddle & be cuddled in return.

I don’t try and squeeze too much out of myself in the day. I have a job, a family and a house to run and a good marriage. That’s enough. Anything else on top of that is great, if it comes my way but I’m not wasting energy reaching for the sky.

I go to bed early, I am a vegetarian and I don’t drink or smoke. I should cut down on the cheese front and do more physical exercise so those are goals now for 2024.

Some people are rude and demanding and selfish with no self-awareness. If I come across them I distance myself from them immediately. I don’t leave any room for any doubt - I just stone-wall them. I don’t give a shit what they think, they’re not coming in!!! I’m very self-protective like that. I have carefully built a nice bubble for myself and worked fiendishly hard to get here so if you’re a twat and you treat me like a piece of shit on the bottom of your shoe then you can do one.

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QuestionTyme · 06/11/2023 19:59

Tapasita · 05/11/2023 20:21

I am doing similar things to @DominiqueBernard as I’ve realised how important it is to conserve some space for yourself. Life in general can be a total assault on the senses so…………..I keep relationships with colleagues strictly professional. I don’t indulge in any petty squabbling or power games. Haven’t got the time or the emotional energy for that shit. People at work are not within the circle of trust. They are colleagues, pure and simple and I’ll only talk to them when/if needed. I’m very friendly and civil but there’s zero emotional investment there.

I am very very loyal to a close group of friends of many years and I make sure I set dates to see them regularly. I don’t watch the news obsessively. That way lies madness & fear. I keep my expectations in life very simple and appreciate time spent on walks with my kids, at the park, sitting on the floor by the fire and playing with magic sand or toy cars or drawing pictures. I cuddle both my boys at least twice a day - I’m a very physically affectionate person and it relaxes me to cuddle & be cuddled in return.

I don’t try and squeeze too much out of myself in the day. I have a job, a family and a house to run and a good marriage. That’s enough. Anything else on top of that is great, if it comes my way but I’m not wasting energy reaching for the sky.

I go to bed early, I am a vegetarian and I don’t drink or smoke. I should cut down on the cheese front and do more physical exercise so those are goals now for 2024.

Some people are rude and demanding and selfish with no self-awareness. If I come across them I distance myself from them immediately. I don’t leave any room for any doubt - I just stone-wall them. I don’t give a shit what they think, they’re not coming in!!! I’m very self-protective like that. I have carefully built a nice bubble for myself and worked fiendishly hard to get here so if you’re a twat and you treat me like a piece of shit on the bottom of your shoe then you can do one.

So much wisdom here. Thank you for sharing. I intend to trial some things here.

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QuestionTyme · 06/11/2023 20:04

Just a thank you note to everyone for sharing their aspirations whether you've got a handle on them or finding them challenging.
The aim of the post was to get us thinking not just about what we want, but also what we are or aren't doing about it to make it happen.
For me, I can sometimes be hard on myself, so reading your stories and realising that everyone is on a journey to attain something was reassuring.
Thank you.
May all your good dreams come true. May you fulfil your heart desires

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