How often do you socialise?

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Regular poster, have NC. If you have children, am wondering how often you go out socially? I go out with friends around once a week which feels like too much but would like some context. I also wfh full time maybe that’s why I feel guilty

I guess that means how you define going out socially. If you mean a childfree night out, not that often. But if you count playdates where I socialise with the other mother, quite often.

About once a week without children, 1-2 times a week with them.

Yes child-free night out, thanks a lot

I was going out three nights on weekdays at least and maybe once at the weekend at least, but circumstances have changed that and I’m gutted. I wfh and hate it so really need my own time to socialize.

I’m with my kids before school and with them from when they come home ( I finish work then) as well as covering most of the school hols so I don’t feel guilty at all about going out.

Once or twice a month usually. I try to meet my best friend for dinner once a month (so I'm out maybe 7pm to 11pm) and then I have a group of friends where we do an afternoon at the pub to eat lunch and catch up semi-regularly (I'd be out from lunchtime at a weekend until the evening on those days.)

Once a year I go away with my best friend for a weekend and we visit a different city in the UK for an overnight break.

It feels about the right balance for me but I'm not hugely extroverted.

one a month night out with friends and sometimes a once monthly lunch out with friends. Any more and I struggle, have a more limited social battery as I get older

Um.. I’ve had two childfree nights out with my friends since my son was born 2 years ago 🙃 I’ve done several more with my husband but alas myself and all my closest friends have very small children (all under 4) and live at a bit of a distance so it’s a logistical nightmare. We do meet up with the kids and do fun things at least once a month tho, that’s our stage in life at the moment and that makes me happy.

Very interesting thank you. Yeh I think
my social battery is feeling more limited too! But I have lots of disparate friendships/groups and end up going out more than I’d like (once a week is feeling abit much on top of work) as a result.

Lately about once a week and DH tries to do the same. We rarely go out together as hard to get a babysitter. I find once a week quite a lot, there’s more I would want to go out for but just find it tips the balance of downtime and I end up frazzled! I need a lot of down time though.

@PerspiringElizabeth im the same. Very rarely go out with my other half unfortunately and am also feeling like once a week is leaving me feeling frazzled

When dc were little a big night out in town once every 3 months, out to lunch once a week and at a work function or works social outing, so bit variable about once every 2 to 3 weeks. Some of these were work related and work would pay, I do miss those free dinners and drinks.

Between 1 and 4 times a week depending on what's happening.

Kid free was around 18 ish months ago.

A meal out as a whole family I can't even remember.

I see friends a couple of times a week but it’s with the kids. Maybe a few times a year without kids.

My kids have left home. I go out at least, once maybe twice a week with DP and see friends, with or without him, three weekends out of four.

I don’t tend to see friends in the week as they are very geographically spread out.

Once a month if I’m able to 😅 but that’s only been the last 2/3 months as I have a 1 year old.
im sure it’ll change to more frequent the older they get

I've had about 2 child-free nights out since my 5 year old DD was born, DH looked after the DC. We have a 5yo and 1yo. I haven't been out with DH for 5 years, since having DC. We don't want to use paid babysitters (though plenty available in our area and we can afford it) and no suitable family or friends. DH would be willing to look after DC more often if I wanted to go out but I don't really want to, plus I'd rather go out with him than friends.

We do fun activities with the dc as a family every weekend (theatre trips, concerts, museums) and I consider that to be my social life for now.

One child-free night out since 2018. I do things with the child though.

So interesting to get different perspectives. Definitely think it increases naturally as the kids get older but my gut is telling me I’ve got my balance a bit wrong at the moment, although obviously varies so much!

With children, most weeks. Without children maybe a handful of times a year...my close friends are all spread out from our hometown so it makes logistics difficult!

With friends,about once or twice a year. With husband, about once every 3 months. I know this is too little but it's not high on my priority list right now. I don't think once a week is too much if you're happy with that.

One way to get time off child free is to get divorced (yes I know that doesn't work with useless Dads). But from when my DC were 7 and 5 I had Wednesdays and every other weekend off. It was tough at first but great after a while.

Once a week seems utterly reasonable to me, even if they are babies.

We all need time out and we’re better parents if we get it

Once a month maybe kid free sometimes 2 months goes by.

Don't go out really with the kids.

You wfh though! Lots of my socialising is done at work tbh.