How often do you socialise?

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Regular poster, have NC. If you have children, am wondering how often you go out socially? I go out with friends around once a week which feels like too much but would like some context. I also wfh full time maybe that’s why I feel guilty

Now that it’s winter, not very often! Once or twice a month currently, but not late evenings at all. A few friends rotate cooking for each other (girls only, partners stay home with the kids) once a month so that’s usually a weeknight, 7-10pm maximum!

I’m more sociable in the summer, but to be honest most of my close friends have small children too and few babysitting options, so there’s not a huge amount going on socially. And in the winter I’m here for it! I get bored of staying in too much in the spring/summer when the evenings are lighter.

I'm hybrid worker, go out with girls 2-3 times a year. Same for husband.
We have year old.
Going out every week sounds exhausting lol!

About 2 - 3 times a year with friends. I haven't gone out with my husband in 13 years!

I’m in sort of a unique position, I’m a mature student with 2dc’s. I get to socialise most days with a group of fellow students, who I consider friends, but I’ve only been on 2 nights out in 6 months.

Once a week to a pub quiz, then an additional once a month.

Around once every 5-6 weeks. My DH does 3-4 times a week. I would like more but I don’t have anyone to have the baby really.

Speaking for my son and daughter in law : yes they have social activities carefully planned around their jobs and their child, but for child-free evenings out that is about once a month, date-night. Our grandson then stays the night with us or with his other grandparents. About once a year they go on a short (city)trip, childfree. Our grandson then is with us (average 3 nights).

Literally hardly ever. I am a single parent so have to ask my mother to look after the kids overnight. I have a hobby which happens sporadically which could be counted as social but that’s once every couple of months and as a group we actually provide a service so not 100% a social activity. I only work part time but people who I might socialise with work full time. My main friend hasn’t been available for months now due to her caring responsibilities. I actually class going to work as my social time, even though I work. I don’t stress about it all though as I quite like staying home watching telly.

Meet my friends once a week for lunch. Try and go out once a month in the evening with them as well.
Trying to go out with DH once a month.
Children are nearly 18 and nearly 10 and are pretty self sufficient. Older one will look after the younger one which helps.

My hobby (music which I have dome for 30+ years) means an average of 2 nights a week out. Probably once a month to meet other friends in addition. My husband is probably similar though we rarely go out together. That said the youngest will be at secondary next year so will get there soon.

Never without my children. I don't have anyone to watch them for me.

About three times a year - no grandparents to speak of and husband doesn’t go out socially (does fuck off for work abroad for weeks on end though) so I feel like I can’t take the piss.

If ‘socialising’ means meeting friends I enjoy being with, probably 4 times a year (which suits me perfectly).

I do some professional networking though, about twice a month, which could be called socialising in the wider sense. I don’t enjoy it though, but have to do it as I’m self employed and need to keep up my network.

I go out on average once every 3 weeks. Sometimes twice a month with my friends. I go out everyweek with my mum friends to the stay and plays. I haven't been out with my partner without our child in over a year. He's not a going out person it usually ties in with an event like a concert or something.

I socialise as little as i can.
I love my own time and space call or text works for me.
Im weird i know.
And child free.

Once every 2-3 months. Once a month if I'm lucky.
I wfh part time and DH works shifts and is on call a lot the rest of the time.
We have 3 boys who do lots of clubs so organising to go out is a mammoth effort to try and work out when DH is working and hound him to see if he can get it off call. It's not worth the hassle sometimes

Never
The last time was 4 years ago went me and DH went the theatre.
One of our ds is disabled and we've got nobody to look after him.
We do things as a family though.
To be honest, I don't like nights out anyway. I much prefer going out on the day to the museum or somewhere like that.

Never. My autistic daughter has severe separation anxiety and so I can’t leave her at all ever.

Before this was so bad, my only social time was playing tennis three to four times a week. So there was plenty of it but it was only an hour a time, mostly when she was at school.

I’ve had one night out with friends since she was born 7 years ago 🤣 but I’m not bothered, I don’t want to go out. In the summer we go out as a family to a local outdoor area with family friendly bars. We have a few drinks, she gets pancakes and dances to live music happily. I only really want to socialise with my husband because he’s my favourite 🤣

Erm, maybe the baby’s dad? Why does he get to go out most nights while you have to stay home?

Why can’t your DH look after the baby so you can go out more?

I work part time so can meet friends for coffee/lunch during the week while the kids are at school...probably weekly coffee/lunch Monthly night out/evening drinks.

Hardly ever go out just me & DP. Going to try & address this in the new year so that we go out monthly.

I feel this balance is right for me. I work in quite a full on face to face job & I'm definitely not an extrovert so this is enough!

I have three kids and work FT. I'd say I'm out socially twice a week on average (happy hour, dinner with girlfriends, etc.) That includes every Saturday morning (early) I meet a friend for coffee. I have a lot of friends and they are in different groups so there's always someone I'd love to catch up with.

Id describe myself as a social introvert because I do like my alone time, but I find those family-free times to be restorative and nurturing. They really fill my cup, as it were. I hope I'm modeling to my kids the importance of friendships, too.

My husband is very much an introvert so he rarely goes out without me (though I encourage him!) but on the occasions that we go out together we get paid sitters. I've never really understood why parents are reluctant to do that, tbh (finances aside.)

Why? Did you have a child with disabilities?

Once or twice a month - finances rather than childcare!

I play sport which means two evenings out a week - I guess this is social although there isn’t much socialising other than playing the sport. Actually going out to meet friends/have dinner/socialise I would say very rarely but then I tend to avoid as I know I have been out already because of the sport and the kids would like me to be around at bedtime. Mine are 11, 8 and 6. I think it’s very important to look after yourself, and one evening a week is fine. It’s so easy to lose yourself when you’re a parent.