By trusting, uncomplicated and loving I mean someone - family member, friend, or partner, who you believe will always have your best interests at heart, not just their own. Someone where there isn't much or any resentment in the relationship. Someone who doesn't have ulterior motives or try to put you down due to their own insecurities. Someone who really, truly loves you and vice versa.
I was thinking about this last night - the only person in my life who I truly love and who loves me in an uncomplicated way is my DH. We met when I was in my late 30s and have been together 15 years. Before that I feel like I was pretty much alone. If he passes before I do I'll be alone again.
But maybe alone is normal? We're all born alone and we die alone. Sorry, cheery thought I know.
My parents were abusive - my mum was an alcoholic and my father a narcissist who left us. I also have a sister but she's very selfish and we don't get along. My parents and I actually have pretty good relationships now. My mum is sober and actually our relationship is pretty close to what I've described. But she can be very selfish. My father and I are reasonably close now but I don't really trust him and he's very competitive with me.
I have friends but none that are really that close. I had a best friend but she died, and anyway our close relationship didn't last past the teenage years. I don't have children. Maybe that's the difference from most people, but I know parent/child relationships can be very complicated.
How about you?