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Crap halloween givers

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WashingAt30 · 31/10/2023 19:15

It's nice when someone opens the door to you, and they at least smile, and maybe have a little chat about the DC's costumes. My god, some people don't even look happy, just shove a bag of sweets at you as close the door! I wouldn't be surprised if one creepy man we met was on some kind of offenders register. Why bother if you're not going to get into the spirt?!

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curaçao · 01/11/2023 09:05

When i was a kid, nobody did trick or treating, but thwre was mischief night on the 4th November.I sm glad that has gone!

WandaWonder · 01/11/2023 09:11

Not everyone celebrates Halloween, I know this shocks people but seriously

Ididivfama · 01/11/2023 09:16

Somaliwildass · 31/10/2023 20:03

We probably come across just like this.

It's because we have no decorations up and haven't invited this, I just got in from work and need the inside lights on go see, but don't want the house or cars vandalised as revenge for ignoring strangers who bang on the door.

Handing out random treats that are in my cupboards to entitled brats doesn't exactly fill me with joy, so I'm not going to indulge them further. I'd rather shout, don't bring your kids to my house when you don't know me.

And uncomfortably enough, I'd think those on an offenders register wouldn't be the ones trying to get rid of your kids quickly without engaging.

If you don’t decorate they shouldn’t be at your door. Ignore the door!

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Owwmumo1 · 31/10/2023 20:47

I did this last year. My little boy was really keen to Trick or Treat so I bought sweets and took them to my lovely neighbours so they could give them to him.

That’s lovely. I bet you are a popular neighbour.

Ejismyf · 01/11/2023 09:30

Maybe you went to my door and got my husband who answered who I'd left the sweets with and had to shoot away because my mum is dying and the door started getting rattled as he was doing the toilet but he still went after and opened the door for the kids even tho his mother in law is about to die. Shut the fuck up and stop being so ungrateful and rude presuming people are on the register because they don't smile. Disgusting attitude.

letstrythatagain · 01/11/2023 09:34

I get you OP. I don't understand why people would stick pumpkins outside to indicate they are willing for people to knock and then be a complete grump when opening the door. Especially to young kids.

letstrythatagain · 01/11/2023 09:35

Portakalkedi · 31/10/2023 19:25

Try not knocking on strangers' doors begging for free stuff?

🤣🤣 what a ridiculous comment. It's Halloween. They had decorations up indicating that kids can knock. Are you completely missing the point here or what.

ComtesseDeSpair · 01/11/2023 09:45

letstrythatagain · 01/11/2023 09:34

I get you OP. I don't understand why people would stick pumpkins outside to indicate they are willing for people to knock and then be a complete grump when opening the door. Especially to young kids.

People who don’t have children may well not have any idea that putting a pumpkin out or decorating their house for their own parties or entertainment is supposedly some kind of sign that you want trick or treaters and have sweets available. I’m not sure when this gimmick started, but there’s certainly not a memo that goes round to all adults informing them - I had no idea and nor did any of my childfree friends: we all turned away a lot of kids last night.

EversoDisorganised · 01/11/2023 09:47

I did trick or treating for years with my DCs and hand out sweets now (we decorate). No one chats, the DCs don't want that, they feel awkward and want to get to the next house, we are up and down opening the door dozens of times, it is just a short routine

"Trick or Treat"
"Here you are"
"Thank you, Happy Hallowe'en"
"Happy Hallowe'en"
and off they go.

I am the chattiest person going but this really isn't the time. Grumpy man probably doesn't really feel in the mood to engage properly and I think that's fair enough. He is still making an effort

Whataretheodds · 01/11/2023 09:53

So you're branding someone a pervert because he was insufficiently interested in your children?

Pinkpinkpink15 · 01/11/2023 09:53

IncomingTraffic · 31/10/2023 21:04

I said on another thread that the best house I visited tonight was giving out sweets to the kids and wee paper cups of sparkling wine to the adults.

That family are the neighbourhood champions of Halloween 2023. Potentially the national champions.

@IncomingTraffic

that's the first time I've ever been tempted to T&T out of my area!!

GonnaGetGoingReturns · 01/11/2023 09:58

I was great last night! Forgot to decorate (apart from small pumpkin lantern) but realised I had sweets in specially (the swizzle lollies, fun bag Maltesers and Twixes and a bag of Eclairs) so just waited outside for 10-15 mins whilst the kids milled past. Had a brief chat with some, mostly commentating on costumes.

Kids are funny though, one year I baked some sort of zombie cakes with googly eyes with marshmallows, they didn’t turn out great but kids still took them with the obligatory comments (they tried to guess what they were) and the spiders web cupcakes I made.

CallieQ · 01/11/2023 09:59

PurpleChrayne · 31/10/2023 19:18

What do you expect when you knock on random doors? So entitled!

This

GettingSickOfYourNonsense · 01/11/2023 10:02

You traipse your kids round, knocking on peoples' doors, expecting sweets, then have the nerve to moan??

Not everyone likes or feels comfortable with Halloween or people knocking on the door at night. Elderly people, or anyone with Dementia, PTSD or a mental health problem, for example.
As another poster says - buy your own fucking sweets then.

CheekyChick876 · 01/11/2023 10:07

The amount of ppl calling the OP entitled is shocking me! You just be all very bitter people, my gosh.

You know you don't have to take part of you think it's outrageous, don't you?

The Halloween is for the children. They're very enthusiastic and excited about the whole thing, so if ppl decided to take part of it, decorated their homes to expect the visits I do agree they should at least be in a good mood and yes, smile because it's just the poor kids having a great time!

I do agree though that knocking on houses clearly not taking part of it is abusive, and asking for money is a big NO, but ignoring those should do.

caringcarer · 01/11/2023 10:07

We're on holiday. DS left a bowl of bags of sweets out with a note to take 1 packet. He got a knock at the door after about 5 minute's. Packets of sweets all gone.

CameleonAreFightingBack · 01/11/2023 10:11

This thread is hilarious in that it’s exactly the opposite of a thread yesterday where the OP was moaning some children had come at 11.30am. (She had decorations on etc….)

Apparently saying that trick and treat is akin to begging was wrong and simply following social norms.
I suppose that none of the posters on here have ever done trick and treat either with their dcs or when they were kids themselves. I doubt it but … here we go.

Wheelz46 · 01/11/2023 10:15

@CheekyChick876 What about people who have social anxiety or selective mutism but have the confidence to open their door and gift sweets? Should they not participate?

Scalottia · 01/11/2023 10:21

Newsflash OP - not everyone cares about your children's costumes enough to want to have a little chat about them.

Entitled parents really do my head in.

ThreeRingCircus · 01/11/2023 10:22

OP if you’re worried about odd people who should be on ‘some sort of register’ then perhaps you shouldn’t encourage your children to approach strangers. There are plenty of other things you could do with your children to mark the occasion, that wouldn’t involve disturbing potential criminals in their own homes.

I totally agree with this. A man was nice enough to buy sweets in especially for children such as your DC and because he wasn't smiley enough for you, you've come online and basically insiuated that he's a paedophile. Nice!

00100001 · 01/11/2023 10:27

x2boys · 31/10/2023 22:36

Its,a mums net thing where they pre arrange with neighbours to give out sweets in a very boring and organised manner ,something I have only seen on here .

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maybe they think people have injected heroin into the Maoam through the sealed packet...

But probably they don't want to encourage getting sweets form strangers- but it's easily countered with "only at Hallowe'en and/or only when you're with me or Dad"

noctiscaelum · 01/11/2023 10:30

I think you are completely ignoring the simple fact of this. You are daring the people, if you don't give me a treat, we'll do some harm. At least they gave you a treat. That should be enough.

ncob · 01/11/2023 10:32

@WashingAt30 What do you mean "these people clearly want you to knock" ? What? Are people not allowed to decorate their homes in whichever way they like without "clearly" wanting strangers to come knocking and feel obliged to give them freebies/ things they've spent their hard earnt/pension ££ on. Stop being so entitled.

SoupDragon · 01/11/2023 10:41

I'm happy to decorate my house and hand out sweets to whoever knocks. I've gone to the effort of making the house look fun, buying treats for other people's children and spending the evening getting up and down to open the door but there's no way I'm going to have a conversation with the kids beyond saying "you're welcome!" to those who say thank you. If you want a children's entertainer, hire one! It's very entitled parenting to expect random strangers to do it.

Changes17 · 01/11/2023 10:43

It’s pretty full on where we are (popular street for it). My happy Hallowe’ens and costume chat probably weren’t that energetic by the end. I got through one big tub and two big bags of wrapped sweets (all Swizzels) in just over an hour last night. Most kids took one each (all very polite this year!) - so around 100-150 kids? More? It’s hard work!

Plus, when we used to take our kids trick or treating (youngest still goes but with friends) we’d then go home and do a stint on our own door handing out sweets. I hope anyone complaining is doing that as a minimum.