Has your DH turned into a grumpy old man?

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I love my Dh and I used to hate him going away

But now I enjoy a weekend with him out of the house. He has become quite grumpy and a bit controlling

He definitely wasn't like this when we were young

Male mid life thing?

A number of my female friends are afflicted with grumpy husbands or partners. It makes me appreciate being single.

Yep, grumpy, bad-tempered, and negative. It's exhausting.
Teen asked me last night why DH was being such a dick. I said he wasn't feeling well. Teen replied "but you're ill too and you're not behaving like an arsehole".
So, yeah.......

I couldn't handle it so left when mine was 54. He was a miserable abusive arse whose mood swings were unbearable. He was talking about our retirement and I could not imagine spending a year with him full time never mind 30 or 40. Now I'm divorced I have occasional desires for company as it can be lonely at times and online dating is dire. But threads like these make me so grateful for my own space, not feeling like I'm walking on egg shells or appeasing him. I am the master of my own destiny and feel happy with my calm peace and quiet. My life is different but much richer for my soul and overall happiness now.

Christ mines 50 and is getting like this too

I feel like I'm managing him at times as well as my grumpy dad who's 25 years older.

A few times over Xmas and new year I had to tell him he's being a dick he was driving me mad

He's also getting insistent on butting in on things.

I was setting up to descale the new coffee machine the other day,reading the manual etc and he just kind of barged in and tried to take over. I told him to piss off I was doing it.

We also had a big ding dong in the car because he thinks it's ok to comment on my driving car too often.

We actually had a full blown row sat in the car park of a supermarket where I pointed out that I'm always the bloody driver and the next time he commented I would refuse to drive with him in the car point blank.

He knew I meant it and hasn't done it again

This thread is sad in the sense that there are so many grumpy dickhead men out there - but heartening in that we as women are not alone.
Over the holidays I was actually thinking of starting a thread asking how much grumpiness from one's OH must one accept? Everyone is allowed to be in a bad mood of course. But how much is too much for the rest of the household to have to endure?
I felt a weight lifting over new year's as I came to a realisation that my DH is entirely entitled to his grumpiness, no judgement from me - but that it is affecting my mental health, so for my own mental health I will need to walk away if it continues at current levels. It was a sad but liberating realisation 😢

DH 55 is turning into a grumpy old man. I think I will start calling him Victor !! He is outraged with neighbours planning permission, going online twice daily to see if any appeal and rallying the neighbours to make an appeal !! He is obsessed with cleaning the wheels on just car, he has just bought himself a whole set of tiny brushes in varying sizes to clean them with. Help me!

Me too. Met later in life so we are both in our 50s now. As soon as he starts in a moody phase I remind him that I brought up 2 kids on my own whilst working FT, and managed just fine. I used to tiptoe around him but now I call him out and it is far more effective! He has his moments still but I refuse to stop being me and enjoying our home just because he’s in a grump. Speaking to my friends, it feels like most men are the same. Just remind him you are more than capable of managing alone…is he?

Trusttheprocess1 coping with him on top of everything else is draining.