Would you pay DD's rent?

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We moved away just as DD finished university, so we agreed to pay her rent for a year as long as she was working. She's been making money by posting pictures and videos of herself online, which she says is working.

Now she wants to move in with us in two months. She says she'll get a job. She may stay with us for a long time, but I sent her listings and she said her budget is the amount we agreed to pay for her rent. I feel like the agreement to pay her rent goes away if she moves to where we live, as that wasn't the intent. But, at the same time, I don't want her to live with me as she was so unpleasant to live with before. I really don't know what I'm going to do. What would you do?

@PricklyWhenWet I'm sure she thought it was an emergency. She was out with others but they couldn't get an uber taxi and she wanted to get another app but couldn't remember her apple ID. I don't know her apple ID, so I wasn't much help. This is an example of where my husband says she calls with minor inconveniences but perceives them as dire emergencies.

I am a bit of a doormat with her. I didn't used to be when we lived with each other, which caused a lot of fighting.

I understand she doesn't want to touch her savings and would rather pretend it doesn't exist, but I did make the commitment to pay her rent for a year and I can see it causing her to fall out with me if I stop before a year passes.

I suppose I have choices to make. It does feel more complicated since my husband has already told her she can move in and organized that he will come to her to help her move out. But that's a husband problem, not a DD problem.

I'm sorry. I feel like I've frustrated you, and that wasn't my intent. I really appreciate what you've said and it's given me a lot to think about.

It sounds to me like your daughter has some mental health issues and needs support. Has she acknowledged this or spoken to a GP in the past? Just because she's an adult, as other posters have 'kindly' pointed out, doesn't mean she doesn't need the support of her parents. It's obviously a very tricky situation for you all and you're all trying your best to cope. Please don't fell like you have to apologise to people being nasty to you on here OP.

@lockedinflavour She does have mental health issues, but refuses to take a pill every day now that she's an adult. She doesn't think she needs it.

I apologized to Neon because she put a lot of time and effort into replying, and I'm not willing to go no contact with my daughter, which is obviously frustrating when I've asked for help.