Most absorbent nappy to fit a teenager?

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Please, before I lose my mind. Ds is 10 but he is tall and wears 12-13 clothes. We have tried everything to get him dry at night and been passed from pillar to post among various different professionals. We are using huggies drynights and they have leaked every day this week. I can manage in the summer but in the winter I'm struggling with the washing as I have 4 other dc as well. I wouldn't mind the wet nappies but I'm struggling with the wet sheets and having to replace the mattress every few months because the waterproof mattress cover has disintegrated again.

I'm assuming you've tried the enuresis alarm that clips to the underwear since you've seen lots of various people? If not this worked well for my dc and put a stop to it. That aside, try to source some of the waterproof reusable/washable large pads they use in care homes underneath incontinent residents, they're easier to wash/dry and change in the middle of the night if necessary, should save your mattress. As far as nappies, you can buy adult incontinence nappies from various places, boots etc. My dc was incontinent at night until around 7 and I found it so draining and frankly hard work so I understand how you're feeling. Hope you get sorted soon.

Same here. Sorry, no good ideas.

Thank goodness for washing machines.

Have you contacted the ERIC helpline? They will give you good advice.

You can buy mattresses with thick plastic covers on, like they use in hospitals. My Foster Son needed one of these as urine on a mattress smells so much. Then you just spray it with disinfectant and wipe it down.
You could use an adult incontinence pad, a night time for men one.

I think you might need to look at nappies made for teens/adults.

Have you tried waking him overnight to go to the toilet and change his pull-up?

I can't advise on the nappy/nighttime underwear, but I just wanted to pass on something I did with my son. I used an air mattress for him, way cheaper to replace, and I could wash the whole thing off in the shower. He finally started waking In the night to use the toilet when he was 11 ish.

Op for the mattress you NEED this:

https://www.incontinencechoice.co.uk/dritech-waterproof-mattress-protector-191x91x18cm-single.html

We bought one for bedwetting ds2 - it's been on the bed over a year now and until recently he wet every night.

Totally 100% waterproof but not sweaty or creaky material. It's a bugger to get on, you need two people. But the whole mattress fastens inside it, envelope style so you can flip the mattress too.

When there's an accident you just spray it with flash or whatever you use and wash it down - no removing.

It's honestly the best £12 I ever spent in my entire life.

Lidl medium incontinence pants with a medium size pad inside also from lidl.

Broolly sheet on the bed.

Have you tried small, adult incontinence pants?
What about several waterproof sheets on the mattress? Not just 1?

Two of mine were not reliably dry until well into puberty. One, like yours, was very tall for his age. I found that sizing up in Huggies Drynites was best for him. They go up to age 15 IIRC. The other used to wear a washable pull-up over his disposable, and it caught most leaks. He didn't leak every night, so only needed 3 washables. 2 would probably have been enough, but I liked to always have one available, just in case.

Things that helped (or didn't!).

Desmopressin for sleep away from home - worked for one but no effect for the other.

Lifting at 1.5-2h after lights out - ditto.

Alarm (used by the one for whom desmopressin did not work) - 1st time did not work just caused distress, 2nd year it did work but he was still not reliably dry for another couple of years.

Layering bedding: mattress protector - fitted sheet 1 - waterproof sheet 1 - fitted sheet 2 - waterproof sheet 2 - fitted sheet 3. Made life much easier when stripping beds in the middle of the night.

Antibac spray and some wipe-up cloths in the bedroom so that if you get down to the mattress protector you can just wipe it clean, dry it, and bung a fresh sheet on. Antibac anything that gets wee on it and does not go into the wash, otherwise you end up with a stinky bedroom.

Wipe-clean polyeurethane sheets. We had some of the fabric-coated ones, which are good at soaking up wee, but cannot be wiped clean and reused. Ditto with mattress protectors. We always put the fabric side down and the polyeurethane side up.

Even once ds was dry, because he was not reliably dry for several years he still had two mattress protectors on his bed: the top one was fabric up, but the bottom one was fabric down as it was the last resort. Having two protectors helped them last longer, too.

Several 4tog synthetic quilts. They fit in an ordinary washing machine and air dry fairly quickly.

It does pass!

We were given a recommendation of a vinyl sheet from Lovehoney of all places for DD4. It actually works. They're massive enough to properly tuck in and they actually work in protecting the mattress. They don't disturb her as they don't crinkle or make noise when she moves.

We do vinyl, normal waterproof sheet, vinyl, waterproof, normal sheet so we can strip down in the night if needed.

She's now had her current mattress for almost a year, rather than going through them.

Thank you so much everyone. We've tried lifting him when we go to bed but he wouldn't wee then and his pull up was always dry. He has been on the max dose of desmopressin for 18 months and that helps a lot but he still wets his pull up almost every night and his pull up still leaks 1-4 times a week. Without desmopressin I have to wash his pillow and teddy every night as well as the usual sheet and duvet.

We haven't tried an alarm because the continence nurse said it wouldn't be a good idea as he is a deep sleeper and he shares a room with his brother who doesn't sleep well at night. The nurse said the alarm would almost certainly wake up the wrong child.

I've tried putting various brands of sanitary towel into his pull up to make them more absorbent and also cloth nappy boosters. Still leaked though. Also tried small tena nappies. I'll give the Lidl ones a try and also get a better mattress cover.

I would buy the adult tena ones. They do either pull ups, the sanitary style ones or the sticky fastening nappy style ones. These hold the wee of grown adults so they shouldn't leak .

My son is a deep sleeper and the alarm worked to some
extent for him. He had it on vibrate mode and although it didn’t actually get him up, it seemed to disturb him enough that he didn’t wet!

i think it would be worth a try?

I have a disabled ds and the Sureness ones from Home Bargains are the best.

www.mattressnextday.co.uk/mattresses/waterproof-mattresses

This is the mattress you need for £149. You just spray and wipe off. No covers that disintegrate or crease. Very comfortable.

The continence service should supply some they do for my 12 year old child he needs them day and night. The huggies ones are too thin we buy them the odd time the price is ridiculous also as they are only a pack of 8.

What about these ?

Or Tena junior.

Is he drinking enough fluid during the day in order to stretch his bladder enough to hold enough wee overnight?

We found that for our son who was also very tall for his age the desmopressin dose was 't enough. We also tried the medication to relax the bladder. Had a bad experience with the first one, loads of mental health side effects the second one didn't work and eventually the prescribed solifenicin which isn't licenced for kids but the bladder and bowel nurse found some research that said it might help and it did. As soon as puberty was in full swing it all sorted itself out.

We also bought washable bedpants but to be honest nothing could absorb it all.

Would something like a brolly sheet or little green sheep mattress protector help? The brolly sheets are designed to go on top of the normal sheets, so just the protector to wash, not the sheets themselves, and I've used the little green sheep ones the same way. Our little green sheep ones got washed a lot with with a refluxy co-sleeping baby (now refluxy co-sleeping toddler) and seem to be holding up okay. Obviously not as good as a nappy/slip that works though.

Do you know what the reusable boosters were made of? Microfibre doesn't hold much wee for its size, well-washed hemp holds the most, cotton and bamboo are in the middle.

My ds is a deep sleeper but alarm did wake him and sorted problem our within a week. Had to use tape and safety pin to make it tamper proof. Could they be separated for a week to try,

Yeah, could you put the other child on their mattress in your floor while you are trying the alarm.