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WWYD? Interview time doesn’t work for me

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Fraler93 · 25/10/2023 12:00

so I’ve been a sahm mum for 6 years. I recently started a part time work from home job but I’m now looking to get a better full time job. I applied for a role which is a very good opportunity for me, did the virtual interview and to my surprise I’ve got through to the face to face interview stage.

On Monday I received a message asking me to come for the interview at 4pm Wednesday (today), so not even 48hrs notice. I haven’t told them I have kids yet but I said I’m working till 5pm so couldn’t make that time and asked if they had a different day. I said this as I didn’t have any childcare for the dc, it’s half term and dp would have been working. In all honesty I haven’t told dp or anyone as I don’t want anyone to know incase I don’t get the job.

they said they may be able to do Tuesday or Wednesday next week. I said perfect, as dc will be back in school so won’t have to worry about childcare etc. they have just messaged to tell me they can do Tuesday at 4pm. I JUST realised that is Halloween and I have plans with the dc, just like a Christmas tradition we do trick or treating and Halloween stuff on that day every year. If it was earlier I would 100% have no issue, but 4-5pm? The dc will be home and I won’t be able to do our plans with them.

im really not sure what to do, I really want to do the interview and the job (even though I’m sure I wouldn’t get it) but I can’t ask them for a different day as I said Tuesday and Wednesday work great for me…

what would you do? Am I being unreasonable?

OP posts:
CyberCritical · 25/10/2023 14:46

You need to tell your DP nd have him cover the first part of the Halloween activities then you'll catch up when you're done with your interview.

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Fraler93 · 25/10/2023 14:54

He’s self employed - literally obsessed with working/making money. So he works everyday (fair enough different shift patterns, usually morning shift and evening shift with the afternoon free, or all day on Saturdays and Sundays). It’s not financially needed but he just won’t stop.

although he did mention recently that when I get a career he won’t have to work as much…

now excited but nervous for the interview! Really want the job but don’t want to get my hopes up either

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Pinkdelight3 · 25/10/2023 15:02

Glad you're excited - go for it! As for your DP, I'm self-employed too and very driven, work weekends etc, so I get it, but as you say, it's a choice and he can and must recalibrate to take your career needs and aspirations into account too. You're not some other species that is happy to facilitate his mad hours to the detriment of yourself - and in fact the family's overall well-being. He can dial it down somewhat at least while the kids are little and do his fair share. I was much less full-on when the kids were little and have stepped it back up now they're older. If he's still intent on weekends, he can do more for the DC during the week and make your transition into work easier. All the best!

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Chimchar · 25/10/2023 15:10

Well done on getting through to the face to face interviews. I'm glad you didn't change the time. 😉

Change is scary and being a working parent can be tough at times, but having a job and something that you've achieved on your own will be great for you, as will your dh spending time with your kids.

I wish you all the luck for the interview. Let us know how you get on!

Vriddle · 25/10/2023 15:11

Congrats on getting the interview! It's great that you can get back to working life and financial independence.

Here's what's great about working with dc in after school care: you (or dp) pick them up from after school club and you have a lovely chat on the walk home. You can make dinner together, then read or do homework, have a game. It's a nice time, evenings with the children after work and school. You switch off from work and enjoy each other's company.

Even if you don't get this job, the practice of applying and going for an interview will help you loads. You win either way.

So tell dp - he is part of this plan. He will be doing pick-ups and drop offs. He will be taking time for days when the dc are ill or on break.

Good luck with the interview!

cansu · 25/10/2023 15:12

Yes the hlowee stuff can wait. Interviews are more important. You either want the job or not.

AutumnIsMyFriend · 25/10/2023 15:12

You are being unreasonable. If you ask to change again I think they will cancel the interview.

Every working parent has to juggle business around kids - if you can’t do that, full-time work may not be your friend.

TravellingT · 25/10/2023 15:17

The real issue here is created in your mind. Your partner can pick up his (I assume) children from school and get them dressed and take them out. There is literally no reason why you can't do this interview

UnevenBalance · 25/10/2023 15:19

Good luck @Fraler93
I hope it goes well and you get that job!

Chewbecca · 25/10/2023 15:30

Good luck, glad you have agreed to the date, even though not ideal.

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