My mother in law is very lovely however there is one aspect of her that drives me mad and it’s regarding grandchildren.
My child - let’s call her Madge, and my nephew, let’s call him Harold (yes I know it’s neighbours reference but wanted to use names so different)
Harold was born 6 weeks before Madge. At this point, in order not to drip feed, Harold was born after a horrible tragedy in our family. That’s as much as I will say but I’m not sure if it’s relevant to this scenario. It had also taken me & DH several years and multiple rounds of IVF to yet pregnant.
sorry that was a lot of background, but the issue I have is that my mother in law is cannot hear anything good about Madge without saying that Harold does it better. So for instance, Madge can now ride her bike without stabilisers, oh Harold did that 2 months ago. Or Madge is doing really well at school, teacher says her writing is amazing for her age, MIL then says oh Harold’s got really good handwriting too - she never says oh wow Madge thats brilliant well done!
It’s tiresome. My sister in law never makes such comments and always gives lovely praise without boasting about DN. And vice versa, I praise Harold without bragging about Madge.
There’s a million more examples but they’re all in the same vain. I feel it’s quite sad. DH has suggested saying something to MIL, I want to but wonder wherever it’s just worth letting it go.
MIL see’s Harold much more than she see’s Madge as we live about 60 miles away.
does anyone else’s MIL do this? Would you say something or just let it go over your head?
Harold & Madge are currently 5 years old