I have a ‘friend’ as part of a friendship group. Never sure how to read her. I always thought she was a little mean and standoff’ish. I was a newcomer to group - about 18 months ago, but, had known a couple of people pretty well for over a yr previously - I would say at friend/acquaintance level.
Assumed Pam’s (as we’ll call her) initial hostility possibly linked to not wanting an newcomer in the group. I was actually very respectful of this not just with her but with everybody and have been super socially aware not to step on anyone’s toes and be respectful. She did seem to warm to me and we became good friends. I still have my reservations that she could be a little mean, but was aware that could be cultural interpretations - she is very, very upper class. Rest of the group aren’t a real mix of backgrounds but definitely not UC.
Side note learned she’d only been part of the very longstanding group 5/6 months herself when I started socialising with them!
Lately (as in last couple of weeks) she’s started being a little mean again, makes the occasionally passive aggressive dig and several times now has called me out on spelling mistakes in group messages and a couple of times in the way I have pronounced things when we’re in person - I have seen far far worse mistakes by other people in the group btw, not predictive txt slip ups as mine are. And these are never picked up on. In fact two people responded with a ? To her so they had clearly not noticed. It’s like what, are you marking my messages?!?
She’s done it twice this week and then yesterday corrected my pronunciation of something again in person!! It was so bloody awkward for everyone especially as couple of people got that I was being silly and taking the piss, and she obviously hadn’t. I’m really feeling like I’m being picked on and she’s making me feel like a complete thicko. It’s just awkward.
What do I do say? We’re all mid-late thirties btw.