Imagine the day from hell

Dustpantsandbush · 2023-10-07T21:10:10+00:00

Everything that could go wrong is going wrong, everything you touch just turns to metaphorical shit. When you get home and close your door how do you react? I fall to bits, sobbing stressed out, overwhelming feelings of not being able to cope, nausea, anxious, feel out of control. I’ll then spend 24-48 hours constantly replaying everything in my head, wondering why I can’t function as a normal person and not able to believe how incompetent I am. Im trying to gauge how abnormal I am and if I need to seek more help. I’m on Fluoxetine for depression and having CBT.

MyGooseisTotallyLoose · 07/10/2023 22:16

Sounds awful but what happened in the context of a 'day from hell'?

toadasoda · 07/10/2023 22:18

It really does depend on the context of your 'bad day'. If its the usual bad day stuff, car won't start, train doesn't show, late for work, forget an appointment, boss pissed off... then yes it sounds like your reaction is extreme. But if there is serious stuff going on under the surface then it might be more normal as a one off, but not regularly.

Would you like to share some more info about your day? Or what your personal circumstances are?

Tonight1 · 07/10/2023 22:21

You could access OOH MH team over the telephone if you feel overwhelmed - deep breath, cup of tea.

Any friends/family you can call? 💐

piintheski · 07/10/2023 22:23

What do you mean by "bad day"? bereavement, terminal diagnosis, eviction? or bus was late, boss was stroppy and I forgot my umbrella?

ishouldprobablygettherapy · 07/10/2023 22:26

"A bad day" is SUCH a spectrum.
It's okay to feel overwhelmed sometimes. I have had days where lots of little things so wrong, and then I end up with something ridiculous tipping me over the edge like dropping my toast - butter side down on the floor. And then I will sob. Sounds ridiculous but we all react differently to bad days 🩷

TheChosenTwo · 07/10/2023 22:29

I think it depends on what constitutes as the day from hell really. I was with my relative when they died in hospital after being hit during an RTA. Managed to drive home and have a shower before a small cry and heading off on a week away for work on no sleep.
I don’t really cry, i internalise a lot but I’m not a crier.
If it’s been a shit day at work, I leave it behind me when I clock off (in my home office) and literally don’t think about it until the next day.
Personal stress is different as you can’t escape it but on the whole I think things though and decide what I can do to make an effective difference. I’m quite a rational person.
It’s definitely worth seeking more help if you’re feeling like you’re struggling 💐 I’d love to say with confidence that help is out there but based on my own experiences for one of my dc of late I can’t say that I fully believe it. BUT you’ll never regret asking for more support, could you call the gp Monday morning?

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Dustpantsandbush · 07/10/2023 22:31

I went to work today new workplace, somehow set off the alarm when closing up and couldn’t get it to stop, running around the building trying find an open door.
turns out id left the entrance door very obviously open. Sorted in the end but took 20 mins of stress to workout a very obvious fuck up. Then went straight to a surprise party, was late because of alarm situation at work and ended turning up at the same time as the person who’s party it was and bumped into them outside the place immediately giving the game away and ruined the whole surprise, felt so fucking awful. Couldn’t apologise enough, could sense that understandably everyone wanted to throttle me. Next had to drive 45 mins to my parents house to drop off an item I’d borrowed only to find when I got there that is left it at home. Just totally fucked up everything all day long. Got home and just lost it. Poor lovely DH plying me with tissues and sympathy and having to deal with my nonsense after an intense day at work himself. Love him. Feel calmer now but it’s all swirling in my head, why can’t I just be a normal competent human being. Why am I like this? It’s bloody embarrassing.

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MichelleScarn · 07/10/2023 22:33

Definitely depends on context, used to think as per pp 'day from hell' was slept in, had forgotten tank was empty then couldn't find.id badge/swipe card to get into work. Then ended up in a&e with newborn, convinced i was being paranoid new mum, till 6 week old whisked off needing iv drugs,.surgery, monitoring, now really know meaning of 'day from hell' but I absolutely understand it's all contextual.

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Dustpantsandbush · 07/10/2023 22:36

Seems not that bad when I read it back but in the moment feels fucking awful and I just fucking HATE that I’m like this. I’m one of those people most people hate and roll their eyes at because I just make mistake after unintentional mistake. If something has gone wrong somewhere I’m usually at the root of it. Somehow I am the person just fucking everything up. I want to stay in my house and never see another living soul again.

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Dustpantsandbush · 07/10/2023 22:39

I don’t mean literal catastrophic things like bereavement’s or terrible accidents. I mean those days that are full of stressful events that make you think what an absolute fucking nightmare day.

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Zippedydoodahday · 07/10/2023 22:47

I think some more help would be useful. Not least to teach you some self-compassion and coping strategies.

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Dustpantsandbush · 07/10/2023 22:51

Feel like I want to resign from my job because the fuck ups are starting to creep in and I can’t bare the thought of my boss thinking badly of me. Ive just started managing this new initiative for the company and it’s turning into a logistical nightmare, the stress of running it for a few hours each week is affecting me and it’s only week 3! Everyone convinced me to put myself forward for this role and told me I’ll be great for it and knew I wasn’t! Why didn’t I listen to myself?! FUCK. I allowed myself to swayed into thinking other people must be right about me if lots of people are saying it. But they’re wrong. I knew I’d fuck it up and I am 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

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Bluesandwhites · 07/10/2023 22:52

@TheChosenTwo
" I leave it all behind me when I clock
off . ."
I envy you !! When it's a series of events I feel I could go to pieces, especially when up against " the computer says no . ."

Allwelcone · 07/10/2023 22:54

Oh you poor love! Let's face it that was a truly sht day! 💐
Embrace the sht-ness. Don't let it take root by saying 'I'm this kind of person/ these things always happen to me etc.
Have your meltdown and think what great things there are in your life (eg lovely DH).
Tomorrow's a new day, get some rest and fight on >hug<

SM4713 · 07/10/2023 22:54

I'm sorry you feel so overwhelmed by it and am glad you are seeking professional, mental health help. It just sounds like a shitty day and unrelated accidents/mishaps! Hardly a day from hell to me, but we all judge things differently! If its a new workplace- why are you responsible for closing up and alarms etc? Isn't there someone to show you how its done??? Was it your first day there?

We've all had bad days due to various things- some out of our control. I try to look in the bright side, glass half full etc- rather than the doom and gloom.

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Dustpantsandbush · 07/10/2023 22:54

I do need help. My reactions are not normal. I can’t seem to cope with every day life. Normal events that would be simply for most people are such a struggle for me. I’m so bloody slow and thick. Always a few steps behind everyone else, always struggling, never just getting it right. I am the pain everyone’s arse. If something has messed up it was probably ME. Sorry.

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Allwelcone · 07/10/2023 22:55

Sorry for weird font changes! Not sure what happened there

thisisasurvivor · 07/10/2023 22:57

Dustpantsandbush · 07/10/2023 22:31

I went to work today new workplace, somehow set off the alarm when closing up and couldn’t get it to stop, running around the building trying find an open door.
turns out id left the entrance door very obviously open. Sorted in the end but took 20 mins of stress to workout a very obvious fuck up. Then went straight to a surprise party, was late because of alarm situation at work and ended turning up at the same time as the person who’s party it was and bumped into them outside the place immediately giving the game away and ruined the whole surprise, felt so fucking awful. Couldn’t apologise enough, could sense that understandably everyone wanted to throttle me. Next had to drive 45 mins to my parents house to drop off an item I’d borrowed only to find when I got there that is left it at home. Just totally fucked up everything all day long. Got home and just lost it. Poor lovely DH plying me with tissues and sympathy and having to deal with my nonsense after an intense day at work himself. Love him. Feel calmer now but it’s all swirling in my head, why can’t I just be a normal competent human being. Why am I like this? It’s bloody embarrassing.

I have been there

I hear you

Please let it go

I bet you are far better at your job than you believe

Bad day
Bad day

Put behind you now
That's it done

You didn't injure yourself or anyone?
You have a very very low view of yourself

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Dustpantsandbush · 07/10/2023 22:57

SM4713 · 07/10/2023 22:54

I'm sorry you feel so overwhelmed by it and am glad you are seeking professional, mental health help. It just sounds like a shitty day and unrelated accidents/mishaps! Hardly a day from hell to me, but we all judge things differently! If its a new workplace- why are you responsible for closing up and alarms etc? Isn't there someone to show you how its done??? Was it your first day there?

We've all had bad days due to various things- some out of our control. I try to look in the bright side, glass half full etc- rather than the doom and gloom.

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I was shown last week, but there’s lots of doors, locks and two separate alarms systems in two joined buildings, fobs for some doors, keys for others, button pushes for other doors. It’s going to take a while to get used to all I suppose. Maybe my boss shouldn’t have left me alone today to close up but be clearly thought I should have been able to manage it. Clearly not.

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Zola1 · 07/10/2023 22:59

Depends on the bad day for sure. It varies.
Fairly recently I had a truly horrendous day involving stalking, police, giving a video interview, going to court for a protective order, meeting with an idva and then still needing to parent when I finally got home
I think I basically just stared at the ceiling for about 14 hours after that and maybe cried a bit
Most bad days I might have a bit of a cry or feel a bit angry and then try to distract myself

Zola1 · 07/10/2023 23:00

Dustpantsandbush · 07/10/2023 22:54

I do need help. My reactions are not normal. I can’t seem to cope with every day life. Normal events that would be simply for most people are such a struggle for me. I’m so bloody slow and thick. Always a few steps behind everyone else, always struggling, never just getting it right. I am the pain everyone’s arse. If something has messed up it was probably ME. Sorry.

I think you should talk to your GP. Your self talk is so negative.

Allwelcone · 07/10/2023 23:01

Dustpantsandbush · 07/10/2023 22:54

I do need help. My reactions are not normal. I can’t seem to cope with every day life. Normal events that would be simply for most people are such a struggle for me. I’m so bloody slow and thick. Always a few steps behind everyone else, always struggling, never just getting it right. I am the pain everyone’s arse. If something has messed up it was probably ME. Sorry.

Fgds it's really not it's just what you beleive about yourself. You never intended any of that stuff to happen! Some people really do have bad intentions e.g to hurt people, but you sound lovely! All that stuff was an accident

Start making a gratitude list and remembering who you really are, do some hobby that relaxes you and/or increases your self esteem, self care, get to be the wonderful you that you are! Put the past behind you.

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Dustpantsandbush · 07/10/2023 23:07

I think I’ve given this the wrong title. Maybe I should have said ‘Imagine a day when you fuck up everything.’
I can’t help feeling I’m proving my point about how stupid I am with each subsequent post I make.

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Dustpantsandbush · 07/10/2023 23:08

Allwelcone · 07/10/2023 22:54

Oh you poor love! Let's face it that was a truly sht day! 💐
Embrace the sht-ness. Don't let it take root by saying 'I'm this kind of person/ these things always happen to me etc.
Have your meltdown and think what great things there are in your life (eg lovely DH).
Tomorrow's a new day, get some rest and fight on >hug<

Thanks for being so kind. I will try.

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Dustpantsandbush · 07/10/2023 23:10

TheChosenTwo · 07/10/2023 22:29

I think it depends on what constitutes as the day from hell really. I was with my relative when they died in hospital after being hit during an RTA. Managed to drive home and have a shower before a small cry and heading off on a week away for work on no sleep.
I don’t really cry, i internalise a lot but I’m not a crier.
If it’s been a shit day at work, I leave it behind me when I clock off (in my home office) and literally don’t think about it until the next day.
Personal stress is different as you can’t escape it but on the whole I think things though and decide what I can do to make an effective difference. I’m quite a rational person.
It’s definitely worth seeking more help if you’re feeling like you’re struggling 💐 I’d love to say with confidence that help is out there but based on my own experiences for one of my dc of late I can’t say that I fully believe it. BUT you’ll never regret asking for more support, could you call the gp Monday morning?

Im sorry about your relative 💐 I will do an econsult Monday. Thank you for your kind advice.

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