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Has anyone been brave enough to leave a WhatsApp group

64 replies

Icedteame · 07/10/2023 17:11

No one has done anything to upset me or anything, I just feel I don't have much in common with these people any more. They're all older than me and it was set up with the intention of meeting up, but only happens a few times a year, and I haven't attended the last couple because I've no real interest, otherwise there's the usual chitchat goes on in the group chat which I don't really contribute to.

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Berninaa · 07/10/2023 17:14

Yes, when I didn’t like the chat and the person who set up the group fell out with everyone. I’ve spent my life being very careful online and didn’t want this person involved in knowing my story given their behaviour, just do it.

Lovethatforyouhun · 07/10/2023 17:14

Do it. Only the admin gets notified.

Life is too short for the constant chatter.
Even if you mute and archive you can still see the messages waiting. Drives me mad!

If someone wants to contact you they can directly.

ProvisionsOnTheDock · 07/10/2023 17:14

Just leave. No bravery required. Confused

Toooop · 07/10/2023 17:15

Yes! So glad I did it . Took me a very long time to get the courage but very glad I did.

Toooop · 07/10/2023 17:16

Go for it :) I left because I hadn't seen them in almost a year, I was pretty much the only one trying to arrange anything and was constantly met with silence or busy excuses.

BarbaraofSeville · 07/10/2023 17:16

Gotta love Mumsnet.

The place where people will walk alone through a forest at midnight without a care in the world, but won't open their front door if they're not expecting anyone and think that you need to be 'brave' to leave a Whatsapp group. Confused

Cowlover89 · 07/10/2023 17:18

Just do it. Leave it.

avocadotofu · 07/10/2023 17:20

Definitely go for it!

enchantedsquirrelwood · 07/10/2023 17:24

I wish if you archived it, it would go to the bottom of the list so you could forget about it. I want to leave a group because it's not relevant, not because I don't like the people but I might want to rejoin one day so I stay in it. But it is really annoying that Whatsapp won't let you "hide" it. Ditto FB Messenger groups.

Missflowers1981 · 07/10/2023 17:25

I leave them all the time 😂I left a work one last year which I wasn’t asked if I wanted to be added too - didn’t want the blurring between work and personal life- it worked out well as I never got the messages about someone in my team off sick or in late so could someone sort out their tasks for them. Blissful ignorance. If it was me I always used the formal work email to do this. No one ever said anything to me about leaving because it’s not a requirement of my job to be on a WhatsApp group.

Social WhatsApp I set up a dinner or lunch for that date then immediately archive it after the event - no one continuously posts in or wants to.
it’s not a massive deal to leave one - if anyone does - just say you are happy to be texted individually if they are inviting you to something.

Original poster
Icedteame · 07/10/2023 18:26

BarbaraofSeville · 07/10/2023 17:16

Gotta love Mumsnet.

The place where people will walk alone through a forest at midnight without a care in the world, but won't open their front door if they're not expecting anyone and think that you need to be 'brave' to leave a Whatsapp group. Confused

I've always been a people pleaser, worried they'll think bad of me it might seem silly but being part of this stresses me out a bit. I know only admin is notified now when you leave. Would it be a good idea to send her a text explaining why after leaving?

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piesforever · 07/10/2023 19:14

Yes, done it loads

underneaththeash · 07/10/2023 22:27

It’s not only the admin - it says ‘has left the group’
it’s easier just to text the leader of the book group and let her know that you’re too busy in the evening to attend.

HauntedPencil · 08/10/2023 08:34

I've muted a group for ages and then said sorry all feel I've no time to keep up any more, I'll leave for now and pop back in the future when time allows

HauntedPencil · 08/10/2023 08:35

If just says on the group x has left.

WildFlowerBees · 08/10/2023 08:37

I've just done it, but then I don't care what people think of me and it's just a WhatsApp group I'm not withdrawing medical aid from a war torn country.

FlopsSake · 08/10/2023 08:38

HauntedPencil · 08/10/2023 08:34

I've muted a group for ages and then said sorry all feel I've no time to keep up any more, I'll leave for now and pop back in the future when time allows

If youre never going to see these people again just do it. Or you could say a little something before leaving as suggested above

MorrisWallpaper · 08/10/2023 08:39

BarbaraofSeville · 07/10/2023 17:16

Gotta love Mumsnet.

The place where people will walk alone through a forest at midnight without a care in the world, but won't open their front door if they're not expecting anyone and think that you need to be 'brave' to leave a Whatsapp group. Confused

Don’t forget you also need to be extremely brave to do the school run, what with all the hostile ‘cliques’ giving you side eye , and to go to the cinema alone, in case people think you’re ‘weird’.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 08/10/2023 08:39

Lovethatforyouhun · 07/10/2023 17:14

Do it. Only the admin gets notified.

Life is too short for the constant chatter.
Even if you mute and archive you can still see the messages waiting. Drives me mad!

If someone wants to contact you they can directly.

No, a message is posted on the chat " .... has left the group."

RocketIceLollie · 08/10/2023 08:42

When you get to 40 you sort of lose the care of offending what sounds like a bunch of strangers over something so simple as leaving a WhatsApp group. If you're not feeling it anymore go for it and leave the chat.

DimOGwbl · 08/10/2023 09:13

Then when you leave change your settings so that you can only receive invitations to join groups and people can't automatically join you up.

horizontilting · 08/10/2023 09:16

The "x has left the group" message is no longer posted. Only the admin sees now.

https://faq.whatsapp.com/678712076864311/?cms_platform=web

Almondmum · 08/10/2023 09:20

You could always post a brief message along the lines of 'life's busy at the moment and I don't seem to be able to make any of the meet ups so I'll say goodbye for now. If anything changes I'll get in touch'

Weird that someone upthread seems to think all mumsnetters are the same type of person though. What has any of the stuff listed got to do with this poster?!

floofbag · 08/10/2023 09:28

Just archive it if you do t want to leave

Blondeshavemorefun · 08/10/2023 09:35

Lovethatforyouhun · 07/10/2023 17:14

Do it. Only the admin gets notified.

Life is too short for the constant chatter.
Even if you mute and archive you can still see the messages waiting. Drives me mad!

If someone wants to contact you they can directly.

Everyone will see they left as will say xxx left on the group chat

But it doesn't matter