Oh dear, I may have done something rash

[Softnatural]

A male friend (acquaintance really) has booked a physical challenge event in a foreign city for next spring. He put the details on FB and asked if anyone wants to join him.

For various reasons something to train for and look forward to plus a trip away might be just what I need ATM. We have lots of mutual friends and when he's done these things in the past there's usually been a big group, althoguh ive never joined before. I've booked the event at a cost of E120, committed to the accomodation costs and just need to arrange flights.

It seems it may just be me and him! In the spirit of adventure, what's the worst that can happen? If nothing else, it will keep the gossips occupied for a while. They'll think all their Christmases have come at once 🤣 We're both single BTW so no one else's feelings to be considered.

All competitors are independent, we'll just travel together.

Yes there was always a risk, I'm having a bit of a "go for it" phase.

Let them talk!
Did you have a thread about this earlier in the week where you said you actually quite fancied the guy . . . ?

You're not joined at the hip. And presumably you're in a hotel? Do the event - and if you find you don't want to join him for meals/sightseeing, just do your own thing. Don't even need to travel with him if you don't want to. Try to avoid late-night drinks if common sense and decorum are likely to fly out the window after you've had a few.

I have no objection to travelling with him at all. I don't know what he thinks. I do know what mutual friends will think 😆

If this was a film, we all know where this is going to go @Softnatural .😁
This is the stuff of a RomCom writer dreams.

I can see it all now

Hang on, is the ‘rash’ thing that you’ve signed on for a triathlon or something or that you’re doing it with a single male friend? Why would the latter be ‘rash’? I mean, you’ve managed not to fall into his trousers so far, and I assume you’ve known him for a while, so why would your friends think that this would involve anything more than comparing blisters afterwards? Do you want to peel off his running shorts/wetsuit/event costume?

I’m not athletic, but I’ve done long distance walks and mountain climbing with a single male friend when single and no one shagged anyone when summiting…

Yes, I've met him many times. We chat often about this shared interest, it's just never moved beyond that into friend territory. We live close, he's organised accomodation, it would be weird not to travel together. I'm not worried, but it does feel quite brave.

I haven't gatecrashed his plans, the invitation was definitely aimed at me and people like me. I (and he) was just expecting there'd be more yeses.

He was a boy, she was a girl, can I make it anymore obvious? - Avril Lavigne

As part of large groups doing the sport. I've got friends in the groups - people I also see at other times, he's not one of them.

Middle aged

Well I guess now you will get to know each other better. I don't think there's anything weird about this. Maybe you'll get on really well!

My first thoughts are this is exactly what he planned!!!

🤔😂

I doubt it, I expect he's even more surprised than I am that I'm going 😆 He seems pleased though

Didn’t you have a thread on this already?

Well, me I would be getting my best dancing shoes out and making the most of a weekend with a single guy in your place. He is pleased! Ofc he is. Have fun 🤩

If you know him enough to trust him and travel with him, then ok. I’m not sure I would travel alone with just an acquaintance. I think about it and ask mutual friends what they think. But, if he IS trustworthy, then it sounds fun and you’re both single. I definitely would not get romantic with him in any way on the trip. Look at it as a getting to know him trip, if you’re interested in him that way which it sounds like you might be. Hope you have a good time!

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