Child hit son. Advice

[Reginaldperrin]

The child in question has an autism diagnosis. This is the fourth time the child has attacked my son in the last year and the half.

On the last occasion I emailed the school to ask what precautions they were putting into place to stop this behaviour. They said that the boy was going to have one to one supervision in the playground going forward. The child has also been taken out of the main class during the day because of disruptive behaviour during lessons.

On Monday during break time the child somehow ran out of the room that he was meant to be in, went into the playground and started hitting my son. Son turned around to see who it was and got punched on the nose

I received a call from the teacher who said they were very sorry and that an investigation will take place as to why this happened. I feel like there’s not much more I can do.

I’ve told my son that it’s not acceptable to be hit, and it’s not right whatever the circumstance. ( He’s very aware of the child’s diagnosis and understanding of it). Son was ok but a bit she’ll shocked. They’re 9.

Is there anything else I can do?

Tbh the fact schools are totally underfunded let alone SEN provision is well known.
I’m nit sure that automatically assuming this poster must be managing children out is quite the Got You you think it was.

Why do you think the school is asking your son to accept and rationalise it?
Have they said this?
In your posts you say they have put things in place but on this occasion the child ran away from whoever was supervising him. If so then he needs additional help. I am not sure why this equals them asking your son to accept it.

My son is autistic and violent, it fills me with absolute dread the thought of him hitting other children. We have fought since he was 2 for maximum support and 1:1, we have tried everything that OT have offered to minimise his hitting. It's absolutely exhausting he doesn't understand what he is doing and all the specialist school places are oversubscribed.

I know it's really serious and I'm absolutely not minimising it but schools just aren't equipped with enough staff to manage this. My son and many others shouldn't be in mainstream.

I’m really sorry @marketing101 it must be really stressful for you and your son. The system is clearly failing everybody.

I don't know the answer is other than my child (and perhaps the boy in question) should be looked after by specialists and safeguarded against other children. My son hits when he is dysregulated and school is awful for him he doesn't want to be there.

I do understand it must be awful for you son but just to say, I doubt the parents of this boy wouldn't be feeling horrendous and imagine how many times a day they get attacked? I've had black eyes, bleedings, cut lip etc. It's very tough.

@marketing101 I’m so sorry. I really do have absolute sympathy with the family. It’s why I’ve felt unsure about how best to proceed, but having read all the comments on here it seems that putting a formal complaint in o the school might actually be helpful for everybody.

You have my thoughts, it must be really hard.

To add to this, in some areas, mine included there are so few SEN schools.

Taxis have to be arranged for the students of these SEN schools because it's the only one for miles, we have one in our town, with 1000 spaces, and can only get into it once referred from mainstream.

My own SEN child is in mainstream now. I'd homeschool if I wasn't a single parent below the poverty line and could guarantee a steady stream of income to keep us afloat. The staff at our mainstream school are fantastic and my son at home is not violent at all because his needs are accommodated but at school it's so different. He's needs can't be met in mainstream. No kid deserves to be hit, and no kid deserves to have their needs unmet, and no child deserves complete and total isolation.

Schools will beg for funding, parents beg for EHCPs and 121s, especially ones that cover break times, meanwhile all that happens is LA refuses funding.

It's no win.

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I can't believe that. It's supposed to be a primary school, not a fight club.

Secondly some people are saying for the child to hit back but that is absolutely not the answer.