Manners are they lost ?

[nobabiesyet]

Maybe it's me being grumpy - but I notice fewer people saying thank you etc for things both big favours and small.
In recent months a wedding - money requested - and although I prefer not to give money for various reasons - did so - no thank you card - and it's well after honeymoon etc.
We had friends over from away - and cooked an expensive meal from scratch - not so much as a text to say thank you. They are friends they don't cook for us and I don't mind. They never come empty handed (generous with wine and chocs) ,but just a text would be nice. It's nice to get wine, but the hours cookig and shopping take a lot. I'm sure a few years back they would have sent a card. This seems to be the norm - I can't believe after hosting other people for a mini break and the effort involved - changing beds, cooking, hosting that people don;t bother saying thank you anymore.
I'm taking a hard line with nieces and nephews - who are mid 20's who are quick to cash cheques - but don't acknowledge. Is it just me, I realise now the art of card sending seems past, but I can't believe people who are glued to their phones can't say thank you.

I've just come back from a shopping visit to a nearby town - people driving very aggressively, and when I've let them out, or waved them through - again no acknowledgement. People seem quite rude - maybe it's me. But a smile and acknowledgement just seems no effort but nice.

So, thank you to all those that have commented. I 'don't have a lot of spare time on my hands' Twilight Skies. It was a weekend and I was musing whilst driving back from the shops - and thought I'll post it on Chat because I was genuinely interested in others' experiences and I thought that was what Chat was for .

It seems that there are others who feel the same and some rather hurt people. Maybe a lack of thanks/ manners makes people feel unseen and unappreciated.

And yet there are also people who think 'no it isn't rude'. I did find it interesting that all those who said it wasn't rude never said: I personally write x ££ cheques to family and I am never thanked and that's absoutely fine. Interesting. Moving on. I'm stopping cheques to adult family who don't thank, just a card. I'll suck up the wedding and friends well, they are good friends ,but maybe if they don't return the meals/or thanks then I'll suggest meeting in a restaurant. I'll try and keep being polite - thanks all .