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Do men ever daydream about marrying someone?

31 replies

madeinmanc · 29/09/2023 09:26

Haven't we all done it? Met a lovely guy and pictured marrying them and settling down, having their babies etc. Do you think men ever think like this or is it all sex thoughts for them?

Edit: I don't just mean having a wedding as such, I mean lots of people/most just move in these days so substitute that if marriage isn't your thing

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BMW6 · 29/09/2023 09:28

I very much doubt it. There wouldn't be the time in-between thinking about sex and football.

KandieKaine · 29/09/2023 09:37

I think for men it would be living like James Bond , or being a wealthy sports star / actor and every woman dying to get into his bed so he has the pick . 😂

jiinglebells · 29/09/2023 09:39

They're too busy thinking about the Roman Empire.

MargotBamborough · 29/09/2023 09:45

Do you mean do they daydream about getting married, or getting married to someone specific?

Hillrunning · 29/09/2023 09:46

What a sad way to view other humans, both the op and the responses. Some men will, just like some women will. We haven't 'all done it' I certainly never day dreamed about such things. As and when the relationships progressed I considered them and if they were options I wanted but never day dreamed. Not all women are vapid marriage and babies obsessed and not all men are vapid football and sex obsessed. Maybe just see each other as humans?
My two most common day dreams are about becoming a great dj and winning a Nobel prize. My husbands are being a professional piano player and being able to fly.

determinedtomakethiswork · 29/09/2023 09:50

Oh, my son, definitely did and a lot of his friends did as well! They weren't really thinking of the big day or anything like that, but just finding someone that was just for them. They are very romantic.

Sarahconnor1 · 29/09/2023 09:52

Haven't we all done it? Met a lovely guy and pictured marrying them and settling down, having their babies etc

I'm fairly certain there are women who haven't done this either. I certainly never have.

SoRainbowRhythms · 29/09/2023 09:53

Some might. Some might not. They're not some homogeneous mass of humans.

whereaw · 29/09/2023 09:54

Yes but not me! Grin

SouthLondonMum22 · 29/09/2023 09:55

I'm sure some men do, they are just less likely to talk about it because society would call them weak, feminine etc.

I love football, my DH doesn't
I never 'dreamed' about getting married/having children, yet it is something my DH has always wanted

Men are different
Women are different.

MangshorJhol · 29/09/2023 09:57

I have just asked DH. He’s a lovely sweet man. No interest in any sport. Anyway he looked a bit weirdly at me and then said he had imagined meeting someone and having a nice life/kids with them. And apparently when he met me he thought: she’ll do.
??!!!!!!!
I promise you he’s more romantic than that in real life. and a really good husband or dad.
He’s now regretting this conversation. 🤣🤣

Prettypaisleyslippers · 29/09/2023 10:00

I know men who have day dreamed about having a partner and DC. One male friend is pining for DC that he is unlikely to ever have.

ohdamnitjanet · 29/09/2023 10:03

My 24 yr old ds definitely really wants to find someone, be in love, and have children.

MargotBamborough · 29/09/2023 10:15

I think everyone is different really.

I was just thinking about my male cousin, who I saw recently. He's 25, about to turn 26, and single. I think he definitely thinks about meeting someone to marry and have kids with. And I'm sure he will because he's absolutely lovely and kind and hardworking and good looking, so I have no doubt that he will meet someone who sees those qualities in him.

My husband says that he didn't really think about it until we got together, but once we were in a relationship he definitely pictured doing those things with me specifically.

So I think some people think about doing it in an abstract sense, i.e. meeting "someone" and getting married, whereas other people only think about it in a concrete sense, i.e. marrying "this person" once they are already in a relationship with someone.

That said, my cousin is actually the same age my husband was when we first got together so that means they were both thinking about it by the age of 26 ish.

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madeinmanc · 29/09/2023 10:18

Interesting, I was expecting most people to say "no". You learn something every day, I suppose.

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MargotBamborough · 29/09/2023 10:20

I can definitely think of a lot of men who think about having kids, and I assume that for the large majority of them they see that as part of a package which includes being in a long term relationship with a woman, because you obviously can't have kids without a woman.

FloydPepper · 29/09/2023 10:20

BMW6 · 29/09/2023 09:28

I very much doubt it. There wouldn't be the time in-between thinking about sex and football.

Hilarious 🙄🙄

of course some of us do, we’re just normal people like (most) women

QPWO · 29/09/2023 10:23

I have never imagined that about a man who I wasn’t in a relationship and in love with (so, once..) and even then half the daydream is wondering if he’d do a fair share of looking after ‘his babies’

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madeinmanc · 29/09/2023 10:24

Yeah, of course men are normal people but it's clear that sex is what drives them in a way that it doesn't most women. How many women do you know who masturbate several times a day to all kinds of acts online? Or bankrupt themselves paying for men to strip off online?

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Unexpectedlysinglemum · 29/09/2023 10:27

Yes of course there are some very romantic men out there

Enko · 29/09/2023 10:29

Ds age 21 does to some extent. He speaks of putting together his home and has visions of him and girlfriend. He has spoken to his mates about what type of weddings they want.

MojoDojoCasaHouse · 29/09/2023 10:29

My DH definitely did, even more so after he met me. He’s very content and loyal wants he has someone though.

My cousin joined a religious group in his mid twenties largely to meet the type of girl who wanted to get married and have DC. He felt most young woman wanted to party and that wasn’t for him.

SouthLondonMum22 · 29/09/2023 10:31

madeinmanc · 29/09/2023 10:24

Yeah, of course men are normal people but it's clear that sex is what drives them in a way that it doesn't most women. How many women do you know who masturbate several times a day to all kinds of acts online? Or bankrupt themselves paying for men to strip off online?

It's less socially acceptable for women to enjoy sex, they are judged far more harshly than men in many ways when it comes to sex so I'm not sure you'd meet many women bragging about how many times they may or may not masturbate each day.

FloydPepper · 29/09/2023 10:32

madeinmanc · 29/09/2023 10:24

Yeah, of course men are normal people but it's clear that sex is what drives them in a way that it doesn't most women. How many women do you know who masturbate several times a day to all kinds of acts online? Or bankrupt themselves paying for men to strip off online?

I don’t personally know any men who do that either…

RaininSummer · 29/09/2023 10:35

I have never done that so I guess there are probably women who do and men who do and loads who never will.