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Theee most annoying thing about parent’s whatsapp group?

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KeepNameChanging81 · 25/09/2023 18:23

Laura: Georgie has lost her PE Top please could you check their bags when they get home?

Cue….29 mum’s saying:

sorry ‘Henry hasn’t got it hope you find it’

’not with Emily, really hope it’s found’

’Hi Laura; must catch up on that coffee with you me and Emma and sorry it’s not with Tom hope you find it soon’

’ha ha ha not again didn't Georgie do that last week, sorry not with us’

’Hi sorry Jane is at dance and she’s back at 7 so ill
check her bag then’

WHY?!! If you haven’t got it don’t say you haven’t got it!!! FFS! Just if you’ve got it let the parent know so my phone isn’t pinging every two mins.

What’s the most annoying parent whatsapp on your parent group?

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Gro · 25/09/2023 21:10

The class Whatsapp makes me question how people function on a day to day basis.

Jenny left her pinafore at school. She came home in her pe kit after football club. What do I do tomorrow?
Can I send her in in her PE kit?

I mean, what would this woman have done in the 90's? Send Jenny in in her pants and hope for the best?

SoGladofYou · 25/09/2023 21:11

Class Rep here. People who pm me to ask what time sports day is starting when I’ve posted it on the group only the day before 😫

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 25/09/2023 21:11

Haveyouseenthemuffinman · 25/09/2023 20:39

Calling it “year 2 mums” or whatever and having lots of lolz that maybe, you know, Dads might get involved in the stuff it ought to be about like tomorrow’s PE kit or Friday’s school trip.

then moaning that their DH/DP would never do that and aren’t we lucky that we had higher standards about who we mixed our genes with our other halves do stuff.

God yes! When DD1 started primary, I never did the school run because I was a teacher. I asked if DH could join so he knew and was told no because it was just for mums. 🤨 Still annoyed about that.

NowWhattt · 25/09/2023 21:11

chuffachuffchuff · 25/09/2023 21:06

I have a mum who screenshots all the letters sent to the app and then sends them onto us. Annoys me that I see the letter in the app then she sends it on again!!

Yes!!!

I think they are just full of self importance. It makes them think that they’re special.

chuffachuffchuff · 25/09/2023 21:11

@Gro we are in the same WhatsApp group!!

NowWhattt · 25/09/2023 21:12

😁

deltablue · 25/09/2023 21:13

KeepNameChanging81 · 25/09/2023 18:23

Laura: Georgie has lost her PE Top please could you check their bags when they get home?

Cue….29 mum’s saying:

sorry ‘Henry hasn’t got it hope you find it’

’not with Emily, really hope it’s found’

’Hi Laura; must catch up on that coffee with you me and Emma and sorry it’s not with Tom hope you find it soon’

’ha ha ha not again didn't Georgie do that last week, sorry not with us’

’Hi sorry Jane is at dance and she’s back at 7 so ill
check her bag then’

WHY?!! If you haven’t got it don’t say you haven’t got it!!! FFS! Just if you’ve got it let the parent know so my phone isn’t pinging every two mins.

What’s the most annoying parent whatsapp on your parent group?

Can I just say- I had EXACTLY THAT RANT word for word yesterday with a friend ! Drives me INSANE. 😱

chuffachuffchuff · 25/09/2023 21:13

@NowWhattt some of them say oh what would we do without you?! Read the letter like everyone else?!!!!!

Pascha · 25/09/2023 21:13

They don't like the new teacher on mine. One parent is specifically saying "this isn't a witch hunt" when it BLATANTLY is.

I have muted (again) and walked away. FWIW I think the teacher is alright and I will tell her so when I see her.

SavBlancTonight · 25/09/2023 21:16

SoGladofYou · 25/09/2023 21:11

Class Rep here. People who pm me to ask what time sports day is starting when I’ve posted it on the group only the day before 😫

And this is why no normal person can cope with being a class rep or manager for a sports team for more than a year or two.

I feel your pain. And rage.

Recent whatsapp group for ds sports team, "is Jack in the team this weekend?". This is after the manager had been posting links to the app, reminders to check the app for team selection etc.

Jack was NOT in the team.

Aozora13 · 25/09/2023 21:16

Argh! I feel your pain. My DCs’ primary school has a 4 form intake. There’s a year WhatsApp group and one per class. For some reason the new reception parents have taken to posting about the lost jumpers on the year group not the class so we have 4 times the crap. I’m especially enjoying all the “has anyone seen Arabella’s plain grey non-name labelled jumper which is identical to approximately 120 others and has zero distinguishing features” - good luck with that one love. Made it to week 2 but now firmly muted.

prescribingmum · 25/09/2023 21:18

Needmorelego · 25/09/2023 20:17

This is weird.....there was another thread today about being ignored by the "school mum clique" yet here is a system for school mum's to talk to each other (just in an online version) and you are all complaining about it.
What do people want..... fellow school parents to talk to each other or ignore each other?
Everyone seems to simultaneously hate the fellow parents at their children's school yet also doesn't want to be left out and ignored.
All so odd.

Agree, I really don’t get the MN angst about school mums and treating them like they are a brand new breed that no one has ever encountered.

Arrange a social outside the group and people post to say they’ve been left out. Do it in the group then people are disturbing them

Mute or leave the group if it’s an issue. It’s really not that difficult.

I have multiple groups in my phone I don’t wish to engage in for various reasons. I keep them muted and have a look through messages when it suits me

My only complaint are those who don’t put their names on their profile - it’s impossible to work out who you are in any context or group when your name is a smiley🤦🏻‍♀️

HebeMumsnet · 25/09/2023 21:18

Weekly complaints about how 'grey' the school uniform is and how upsetting the children apparently find it (they don't), is my Whatsapp bugbear.

I struggle not to reply: "This is not 'Hi-De-Hi'. What is it you are after exactly? If a grey jumper is too much to bear, please do seek a scholarship at Ronald McDonald's School For The Terminally Jolly and good luck to you."

Phew.

I didn't realise quite how angry I was about this, actually.

hatewhereIlive · 25/09/2023 21:21

I’m definitely in the camp of “don’t reply if you haven’t got it”.

Our WhatsApp isn’t actually that bad, the only thing that annoys me is when people use it to ask questions about things which are nothing to do with school (spare tickets for sale, holiday recommendations, sponsorship requests, advertising their business etc). These do usually seem to be met with tumbleweed so I guess I’m not the only one.

NowWhattt · 25/09/2023 21:21

I know!! We’ve just had another one now.. literally.

Yet it’s already been on the school facebook page and sent via the app and also on the school email. But it’s now been sent again. With a bold highlight too to let us know.

DuranNotSpandeau · 25/09/2023 21:26

Ha ha ha this has really cheered me up (to know you all get to deal with the same nutjobs as I have to).

Our self-proclaimed wannabe-teacher reminded us all to email the school to let them know if our kids will be off for secondary school tours as it will help with lesson planning. Really, so if 4 kids are spending an hour at Dumpster Academy on Wednesday, the class teacher is going to say "let's bin Maths off and watch Harry Potter instead"?

I think her 2023 KPI's were 1) screenshot every communication from school and add it to the chat within 1.25 seconds, 2) communicate PE days every week, 2a) KPI is missed if you forget to send a reminder that there's no PE on Monday due to it being a Bank Holiday, 3) use of smileys must be inversely proportional to level of message's sincerity/passive aggressiveness.

CarbsAreNotMyFriend · 25/09/2023 21:27

The hell that is class group chats 🤯

The solution to the missing jumper is in the phrasing of the question. It should be 'if anyone finds Tarquin's jumper can you let me know, thanks!'

NOT....'can everyone check school bags for Tarquin' missing jumper please?' Because this encourages replies!

But overall the chats are useful and good fodder for side chats 👀

NowWhattt · 25/09/2023 21:27

Oh that’s unkind.

How awful to do that. Poor teacher .

UpperLowerMiddleClass · 25/09/2023 21:27

The parents with too much time on their hands who seem to be waiting for the school to make one small error (in their eyes) so they can dissect it in detail on WhatsApp.

For example we’ve recently had outrage that the school didn’t immediately text parents when the coach arrived safety at a school trip venue. And before that it was a minor substitution in a school dinner eg roast potatoes being served instead of mash.

How to people summon up the energy to care about these kind of things?!

BatteryPoweredMammy · 25/09/2023 21:31

I don’t think we have school WhatsApp groups here? I’ve never encountered any in Primary or Secondary so far. 🤔😂

MrsALambert · 25/09/2023 21:31

I work at DSs school so generally keep out of the WhatsApp group. Occasionally the mums will all be having a good moan about something and it entertains me to comment as the chat suddenly goes silent as they’ve clearly forgotten I’m on it.

There is definitely a ‘year 2 without MrsALambert’ group 🤣

SomersetBrie · 25/09/2023 21:33

SleepingStandingUp · 25/09/2023 18:27

Surely it's polite to acknowledge you've looked, not just ignored it.

You can PM the person individually if you want to let them know you looked.
The other 28 people in the group don't need to know you looked. Unless you found it, which then saves them looking.

Fedupwitheveryone · 25/09/2023 21:33

wow i hadn't realised how lucky i was with my relatively quiet, sane and restrained class whats app chat. essential info only. (we have splintered off into our our own 'cliques' for our specialised gossip and bitching, but leave the main class chats to be used as they should be ;-)

TheYearOfSmallThings · 25/09/2023 21:33

ZenNudist · 25/09/2023 18:28

The Woman whowaits for school to send a letter then asks everyone else what it says. Click on the attachment Woman!

Same Woman repeatedly asks what day PE is, what uniform requirements are for a particular day and doesn't seem capable of knowing when term starts and ends.

I am that woman, and I apologise.

UndercoverCop · 25/09/2023 21:34

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