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Bottomless Brunch?

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missingyears · 22/09/2023 00:07

I've been invited along to a 'bottomless brunch' with some very good friends for a birthday celebration. I'm really looking forward to it. But......what happens after the brunch??

We are booked in from midday until 2pm.

Do you just go home and go to sleep? Or do you stay out drinking? I'm very worried about what happens next!

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GarlicGrace · 22/09/2023 00:10

Depends whether you're still sober enough to get served in a pub, I guess.

Why not ask the others?

singl · 22/09/2023 00:11

It’s nothing to worry about. Some people might stay out, some might run errands, some might go home. I’ve done all 3 in the past. Bottomless brunch doesn’t mean you’ll get wasted either - you know your own limits so stick to it. It’s just another day. I think the fact the birthday celebration has been booked for brunch suggests the birthday person doesn’t want a night cap

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missingyears · 22/09/2023 00:30

Well to be honest, I don't go out that often, and I'm really looking forward to this bottomless brunch.

I kinda hope that some of the others will want to stay out after. But they might choose to go home. I'm a bit worried about being the only one left at 2pm who is slightly tipsy with nothing to do next!

So I'm trying to make a plan for myself for what to do. I don't drink often, but I do know that I can get a bit overexcited when I do have a drink. And this is very early in the day.

If my friends go home after our brunch, I would be tempted to carry on the party on my own. So I just need to think ahead, about what I will or won't do

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flappersdelight · 22/09/2023 00:34

Do you just go home and go to sleep?

This really made me laugh OP 😂

Hope you have fun whatever you decide to do after!

singl · 22/09/2023 00:38

@missingyears so message the people that are going and ask if they want to do anything after? You could book afternoon tea, cinema, a restaurant, a spa, whatever you like to do?

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missingyears · 22/09/2023 00:39

@flappersdelight thank you! I'm glad I made you laugh!! I predict that I won't want to just go home and go to sleep

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CurlyhairedAssassin · 22/09/2023 00:39

You sound a bit anxious over something that should be enjoyable. Is there more to this? Do you have a history of making silly decisions when you’ve had too much to drink and are worried there will be no-one there to tell you when you’ve had enough?

Iwannadancewithsomebody88 · 22/09/2023 00:42

We've often made activity plans after a bottomless brunch such as crazy golf, bowling, darts (can be dangerous though!) And then people have a choice to carry on drinking through the activity or stop but stay for extra fun. Normally most people carry on drinking and it's last man standing 😂😂

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missingyears · 22/09/2023 00:45

@CurlyhairedAssassin yes I have been pretty sensible for the last few years, but previously I do have a history of being a bit reckless. I'm definitely more cautious now. The other people who are coming to the brunch have always been more responsible than myself. So yeah, I'm a bit worried about what happens next. Probably because the others will be able to say,that was nice, I'm going home now, and I'm not sure about myself.

Ideally I would like them all to stay out for a few hours after the official brunch finishes

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missingyears · 22/09/2023 00:47

@Iwannadancewithsomebody88 I like this! I'm going to have a look into nearby activities. I know that there are bumper cars and a ferris wheel nearby, that could be perfect

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JaxiiTaxii · 22/09/2023 00:48

Ive only done one 12-2

We had brunch & cocktails and then moved on to a pub where we sat and drank and chatted til 7.

I was frankly amazed. We had a great day, didn't get wildly drunk and no hangover the next morning!

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missingyears · 22/09/2023 01:25

@JaxiiTaxii that sounds lovely! That is exactly how I would like my afternoon to be :)

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NoTeaNoShade · 22/09/2023 05:29

Just don't go shopping afterwards - I once spent £250 on underwear in M&S after brunching as my f-it button had been pressed 😂. Drunk me has v good taste in bras apparently so that's good to know!

ginandlemonade23 · 22/09/2023 05:48

Usually out for drinks after somewhere else and get home between 9-midnight and no hangover next day :)

BMrs · 22/09/2023 07:15

People mostly stay out afterwards, that's kind of implied. But if you're unsure you could ask in the group chat if everyone is planning on staying out after?

RigorMortisRadio · 22/09/2023 07:20

Any that I've been to we always stay out afterwards, normally until around 7-9pm then grab a takeaway and go home to bed!

swimminglessonadvice · 22/09/2023 07:21

Last one I went to we stayed out, but we were home by 10pm and got a good night’s sleep!

gogomoto · 22/09/2023 07:23

I went to one with dd and dsd, we then went to see a film - I fell asleep (usually do at the cinema to be honest). The girls loved it, personally I prefer my alcohol to be quality rather than bottomless (yes you can call me a wine snob)

ValkyrieAssassin · 22/09/2023 07:29

NoTeaNoShade · 22/09/2023 05:29

Yes this. I once went to a brunch and afterwards we all went to a local boutique jewellery shop. Not too bad for me as I spent only 100 or so but one friend spent nearly two grand and was still paying her credit card off the following year when we did it all over again!

DinosApple · 22/09/2023 07:33

We did an escape room (badly) then an 80s disco after a bottomless brunch. It was lots of fun.

donkra · 22/09/2023 07:35

I can never help but picture everyone hanging around a buffet in their knickers when I hear that phrase.

This public service broadcast is now over.

hollyblueivy · 22/09/2023 07:36

Send a message on the group chat to say you're looking forward to an afternoon catch up and who is up for drinks elsewhere after brunch?

At least you'll know if you'll have another drinking partner. Brunch is great to wet the whistle and you often find the time flies by and no one is ready to go straight after.

It's nice to sometimes have a change of scenery so moving to another bar might be nice. You could see if anywhere has 2 for 1 cocktails on offer.

Have fun! Let us know how it went x

WandaWonder · 22/09/2023 07:36

I would be careful assuming assuming anything, if it was me going I may have said I will go pit afterwards but after the event may choose not too

People should not be held to anything more than going to brunch 12-2pm

Of course they may choose to go out afterwards or not so I would pay it by ear and just go with the flow

Do not over complicate it, if you can't handle then saying whatever they feel like at the time don't ask them

ivfbabymomma1 · 22/09/2023 07:37

Ha ha I wouldn't get wasted at 12pm one! Maybe a few mimosas!!

If it was 2/3 that wound be another story 😂

sm40 · 22/09/2023 07:47

If they do all go home, time to rethink your friends 😂.
Usually drink until 7ish, go home, hangover happens whist sleeping and wake up feeling ok.
Send a message on group and just ask is anyone up for a few drinks after as you are just planning the rest of the day.

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