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Is this weird or should I suggest it?

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EmmaGrundyForPM · 20/09/2023 13:40

We are hosting Christmas this year. We've recently moved to a 3 bedroomed house with one reception room and a study (previously in a 4 bed with 2 reception rooms).

There will be 8 of us - me and DH, my Mum and her partner, my cousin and her partner, and then our two adult sons.

Each couple can have a bedroom, and one son can have an air mattress in the study. Which leaves one son without somewhere to sleep. Not enough room in the study for a second air bed.

DH thinks DS2 should sleep in the living/dining room. However, this means there would be a bed in the room which would be a real pain, even if we bought a fold up bed there's still the bedding etc and having to put it up and down every day/night.

Our bedroom is a really good size so I suggested to DH that DS could sleep in there with us, on an air mattress on the floor. DH was horrified at the idea and said it was weird.

I think that at Christmas families have to pile in together. It would only be for 2 pr 3 nights.

DH doesn't think I should mention it to DS. However, two years ago DS went to his girlfriends for Christmas and I know he and girlfriend shared a room with her brother as there weren't enough beds to go round.

So, would it be weird to suggest it to DS? Obviously he would have the choice but the fold up or air bed and bedding would need to be put away as soon as we get up if he opts for the reception room.

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EmmaGrundyForPM · 20/09/2023 13:42

Sorry, should have also said that my mum is suggesting she hosts instead as they have a large 5 bed house. For various reasons I really don't want to go to hers so am trying to ensure I have a solid answer as to where everyone will sleep the next time she says that our house isn't big enough for a family Christmas.

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cruffinsmuffin · 20/09/2023 13:44

Definitely no room for two air mattresses in the study?

Tbh I don't think it's that weird he's on your floor in a bed, but I also know I wouldn't want to sleep on the floor in my mums room so it's a bit of both 😂

A tent perhaps?

CaptainMyCaptain · 20/09/2023 13:45

Not weird at all.

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WmFnKdSg1234 · 20/09/2023 13:46

Yeah it's weird for someone to be in the bedroom with you and your DH I think.

TBH I would either let your mum host or look at Premier Inn or similar for someone or a couple to reduce the no. of people sleeping overnight. Is it one bathroom and toilet?

RunningOnHope · 20/09/2023 13:48

Not weird at all - as you say, it's only for a couple of nights. But if he's an introvert he might struggle with not having any private space in a family christmas, which is the same whether he's in your room or the reception room.

MummyDummyNow · 20/09/2023 13:52

I'm confused why would it be weird for parents to share a room with their sons? Am I missing something?

Justaredherring · 20/09/2023 14:13

How old are your sons?

Hummingbird233 · 20/09/2023 14:15

Why can't they sleep on the sofa?

TheChosenTwo · 20/09/2023 14:20

I wouldn’t want to share a bed with my parents and they wouldn’t want to share with me either.
I actually don’t really like sharing a room even with dh 😂
Offer him the front room though. Bit shit but if it’s better than going to your mums then there will need to be a compromise.

ZuliKyanLarsFoz · 20/09/2023 14:29

I would be getting him to keep this bag/things in your bedroom or the study and then having an air mattress/camp bed in the living room which can be tidied away quickly each morning. I wouldn't be keen on sharing a room with my parents...feels a bit odd.

givemushypeasachance · 20/09/2023 14:35

I that circumstance I'd much rather have "my own space" by sleeping on an air mattress in a room by myself, whether that's a living room, kitchen, whatever, rather than on the floor of someone else's bedroom. People snore and roll over nosily and all sorts, I don't want to disturb other people or be disturbed myself.

HaddawayAndShite · 20/09/2023 14:37

As a grown adult I would rather pay to sleep in a hotel and taxis no matter the cost of Christmas price hikes than have to kip on my mam and dads bedroom floor.

Is that much of an effort to carry some bedding and an air bed up and down the stairs twice a day?

Talkwhilstyouwalk · 20/09/2023 14:37

I think it's fine!

cocksstrideintheevening · 20/09/2023 14:41

There are so many in my family we sleep wherever we can find a space at Christmas, I've slept in with my parents and sister, parents in bed, air mattresses on the floor for us. It's only a couple of nights.

ScarlettDarling · 20/09/2023 14:42

I’d rather have my own space but in what world is it weird??

Totallyterrific · 20/09/2023 14:47

How old are the children? Tricky to answer without knowing that

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 20/09/2023 16:28

Does your mum live near by? Could some people stay there?

rbe78 · 20/09/2023 17:08

MummyDummyNow · 20/09/2023 13:52

I'm confused why would it be weird for parents to share a room with their sons? Am I missing something?

I think you're missing the fact that her sons are grown ups.

Do you share your Mum and Dad's room when you go visit them?

Miniminiminimalist · 20/09/2023 17:20

Sounds like my idea of hell sharing a small house with that many adults! But I know I'm a bit weird that way.

I don't think it's necessarily weird. My sister had to share with me and dh once and it wasn't my favourite thing but it was OK and we honestly didn't have a choice in that case

Worriednanof1 · 20/09/2023 17:40

I think it's fine although i guess it depends on the relationships people have with their offspring.

Saz12 · 20/09/2023 18:33

If its wierd for DH to share as a couple, then DH & both DS in the bedroom, you in the study?

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EmmaGrundyForPM · 20/09/2023 19:39

Thanks for all the comments. There doesn't seem to be a consensus!

Mum lives 4 hours away which is partly why I don't want to traipse over to hers. DH and I both work FT whereas Mum and her partner are retired.

I'm not sure why the age of our sons is relevant, I've said they are adults. As it happens, they are both in their mid 20s. DS1 lives an hour away, DS2 lives about 4 hours away and doesn't have a car so will get a train to his brothers and then they will both come here. It would be really difficult for DS2 to get to my Mums by public transport.

DS2 is fairly easy going, unlike DS1. Which is why DS1 will get the study! Definitely not room for a second airbed in there

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EmmaGrundyForPM · 20/09/2023 19:41

Hummingbird233 · 20/09/2023 14:15

Why can't they sleep on the sofa?

Because DS1 is 6ft1 and DS2 is 6ft 2, they just wouldn't fit!

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MuggleMe · 20/09/2023 19:43

I mean, I'd give him the option if, knowing him, you're not immediately discounting it.

Mummypete · 20/09/2023 19:43

Do you have a Premier Inn or Travelodge nearby? I booked 2 rooms at the one down the road from us at about this time last year for Christmas and it was only £35 a night.