Is this weird or should I suggest it?

[EmmaGrundyForPM]

We are hosting Christmas this year. We've recently moved to a 3 bedroomed house with one reception room and a study (previously in a 4 bed with 2 reception rooms).

There will be 8 of us - me and DH, my Mum and her partner, my cousin and her partner, and then our two adult sons.

Each couple can have a bedroom, and one son can have an air mattress in the study. Which leaves one son without somewhere to sleep. Not enough room in the study for a second air bed.

DH thinks DS2 should sleep in the living/dining room. However, this means there would be a bed in the room which would be a real pain, even if we bought a fold up bed there's still the bedding etc and having to put it up and down every day/night.

Our bedroom is a really good size so I suggested to DH that DS could sleep in there with us, on an air mattress on the floor. DH was horrified at the idea and said it was weird.

I think that at Christmas families have to pile in together. It would only be for 2 pr 3 nights.

DH doesn't think I should mention it to DS. However, two years ago DS went to his girlfriends for Christmas and I know he and girlfriend shared a room with her brother as there weren't enough beds to go round.

So, would it be weird to suggest it to DS? Obviously he would have the choice but the fold up or air bed and bedding would need to be put away as soon as we get up if he opts for the reception room.

If there is only room for
one air bed in the study, then I would probably squeeze in there with my husband, and let the boys share the bedroom.

There's a Premier Inn about 8 miles away but my Mum doesn't like driving in a strange place in the dark (we've only lived here a few months). And I'd quite like some fizz on Christmas Day.

I'm sure there is a way of us all fitting in, just not sure what to do with DS2!

This doesn't answer your question, but look up 'Duvet Know It's Christmas' for family hosting 'solutions'. Seems a lot of people have this issue...

I don't think it's weird to share with your own flesh and blood for a few nights.

Two bathrooms plus a downstairs toilet. So we should be OK from.that point of view!

As an adult, I have shared a room with my parents in a pinch so I'm voting not weird.

Definitely wouldn't want to though! The sound of my dad's snoring fills me with a blinding rage. Very glad my husband doesn't do it.

I don't love it but I've shared rooms with same-age friends on trips etc. I'd still find it weird to sleep in the same bedroom as my parents and I think if your DH is icked by it then you have to rule it out.

Find some space in the living room for a camp bed and give him a different area to leave his things (corner of the study) so you don't have too much tidying each day. Make sure you put the son who gets up the earliest in the living room :)

@FairlyOddmother I've just had a look at that site - so funny! Obviously we're not the only family having to resort to such measures

I hadn't thought of sticking DS in the garage - I think he'd freeze to death. Plus he'd be wedged in amongst all our bikes.....

In one of the bathrooms? 😀

When I was at the age of sleeping at my parents for christmas I would much rather have taken a hot water bottle to the garage than shared with my parents so that I could sleep in peace

Is it that the study only fits a single air bed, rather than a double?
I don't think your son - or anyone really, I don't see why he gets the short straw - crashing in the lounge sounds like a problem at all though. Airbed that you can just stand behind the sofa or shove in the study during the day - very low fuss.

Single air mattress and sleeping bag in living room, pick the whole lot up and dump it on your bed during the day. It's only a couple of nights. Check he is ok with that first, but it sounds like DS is used to sleeping wherever at his gf's family's so seems unlikely it's actually a problem for him.

@PinkArt the study is quite narrow with lots of crap stuff in it. I could look into a double air bed in there though if I moved some things around, and then maybe put cousin and partner in there. DS 1 and 2 could then share the 2nd spare room.

That was a solution I hadn't considered!

maybe ask him where he wants to sleep, given the circumstances. He might surprise you. Like hell would I want to sleep in a garage if there was a perfectly good bedroom to share 😀

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I think DH and the DSs in your room and you in the study.

I don't see the issue with him having an air bed in the reception room. My DB is always on the sofa bed in our living room, which is open plan to the stairs and thoroughfare to the kitchen. Once he's up, he just takes everything to the spare room where my mum stays. It's not that much of a bother to set it up and move everything.

That would mean one of them sharing a bed with DH, can't see that going down well 😂

Or with each other?

I recently went away with 20yo DS. We shared a bed some nights. I've also just been away with a female friend and shared a bed. I suppose it's what you're used to, but needs must and it doesn't seem weird to me.

As the easy going one who for that reason always ended up with the "bad" option I don't think that's fair.

Not weird, it’s family. My 27 year old ds comes and lies on my bed with me for a chat on a weekend morning sometimes when he’s staying with us. If it’s cold he gets under the duvet !

I think it would be fine OP.

That's lovely @ThroughThickAndThin01