Why am I getting nothing from Online dating?

[Privatelyliving]

It's my first tentative attempt and apart from a handful of no effort messages (how ru?) I've had nothing. Not may likes either.

I think my profile's OK. Photos are all recent, natural and smiley. I'm 53, IMO I look a lot younger than most of the 53yo men who have liked me! I'm not glamourous but I don't think I look awful. In my blurb I've been positive, mentioned a number of interests and that DC are adults.

I haven't said what I'm looking for because I'm not sure. I'm not looking for "the one" but I'm also not looking for ONS.

FTB I'm going with the fact that I sound too independent and not miserable enough , but I'd guess it's something else.

A lot of the men have written practically nothing in their profile?

If I'm honest I only joined to have a little play with it and see what happens, but I didn't expect it to be absolutely nothing!

OurTime reviews!!

Don't bother!

www.consumeraffairs.com/dating_services/ourtime.html?#reviews

Sorry that bad things are happening in your life that make you be rude to strangers on the internet. Hope you feel better soon.

@NDWifeandMan

Nah you seem very patronising in your post why shouldn't I comment ?

@Blough The comment you made about decent men not needing an app to meet women I wonder if men think the same of women.

Yeah I’ve never agreed with that perspective even before I started using dating apps. There’s all kind of reasons why people can’t meet someone IRL.

Some men do think that of women though…one man who got really angry I wouldn’t immediately give him my number said the reason for me having to “resort to find a man online” was because of my “bad attitude”.
I calmly told him to work on his anger issues and blocked him, but was tempted to ask if he had a bad attitude since he was also online looking for someone.

Oh the irony! Well rid.
IMO app presence in general depends on demographics and age groups. DH is from a farming community where everyone knows everyone and nobody is on dating apps... people see each other often enough out and about, and at various community events. When he used them (before dating me!) and went home for uni holidays it turned up.. crickets. Literally nobody for miles, although it's not that sparsely populated.
At uni, in the city/town where I love loads of up to the ages of 40 are on it. Beyond that not many, but I don't know if that's due to older people not wanting to use apps, or not many free to date in the first place.

Yeah definitely well rid 😅 he clearly had a short fuse as well as lacking in self-awareness!

I’ve actually only started using apps recently- I resisted for a long time as my dream was always to meet Mr Right in a bookshop lol but after 6 years of being single and WFH for most of that time reality struck but they’re not ideal. I’d much rather meet a guy organically and I’m still open to that if it doesn’t work out with the guy I’m currently dating.

I’ve always lived in or very close to cities and date men aged 33-44 so there’s quite a few of them on apps. It must be nice to live in close knit communities where it’s more the norm for people to meet face to face.

Sorry to say this but you sound as if you are only doing it to get some kind of confidence boost from lots of replies. But it hasnt worked because no one is replying.

You havent said so much as a single complimentary thing about any of the profiles and you have been rather harsh about their appearance and fitness levels without a second thought for them as a person. They may be older or fatter but they have as much reason to be on there as you have.

Once you start looking without judging, maybe you will get some responses. At the moment you arent even getting responses from people you dont even like

Most of them have barely bothered with a profile. There's nothing to work with.

No, they don't - I joined Our Time two days ago based on someone saying on here that it was good. I've been chatting with a few nice people over the last couple of days, but the amount of likes I've had from people who literally have put the bare minimum and don't even bother to write anything about themselves. If they can't be bothered, then I can't be bothered to talk to them. I want someone with a bit about them, who actually knows what punctuation is for and can write fluently and at some length. Not just 'u ok' and 'wot r u looking for'. Ugh, delete.