@toadasoda
The thing is, autism often leads to burnout and burnout is disabling.
My autistic son was a curious inquisitive bright button delight at 2. At 4 he was a serious boy who could read and spell and do maths with ease, who did phonics with year 2. My mother suggested Oxbridge was in his future.
At 9 he was coming adrift from his friends and rather lonely. He moved to the middle table for literacy as he worked too slowly.
At 12 he had lost his NT friends in general, though they stepped in if he was being bullied, they had little in common with him.
At 16 he had one friend, another autistic boy. His NT friends no longer included or defended him. He didn't want to go out vaping or drinking or into town to wander around. He was lonely. We hoped he might attend a local university.
At 17 he had a huge mental health crash. He spent years in his darkened bedroom, not getting dressed, not washing, not able to attend school.
At 18 I thought I might lose him.
At 22 he now qualifies for high level pip, LCWRA and has a care package from the local authority. He lives at home and has no intention of moving out. He now gets dressed 3 or 4 days a week, sees his one autistic friend who comes round once or twice a week, occasionally goes to his house too, goes out alone to the shops a couple of times a week to get a takeaway. We are delighted with this progress.
This boy understands nuclear physics, microbiology, has a great deal of interest in history and politics, will discuss capitalism Vs communism with degree level understanding, can code like a demon and has created a "world of warcraft" type world online. But he cannot operate in an NT world.
There is nothing mild about autism without LD. Mild autism is not a thing. HFA does mean "not bad autism". It's just differently hard.