Kissing games

[Esla1986]

Next weekend, we are going away with a group of close friends. The group is composed of 5 couples. All attractive. All have been in relationships for 10 years plus, and all in our 40s.

While out last week, it came up that we should play games such as spin the bottle and truth or dare etc. This will involve kissing people that are not your spouse.

I mentioned this to my DH and we discussed whether this is something that we would partake in / feel comfortable with. We decided that we would give it a go.

Anyway....are these kinds of games normal for married 40 year olds? What are your experiences?

Not normal in my circle at all.

I'm 40
Not normal to me, no

Maybe while you are at it, each give someone else your phone and read out random messages. Can't see anything going wrong.

No, this isn’t normal and I wouldn’t be attending anything like this.

You’re all 3 decades too late. Sad and dangerous to even consider this. The end of a friendship group for sure.

One step towards swinging...

God no. The idea of kissing anyone other than DP gives me the ick. I'd have to drop my friends if they suggested this to me.

Good God no!

I have never heard of anyone over about 15 playing spin the bottle.

No idea how this came up in conversation but it sounds more like some experimenting with other partners and swinging.

Definitely not for me this

No OP

What could possibly go wrong?!
How are you going to feel if you see your husband snogging someone else?!

Never, ever heard of anything like this.

I think whoever suggested these games clearly fancies someone else in the group and is looking for a convenient way to get up, close and personal to them….

I didn't feel a need to do this when I was a teenager even then but each to their own. I prefer to choose for myself who to kissed based on whether whether we actually fancy each other rather than a parlour game after a few wines and a side of desperation. I'm no prude and certainly not against polyamoury if all parties are interested in it, but spin the bottle on an adults holiday with friends- godno. As it stands anyway my friends DP's and DH's hardly get me hot under the collar, the thought is utterly dreadful to the point i'm sat here laughing imagining it.

Who suggested it OP? they blatantly are harbouring a crush for someone else's DW/DH and grasping the opportunity with both hands to make it happen under the guide,

Is this post for real? 🤔

That was my thought!
Night one: spin the bottle, night two: car keys in a bowl.

I can't believe that this is so contentious 😅. I didn't really give that much thought to it.

It was a female friend!

Another vote for "not normal" from ne. Sounds gross. At best juvenile, but at worst a test of boundaries and intention to push it to swinging. I wouldn't be going

Eeeeeeewwwwww!!

40?!! More like 14!

I wouldn't let any of my mates husbands near me with their lips. Truly, truly grim.

Are you 14?

Surely the usual response to that would be bursting into laughter and saying you must be joking.

If it was indeed a serious suggestion then a "I think you have been overdoing the porn if you think that is normal, no thanks I'll pass"

10 years into a relationship you should know what your partners response would be without discussion.

Anyway, enjoy our weekend 🤮

There’s nothing contentious about it. No one is arguing with you, they’re answering your question.

That it isn’t the answer your DH gave doesn’t mean it’s contentious.

Female friend fancies someone else’s husband and / or wants to chuck in the keys.

I'd say your mate is trying to dip a toe into swinging lol nothing wrong with it but as long as the rules are set out as with friends there's a chance for jealousy as it's more personal.

THIS! Someone is testing the water for swinging.