Kissing games

[Esla1986]

Next weekend, we are going away with a group of close friends. The group is composed of 5 couples. All attractive. All have been in relationships for 10 years plus, and all in our 40s.

While out last week, it came up that we should play games such as spin the bottle and truth or dare etc. This will involve kissing people that are not your spouse.

I mentioned this to my DH and we discussed whether this is something that we would partake in / feel comfortable with. We decided that we would give it a go.

Anyway....are these kinds of games normal for married 40 year olds? What are your experiences?

Would be both amazed and horrified if a friend suggested this. Would definitely say no. For me kissing is cheating. I don’t want to cheat or be cheated on. I’m not attracted to any of my friends. I don’t want to ruin friendships. There are so many reasons to say no and no good reason to say yes. Plus agree it’s icky.

I also think it's to do with someone in the group wanting to snog someone they fancy and the next suggestion would be escalating it.
Testing to see if the group are up for it and seeing how far they can push it.
Also think it's a very juvenile thing to do.

10 adult, self proclaimed "attractive" people and you cannot come up with something else to do with your time? BTW - would you be considering this if there was an "unattractive" couple in the mix? This is bonkers.

Vile.

I'm 42 and have a few groups of close friends, people we have dinner parties with and go on holidays / weekends away. This has NEVER been suggested and pretty sure everyone I know would be horrified if anyone suggested it. I wouldn't want to kiss anyone other than my husband and I can imagine it all ending in tears with people getting jealous etc

Totally normal. But then my friends and I all swing! 🤣

I'd be very careful if this kind of thing is new to you, especially if you're all planning on drinking. Consent and alcohol don't mix well.

Absolutely no way I wouldn't want to see my DH kissing anyone else and I am sure he would feel the same way about me.

Yeah it's really not contentious

I have never heard of anyone over about 15 playing spin the bottle.

This. And yes, I'm betting one of these 'attractive people' fancies one of the others' spouses and suggested this.

I mean obviously it’s going to go tits up if this is real.

A load of ‘attractive’ bored couples approaching a mid life crisis decide to mess about with each others boundaries. Classy.

They're definitely testing the waters off a bit of couple swapping.

You will never look at each other the same again. Maybe, the two of you will have a new understanding, delight in the shared fun and start swinging, or you'll be eaten alive with jealousy and suspect your dh of fancying your friends (before he starts an affair with one). Does he fancy one of them already?
Not going to end well, but you seem keen so go for it. Pack condoms.

This is a gateway to swinging. Does your holiday home have pampas grass outside?

Which of the men does your female friend want to sleep with? Because that’s the only reason she’s suggested this.

Brilliant response!

Are they all seriously that attractive? Much as I genuinely like my friends' partners/spouses, and they're not all looking, not deformed, the thought of having to kiss any if them makes me feel a bit 🤮

[misses point]

I'd bet money on there being a hot tub

No way would I do this. I wouldn't want to kiss anyone else apart from DH, wouldn't want him to kiss anyone else, and I am sure he'd feel the same. Honestly I'd say be careful - you could end up falling out with other couples and/or worse - risk cracks in your own relationship.

Weird, cringy and rather risky.

I think it's a bit weird it's so planned. Even at 14 spin the bottle just kind of happened organically.

Nope

Normal when you were 14 in 1986 maybe. Not normal for married adults in 2023.