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Would you go to your school reunion? What kind of school experience did you have?

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romyandmichelle · 31/08/2023 22:06

I think I'd quite like to go to mine but hesitating a little. I was generally lucky as always had a good few friends and a lot of laughs, so remember a lot of my school experience with fondness.

At the same time though I was definitely considered a weirdo Grin Diagnosed now as an adult as neurodiverse.

Lots of girls (single sex school) basically didn't speak to me or acknowledge me back at school, sometimes in a pointed, slightly unpleasant way - it's hard to describe. The best example I can think of is 4 of us travelled to a sporting competition on the train a few hours away one time, and the others arranged to go separately and didn't talk to me for the whole day (our competitions were separate) and it's not like there had been a falling out or anything, it's simply the way it was and that's fine but as an adult it makes me feel a bit sad. My mum gave one of them a lift home from the train station after as she lived near us, and she still never spoke to me until years later!

I wonder if I went to the reunion, if that bunch would just all do that again and it would be awkward?

Would you go to yours or have you been? How were your school days?

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TheCosyRain · 31/08/2023 22:09

Nope! I wasn’t bullied or given a particularly hard time. I was shy and very quiet. I couldn’t think of anything worse. Those that I care about I am still in contact with, I couldn’t care less about seeing anyone else.

Spottywombat · 31/08/2023 22:12

Turns out I'm ND too, so school was a challenge.

They organised one at my school but none of my friends (ex-friends?) contacted me. A couple of lads did try to get in touch but I didn't go.

I think about it occasionally but what's to gain?

more vino · 31/08/2023 22:13

No I wouldn't. I went to an all girls school run by nuns and my mother was a teacher and in no way shape or form was she a nun lol

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more vino · 31/08/2023 22:17

We all went to the same school. My m was rebellious, not a slapper.

UsingChangeofName · 31/08/2023 22:24

I not only went, but organised ours.
It was 20 years after we left and we got quite a high % turn up.

It was great.
Several of us have since become friends as the people we are now, and not in any way related to the relationships we had at school.

DWTKQHG · 31/08/2023 22:32

Couldn't imagine anything worse. Hated my all girls private school. Left 48 years ago and have never been back or attended a reunion. I don't want to meet a bunch of 66 year old women who mean nothing to me. If I ran into one individually by quirk of fate and we had things in common (other than our school) and hit it off as adults, great. Otherwise, no way.

NCGrandParent · 31/08/2023 22:39

School.was fine but wouldn't go to a reunion. I'm not a looking back kind of person. I have 2 very close friends from school days that I see and a few more through them I see occasionally.

Intrigued what was the motivation to organise your one @UsingChangeofName ? Is it pure nostalgia/curiosity? Or because you kept in touch with a large group so it was a social gathering? Or traditional for your school? Thanks for sharing if you are comfortable.

Fifireee · 31/08/2023 22:40

Never had one. Most of my ex classmates are in prison so we'd have had to do it in Belmarsh.

HappyAxolotl · 31/08/2023 22:52

I was badly bullied by most of the year group in school so there's no way I would want to reunite with them.

There were about 10 people in my year worth bothering with and those people are still good friends and nice acquaintances now.

In fact the cool crowd arranged a reunion about 10 years ago and only invited about a quarter of the year group (the ones who were cool in school). My bestie's wedding was a couple of weeks later and she invited the 10 (along with their partners) and from the photos it looks like we had a much better time together.

notnowpls · 31/08/2023 22:53

Absolutely no way. My year at school was full of arse holes that treated me like shit. I'd prefer to leave that part of my life firmly in the past!

Thursa · 31/08/2023 22:56

Hated school and was very happy to be living in a different country when the reunion came about.

Mindovermatter247 · 31/08/2023 23:01

I feel like reunions are to see what people are up to and to reconnect, we are basically doing that on social media. I’m friends with the people I was friends with at school and know what they are up to..

SlightlygrumpyBettyswaitress · 31/08/2023 23:04

I left school 39 years ago. There are 6 of us that remained friends and we meet up every few months.
One went to the school reunion to report back. Apparently not a lot had changed!

user1497207191 · 31/08/2023 23:04

Hell would freeze over first. I hated school due to constant bullying. I can’t even bring myself to drive past the shit hole, let alone socialise with the bullying psychopaths I had to suffer for 5 years.

MrJollyLivesNextDoor · 31/08/2023 23:07

Ugh no thanks

XenoBitch · 31/08/2023 23:08

No way. I was bullied in school. I don't want to see most of the people I went to school with ever again!

This topic reminds me of a joke....
"I recently entered a competition to see who's gained the most weight and lost the most hair, obviously it wasn't called that, it was advertised as a 'School Reunion'."

Littlepinkstarsbyradish · 31/08/2023 23:08

Nope!
im not in touch with anyone, it would only be a “who’s doing ok, who’s a mess” parade and if I went it would be feeding a very unhealthy part of me that just wants to see the girls who bullied me doing worse
i hated school, became a teacher to try and make it more bearable for next generation (hopefully!)

MissingMoominMamma · 31/08/2023 23:09

I hated my high school, but I have two really close friends who I see regularly still (40 years later).

I have been in contact with another couple of women who I wasn’t particularly close to at school, but I get on really well with now though, so I’d probably be open to it.

SisterMichaelsHabit · 31/08/2023 23:13

Not a chance, if Hell froze over I'd rather go ice skating.

SisterMichaelsHabit · 31/08/2023 23:17

My best friend from high school and I lost touch for about 15 years. In that time, she has rewritten the past making her a hapless Harry Potter-style victim and her lovely mother the evil villain, the details in her embellishments are totally at odds with reality (down to descriptions of her house, when things apparently happened that couldn't physically have happened because the people in question weren't there at the time and everything).

Last time she contacted me out of the blue was to spew a clearly fake sob story and ask me if I could send her my baby stuff with no offer of payment (not to congratulate me on having had a baby or ask anything about how I was, what I was up to etc). I don't ever want to see her again or anyone sucked into her bizarre narrative.

Sugarcoatt · 31/08/2023 23:23

Why would I want to reunite with people who didn’t want to be friends with me when we saw each other every day? They blanked me completely for years and watched me sit in the playground alone, eat lunch alone, sit alone in class… I greatly doubt that they want to see me again.

Topseyt123 · 31/08/2023 23:30

No. I wouldn't be interested.

There were some lovely people at my school, but there were a lot of bullies too, and I was a target for too many of them. Therefore I cannot look back on my schooldays with undiluted joy.

I left school 39 years ago now. It is in the past and that is where it will stay. It feels like another lifetime now, but I've no real wish to revisit it.

JaninaDuszejko · 31/08/2023 23:31

I didn't go to mine. I was considered a 'swot' at school and have no desire to go back and mix with people who I now have even less in common with than when we were teenagers.

My Mum loved going back to hers (they had regular reunions), but she went to boarding school at a very young age and they were her family. My FIL went to one when he was 70 and said he didn't recognise anyone, it was just a bunch of old men!

largione · 31/08/2023 23:47

No I wouldn't go. I don't think any reunions have ever been organised though, it was just a basic state comp without much to distinguish it. I'm ND and have had a pretty unconventional life in many ways, which has suited me but anyone wanting a summary of my life since school would probably view me as a failure for not having a career. I got on fine at school socially but I've never wanted to stay in contact with any friends from there and just view it as the past now.

Catsmere · 01/09/2023 00:21

Nope! Even if the horrible place hadn't been demolished in the 90s, I loathed all but a few of the bullying shits in my year. High school was the worst time of my life.

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