How much cash for wedding present?

[Clawdy]

Going to wedding on Saturday. Lovely young couple, we have known the groom for quite a few years, and we are invited to the sevice and meal afterwards. They want money as a gift, not presents, which is fine, but how much to give? Two other friends going say they are giving £50. Is that enough, or a bit mean? Really don't know, it's been so long since we went to a wedding!

What they’re saying is ‘we’ve paid for your lunch & a couple of glasses of plonk that you wouldn’t normally drink in a month of Sundays… so now cough up what you owe us’.
In my opinion asking for money is as low as it gets.
if they can afford a wedding & evening do then they don’t need money as a gift.

It’s so odd to ask for money or anything unless you’re really starting your life/house together and need a toaster.

£50 feels like plenty. You’re not paying to cover your meal.

I’m getting married next year and won’t be asking for anything. I just want people to come & celebrate with us.

This is a shame if people are turning down invites because they can’t afford the expected amount for a present, surely any decent couple would rather your presence at their wedding and not care what gift you give.

OP, give what you can afford. For me that’s £50. Anyone who thinks that’s not enough when we’ve also made the effort to dress up, travel and maybe even stay overnight and attend hen/stag do is not someone I would want as a friend anyway.

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Agree with this. Especially as hen and stag parties are often so expensive and if the wedding is in the middle of nowhere then people have to fork out for cabs and hotels too.

When we got married we asked for no gifts. With the exception of a few people who did gifts and a few who have us cash everybody respected this and we were very happy with that.

I'd say £100 but all the weddings I've been invited to over the last few years have said no presents.

I know this is crazy but I go by how much would I give if the couple eloped and use that as a base line!

My sister £100 if eloped so £150 for wedding same for close friends.

Casual friend or second cousin £50 if they eloped so if invited to wedding probably around £70.

Jane from accounts maybe a card if eloped so £30-£50 depending on what I could afford?

£150 - £200 I can’t imagine doing less.

Sorted, thanks everyone! We've given £100.