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Drunk husband (another one)

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maxxed · 27/08/2023 14:46

Can't believe I'm writing this after reading it so many times on here in the past.

"D"H was out for 6 hours last night at a stag night. I had just gone to bed and was reading my phone when my video doorbell went on my phone and I saw him staggering up the path.

I went back downstairs as the noise got the kids up and I wanted to usher them back to bed.

He was absolutely wasted. He went to bed and said he needed a bucket. I managed to get one to him just in time for him to throw up.

I left him to it and went to sleep on the couch. I went back up to the bedroom about 11am this morning to open the windows and stood in something wet. Turns out he'd pissed on the floor.

He has just surfaced this minute.

This is not the first time. He doesn't go out often but in the 11 years we've been together this is at least the 5th time he's been in this state. There have been other vomiting occasions and pissing in random places.

We were supposed to be going out today as a family. Obvs not happening now.

I can't look at him and I'm waiting for the usual apology.

OP posts:
Embarrassednamechangeadoddle · 27/08/2023 14:48

Oh I’m so sorry op this is awful.
It’s one thing to over indulge and feel a bit sick, but getting into a state where you wet yourself is next level. Has he not be highly embarrassed the last few times? I’d be mortified!

BeMoreBarbie · 27/08/2023 18:46

A surprising amount of men wee in stupid places after too many beers.

I've vomited a few times from drinking too much and although it is embarrassing and not something I want, I can't promise it won't happen again. I like a drink and once in a blue moon (not for around 6 years now and probably also 5 times in 11 years tbh) im surprised how it's hit me and vomit. I've never urinated in a place I didn't mean to.

One thing I love about DP is that he is always there checking I'm ok and not scolding me.

If it was regularly, I'd have words with him. If it's not could you ask him to stay in a hotel instead? What you've said doesn't suggest a drink problem but do you think there is one?

Damnloginpopup · 27/08/2023 21:26

Pfffft. Call him a twat.wnd move on.

OnlyGoneandDoneitAgain · 27/08/2023 21:40

Yeah I’d be pretty pissed off, but I think a lot of us do it occasionally (well maybe not the pissing bit).

I tend to fall up the stairs, occasionally I’ll be sick (in the loo at least), and spend most of the next day in bed feeling sorry for myself.

OH will spend most of the next day throwing up and blame a mystery illness.

It’s not a regular occurrence but it happens!

Topseyt123 · 27/08/2023 21:45

I just couldn't put up with that, even on an occasional basis. The pissing in inappropriate places is totally unacceptable and disrespectful.

Bansheed · 27/08/2023 21:47

5 times in 11 years? I would be a bit cross about today but that's it. Would also just take the kids out and not ruin their day as well.

ExDH and I both did that occasionally in the war years of younger children.

BIossomtoes · 27/08/2023 21:48

I can’t be the only one who’s only just got there in the nick of time to stop their bloke from pissing in the wardrobe.

RampantIvy · 27/08/2023 21:50

I would ask him to stay in a hotel next time he goes out drinking.

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 27/08/2023 21:53

So unattractive

And so annoying that they all think this is normal.

What is he doing to clean up after himself? What kind of example is that to set to children? He could have been knocked over by a car, robbed or assaulted in that state - what would he think if you came home like that?

cardiganboo · 27/08/2023 21:53

I'd probably not get worked up over that being the 5th time in 11 years. Happens sometimes

Proudmum17 · 27/08/2023 21:55

Give him a break. Are you perfect?

Bookish88 · 27/08/2023 21:57

Proudmum17 · 27/08/2023 21:55

Give him a break. Are you perfect?

No one's perfect, but I'm willing to bet OP has never pissed on the floor and left it due to being wasted.

Valerie23 · 27/08/2023 21:58

It's not about being perfect. Getting so drunk that you vomit and piss on the floor when your an adult is absolutely disgusting.

He's not a teenager who can't hold his drink is he?

He's gone out and drank and drank and drank like a fish.

I would make him replace the carpet every single time he pissed or vomited on it.

Actually, I wouldn't as I would not tolerate such immature and skanky behaviour so I wouldn't actually be in a relationship with him.

QueSyrahSyrah · 27/08/2023 22:01

The pissing is absolutely grim obviously and he should humbly be doing a full carpet clean pronto, but going overboard on a night out once every 2 years doesn't make him a monster.

HellonHeels · 27/08/2023 22:02

That's gross and a real let down over your plans for today.

Please leave the clean up to him.

MillWood85 · 27/08/2023 22:12

Out of interest, who will be scrubbing the carpet?

If he does, and he's apologetic, fair enough.

If you're the mug scrubbing it, then more fool you.

RampantIvy · 27/08/2023 22:17

It's not about being perfect. Getting so drunk that you vomit and piss on the floor when your an adult is absolutely disgusting.

I agree. I find this behaviour unacceptable. Some posters on here have very low expectations of their partners.

DH has only got really, really drunk a handful of times. He has never pissed anywhere other than the bathroom in our house. He isn't a teenager

doitwithlove · 27/08/2023 22:24

I would suggest & book him a hotel to stay in when he next goes out

Zomb · 27/08/2023 22:45

Who cares? He didn’t harm anyone except himself, it doesn’t happen often and he’s going to feel like a d*. If this was my husband I’d laugh.

Nelliedeancomesclean · 27/08/2023 22:49

Some people really set the bar low when it comes to men's behaviour.

Zomb · 28/08/2023 01:57

IMO it wouldn’t be worth getting upset about as my husband would feel extremely embarrassed and beat himself up about it. I would probably be like “wow” and tell him what he did, but I wouldn’t personally get upset about it. If it was more often or he didn’t feel bad about it at all I’d probably feel differently.

RampantIvy · 28/08/2023 07:21

Zomb · 27/08/2023 22:45

Who cares? He didn’t harm anyone except himself, it doesn’t happen often and he’s going to feel like a d*. If this was my husband I’d laugh.

Edited

So, you are OK with having your DP piss on the bedroom carpet?

DustyLee123 · 28/08/2023 07:23

How unattractive.

crossstitchingnana · 28/08/2023 07:42

I'm with OP. Once, yes but he's not learned from his mistake and this massively impacts on her. The family day out (which was optimistic after a stag do tbf) gets ruined and her bedroom now stinks of piss.

crossstitchingnana · 28/08/2023 07:43

Although, my dh got into a right state when he was grieving and puked all over the carpet. I did kind of let him off that one.

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