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Couples rowing...

34 replies

CurlewKate · 27/08/2023 14:26

Do all couples row? It seems to be expected on here that couples have massive arguments and that it's healthy. I only ask because DP and I don't! Anyone else not row?

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SoSad44 · 27/08/2023 14:27

Is this a stealth post?

OrangeBlossomsinthesun · 27/08/2023 14:27

DH and I have been together twenty years and don't row either.

Louisetopaz21 · 27/08/2023 14:28

DH and I don't row, we might have minor disagreements but this does not involve any raised voices or personal comments. We will talk it out and both compromise xx

Ilovegoldies · 27/08/2023 14:29

We don't row. We haven't had anything to row about. It's only been a year though. We tend to talk through minor disagreements.

UndercoverCop · 27/08/2023 14:30

What do you mean by row? DH and I certainly disagree with each other, do we scream, throw things, sulk and silent treatment like you read about on here? No. I would think it unusual for two people to never disagree on anything at all, I would assume there is someone more dominant who tends to get their way and the other person just let's them get on with it

AmbleInAnnBoleyn · 27/08/2023 14:30

You ain't got oars
<nods knowingly>

Feverly · 27/08/2023 14:31

Nope.

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 27/08/2023 14:31

Nope, no rows here. Just the occasional difference of opinion.

Nochoiceleft · 27/08/2023 14:33

We’ve been together 30 years. We bicker occasionally and get irritated with each other sometimes (maybe often) but I can’t remember the last time we had a proper row.

Changeforachange · 27/08/2023 14:33

Occasional big rowers here. Usually when one of us is under pressure.

99% bumbling along supportively with occasional loud sighs followed by 'please can you not wrap foil round the grill?'

My parents constantly bicker and are PA & that feels far, far worse to me.

MrsSkylerWhite · 27/08/2023 14:34

We don’t. We’re very content now, close to retirement and looking forward to our next move with excitement. Didn’t row much when the kids were small, either but I think mostly because my husband worked away for years so it was always a pleasure to be together.

Express0 · 27/08/2023 14:34

We never have rows or screaming matches. Difference of opinion and maybe snap at each other at times but no more than that

Comedycook · 27/08/2023 14:34

I find it to be the opposite on here. Loads of couples who apparently have never even raised their voice to each other in decades.

shivawn · 27/08/2023 14:35

We're together for close to 15 years now in a very happy and loving relationship and yeah we argue. Nothing that lasts longer than 5-10 minutes or involves silent treatment or anything like that but we're definitely not afraid to disagree with one another.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 27/08/2023 14:35

Nope. We don't do it. We're both able to talk and disagree without attempting to browbeat the other into submission unlike our respective exes.

Except we do in the gym. He's faster, I have the better technique. I get less in the way of DOMS. So I win.

DramaAlpaca · 27/08/2023 14:37

DH and I have been married over 30 years and we don't row.

BananaSlug · 27/08/2023 14:37

Really I’ve only noticed the opposite on here (that it’s unusual to argue with a partner)

GeraltsBathtub · 27/08/2023 14:38

No, we don’t either. My previous relationship was very much arguments and hate sex but that was too toxic to stay in long term. Been with nice DP 7 years now and don’t think we’ve ever had a row.

Sunshinebuttercupsrainbows · 27/08/2023 14:39

Me and DP don’t row.

I would have screaming matches with ex-h though. We brought out the very worst in each other (and I was very often provoked). I cringe when I look back on it, especially as I’m still in touch with the neighbours! Me and DP wouldn’t dream of speaking to each other that way.

felisha54 · 27/08/2023 14:41

We have disagreements. Is that rowing?

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CurlewKate · 27/08/2023 14:43

@SoSad44
"Is this a stealth post?"

Nope. Got my name on it and everything!

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almostoverthehill · 27/08/2023 14:44

OH of 5yrs I think we have had cross words maybe twice. Not living together or sharing finances probably helps!

KirstenBlest · 27/08/2023 14:46

I thought this thread was going to be about boat on the Thames.

My sibling has been married for nearly 40 years and to my knowledge have never had a row. Their children have confirmed this.

OddBoots · 27/08/2023 14:48

We don't always agree and there is a bit of tension around timekeeping but no, no actual raised voices in our 28 years and 2 (now adult) children together together - we're both laid back types.

WunWun · 27/08/2023 16:10

Ex DH and I rarely argued and got on fine until I found out he'd been cheating on me for three years 😁