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Husband had never booked holiday

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letdownmum · 27/08/2023 12:52

Husband booked our holiday, same place we always go. We've been talking excitedly with the kids, who can't wait. I've been buying swimwear for the baby and starting to sort things out for it. I've been nagging him for a few days to send me flight details so can check in online as less than a month now he kept saying he'll sort it. I asked him again today for details to preorder food as you have to with Jet2 and he reads it but doesn't reply. I text him again saying I'm going to pull them up on the MacBook. We share one as the household laptop and his account has the email logged in, we don't have passwords but I don't go on his unless needed so thought would give him heads up, he instantly replied and said not to.

After a bit of probing.. he hasn't booked it. He has been lying for four months! He said he kept forgetting but I was going on about it too much so he just told me he don't it, kept planning to sort later and then the price had gone up so he is waiting. I found a deal straight away for same dates thankfully about £800 more than when I originally asked him to book. He is saying no it's too expensive and not paying £800 'extra for nothing'. It's not for nothing, it's his own bloody fault. I can't believe the laziness, I'd of happily booked it if he couldn't be bothered. The kids think we are going in 16 days.

OP posts:
RJnomore1 · 27/08/2023 12:53

Well you and kids are going aren’t you?

UndercoverCop · 27/08/2023 12:54

Take him off the booking that'll save some money

ZenNudist · 27/08/2023 12:56

UndercoverCop · 27/08/2023 12:54

Take him off the booking that'll save some money

This. Is he always so untrustworthy?

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fetchacloth · 27/08/2023 12:56

That's a real let down but I'm wondering if there are financial issues that are worrying him?
Otherwise why wasn't I booked? 😒

Saschka · 27/08/2023 12:57

Yep, I’d also go without him if he won’t cough up.

Hibernatalie · 27/08/2023 13:02

I'd assume financial issues. If you are absolutely certain there aren't - swallow the £800 and book it. His idleness has cost you £800 but it shouldn't cost your kids a holiday. He owes you an apology.

msbevvy · 27/08/2023 13:02

Does he work? If so, has he arranged for time off or has he not got round to that either?

TheBeautifulTeapot · 27/08/2023 13:03

The lying is really concerning.

RSintes · 27/08/2023 13:04

Has he lost his job and not told you?

Or is there an OW-type reason that he doesn't want to go on holiday?

Sorry you're going through this.
I hope you and the kids have a great time away.

NoSquirrels · 27/08/2023 13:06

There must be money worries, OP.

TomatoSandwiches · 27/08/2023 13:13

Whatever the explanation for this situation, he has no respect for you, blaming you for his lies because you were " asking too much." What a POS.

whatsmynameaga1n · 27/08/2023 13:14

How are so many of the men I read about here so useless?!

Chewbecca · 27/08/2023 13:17

Do you have the money?

The whole dynamic would concern me enormously and I would want to get to the bottom of how this has come about.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 27/08/2023 13:20

I’d be massively concerned about what else he is lying about.

GCAcademic · 27/08/2023 13:20

Who even does that? It's quite unbelievable. I agree with OP that there must be more to it.

2weekstowait · 27/08/2023 13:23

He can't have just forgotten for 4 months. If he had, as soon as you uttered a word about the holiday he would have been shocked into action or admitting that he hadn't done it.

Orange67 · 27/08/2023 13:24

NoSquirrels · 27/08/2023 13:06

There must be money worries, OP.

This.

Also I'd be booking without him.

ThisWormHasTurned · 27/08/2023 13:26

I’d be suspicious about him
hiding money worries. I don’t think this is about forgetting or incompetence.

KitBumbleB · 27/08/2023 13:26

This is why I live with a cat and not a man.

gamerchick · 27/08/2023 13:29

Tell him he owns up to the real issue or you're booking for you and the kids and he can stay home. That'll make it cheaper.

I'd be checking there's no money issues.

EversoDetermined · 27/08/2023 13:29

I'd be more worried about the lies than the laziness TBH.

CommonVetch · 27/08/2023 13:34

My ex would frequently pretend he couldn't get the time off, last minute. We just went without him. Now I'm always without him!

Hibiscrubbed · 27/08/2023 13:34

This is awful.

WeeOrcadian · 27/08/2023 13:47

Do you have access to all family / household finances? It makes me think he's hiding something - gambling / spending / debt / etc

And definitely book without him

NotMyDayJob · 27/08/2023 13:47

gamerchick · 27/08/2023 13:29

Tell him he owns up to the real issue or you're booking for you and the kids and he can stay home. That'll make it cheaper.

I'd be checking there's no money issues.

This. I couldn't let my kids down like that. If he thinks it's bad now, what's it going to be like in 16 days when they are not going on holiday?

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