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Husband had never booked holiday

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letdownmum · 27/08/2023 12:52

Husband booked our holiday, same place we always go. We've been talking excitedly with the kids, who can't wait. I've been buying swimwear for the baby and starting to sort things out for it. I've been nagging him for a few days to send me flight details so can check in online as less than a month now he kept saying he'll sort it. I asked him again today for details to preorder food as you have to with Jet2 and he reads it but doesn't reply. I text him again saying I'm going to pull them up on the MacBook. We share one as the household laptop and his account has the email logged in, we don't have passwords but I don't go on his unless needed so thought would give him heads up, he instantly replied and said not to.

After a bit of probing.. he hasn't booked it. He has been lying for four months! He said he kept forgetting but I was going on about it too much so he just told me he don't it, kept planning to sort later and then the price had gone up so he is waiting. I found a deal straight away for same dates thankfully about £800 more than when I originally asked him to book. He is saying no it's too expensive and not paying £800 'extra for nothing'. It's not for nothing, it's his own bloody fault. I can't believe the laziness, I'd of happily booked it if he couldn't be bothered. The kids think we are going in 16 days.

OP posts:
RugglesB · 27/08/2023 13:49

So ask him what he plans to tell the kids? Lie some more? He either fixes this or you tell them the truth. He didn't book it.

WobbliHead3000 · 27/08/2023 13:50

Check your credit report.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 27/08/2023 13:52

I don’t think he forgot- I’d query the whole money situation

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Gambling or drugs.

ImNotReallySpartacus · 27/08/2023 13:55

Maybe it's a very passive-aggressive way of indicating that he'd like to go somewhere different for a change.

Whinge · 27/08/2023 13:56

WobbliHead3000 · 27/08/2023 13:50

Check your credit report.

This.

Sorry OP, I suspect not booking the holiday is just the tip of the iceberg. 😔

fluffiphlox · 27/08/2023 13:56

If you can afford it, stick it in your credit card and go. (Without him if you have to). How mean of him to let everyone think they’re going off on their hols.

MrsSkylerWhite · 27/08/2023 13:57

Financial issues. Does he know something that you don’t?

VisionsOfSplendour · 27/08/2023 14:00

Like other posters I'd also wonder if there is more to this but if money is an issue why not book a different holiday for the same price as the original one. I assume your children must be young enough to not know whether it's the same place as last time

NancyPickford · 27/08/2023 14:01

How long was he going to keep up the charade? Until the day you were meant to be travelling?

feathermucker · 27/08/2023 14:01

Do you have full access to household money? If there's no backstory, I'd book it anyway........probably without him!

Elphamouche · 27/08/2023 14:02

There’s more to this than he’s letting on. You don’t forget to book a holiday.

HappiDaze · 27/08/2023 14:06

Is he a gambler ?

Oblomov23 · 27/08/2023 14:13

The constant lying would bother me.

Zonder · 27/08/2023 14:33

Definitely book it. Perhaps he will learn that his laziness and dishonesty has a price.

HangerLaneGyratorySystem · 27/08/2023 14:42

At best he’s an arsehole, at worst he’s spent all your money. Whichever it is, what are you going to do now OP?

Valerie23 · 27/08/2023 14:51

Not only is he a liar but he's also an idiot.

Is that what you want in a partner and role model for your children?

I think it comes from him not wanting to go on holiday with his family, so I would take the kids and go without him and when you come back sit down and talk whether he wants a family life or not.

gogomoto · 27/08/2023 14:55

I think there's more to this, is he really saying can we please try somewhere else. Why keep going back to the same place? Or is there cash flow issues you don't know about, or expenses you aren't aware of ... you need a serious chat

Nanny0gg · 27/08/2023 14:57

Have you checked the bank?

uncomfortablydumb53 · 27/08/2023 16:32

Are you certain he hasn't spent the money?
He didn't forget to book it, I'm certain of that

BeMoreBarbie · 27/08/2023 16:37

I get why he doesn't want to pay £800 extra. I'm assuming the initial amount was quite large if that is how much it can go up by but what was his plan???? How was he going to handle 16 days from now?

StillWantingADog · 27/08/2023 16:37

Surely there is a backstory

I don’t leave very much for dh to book but when either of us books something important we send each other the emails. And have access to the (joint) bank accounts so if my dh forgot something like this I’d notice.

anyway if he’s worried about the money just leave him behind . Shocking!

LolaSmiles · 27/08/2023 16:40

Is the money still in the bank account? If it's still there then use that pot to book another holiday even if it's to somewhere different.

If the money isn't there then it suggests this might be the tip of the iceberg with your household finances.

Posters who've suggested checking your credit report are wise.

morbidd · 27/08/2023 16:45

Book it but without him. He's let you all down. That should shave down some of the costs.

Soubriquet · 27/08/2023 16:45

I could live with him forgetting. I couldn’t live with the lies. Watching you talking about a holiday and buying clothes and he knows you can’t go.

No. It’s not forgivable

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