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Grandparent ignored grandchild on the street!

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Cheryl22x · 23/08/2023 20:33

recently I’ve posted on here about my daughter grand parent being absent from her life. Today I saw her when I was pushing my daughter along the street I was on the other side of the road I stopped to see if she’d stop and come and see her. But no she saw us and carried on walking. So at this point I got annoyed for my daughter who is 2 year old and can’t speak for herself I shouted are you just going to ignore your granddaughter. And she tried to carry on walking and point blank ignored me.
i think I have my answer I’m hurt for my daughter.

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Freddiefox · 23/08/2023 20:40

Depends on the history and why she is absent from her life. It’s hard to say from the little info.

Hellocatshome · 23/08/2023 20:42

I cant judge the situation from your post. These things are often complicated and both sides have a different story. Dont shout in the street though just get on with your life. Lots of kids don't have grandparents or relationships with their grandparents. It is disappointing but you can't make her interested if she isn't.

Sirzy · 23/08/2023 20:44

Given the child is so little I assume it was more you that they were ignoring for whatever reason?

not enough information to say whether that’s was a good or bad thing but I don’t think shouting across the street did much to paint you in a good light

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HunterHearstHelmsley · 23/08/2023 20:44

Has your daughter spent much time with the grandparent? What's happened to get to this stage?

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Cheryl22x · 23/08/2023 20:49

She is absent from her life because she’s chose to be she hasn’t bothered asking or arranging to see her in a year and 4 month or so. I had to shout because she was at a distance. Yes she can’t speak for her self so she just gets ignored by her own flesh and blood. Whatever problem she has with me shouldn’t be taken out on a innocent child. I would of happily been civil if she stopped but she clearly just ignored her any mother would be the same

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Hellocatshome · 23/08/2023 20:52

Cheryl22x · 23/08/2023 20:49

She is absent from her life because she’s chose to be she hasn’t bothered asking or arranging to see her in a year and 4 month or so. I had to shout because she was at a distance. Yes she can’t speak for her self so she just gets ignored by her own flesh and blood. Whatever problem she has with me shouldn’t be taken out on a innocent child. I would of happily been civil if she stopped but she clearly just ignored her any mother would be the same

Nope any mother wouldn't be the same. My two sons have very limited relationship with one set of grandparents mostly due to distance bit also indifference and no relationship with the other set because DH dares to contact his biological father against their wishes. I dont shout at them when I see them in the street. They have made their decision and I do not need to make a scene about it.

Sirzy · 23/08/2023 20:54

If you want your child to have a relationship with her then reach out and communicate properly rather than shouting across the street.

SleepingStandingUp · 23/08/2023 20:56

Assume most of us haven't stalked your previous posts op.

Os it your Mom or kids Dad? Are you with him if so? What's the back story basically

Lilithlogic · 23/08/2023 20:56

I've been there, seen my arse and shouted. Honestly though op it isn't worth it, getting angry at them just cements the way they think of you. It's horrible to think of your child as being rejected, just give her so much love so that it doesn't matter in the end.

yogasaurus · 23/08/2023 20:59

You have posted about her many, many times.

She isn’t interested. She isn’t going to come to your parents house. Shouting at her in the street isn’t going to change anything.

I understand it’s upsetting, but your fixation on the GP’s is getting a bit much, tbh.

pickledandpuzzled · 23/08/2023 21:00

Honestly your DD couldn't give a monkey's. She's no idea what's going on.

Don't upset your DD by shouting in the street, or teach her how awful it is that a relative ignored her.

She won't miss what she hasn't had- don't teach her to.

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Cheryl22x · 23/08/2023 21:02

it was a question it wasn’t shouting like I stated she was from a distance. She’s her grandparent she should come to her with my daughter not at an age she can speak yet.

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my82my · 23/08/2023 21:02

My son has no contact with my mum.. she blanked him on his birthday. It hurts when your child is rejected and I get how you feel. I've also had (many years ago) a screaming match in the street. It's not worth it and if your DC grandparent is anything like my so called mother then your better off out of it. Rise above it and make sure your child gets all the love attention they need from you. 💐

Hellocatshome · 23/08/2023 21:04

Cheryl22x · 23/08/2023 21:02

it was a question it wasn’t shouting like I stated she was from a distance. She’s her grandparent she should come to her with my daughter not at an age she can speak yet.

It doesn't matter if it was angry shouting or shouting because she was far away. Dont do it. Dont reduce yourself to that.

NannyGythaOgg · 23/08/2023 21:07

Your daughter doesn't care. You obviously do.
Please try not to give your daughter the message that she isn't important. No child needs grandparents. Good ones are clearly beneficial but a child is hurt by not knowing them. She will be hurt if she gets her mother telling her that Grandma doesn't care or think she is important

yogasaurus · 23/08/2023 21:07

Cheryl22x · 23/08/2023 21:02

it was a question it wasn’t shouting like I stated she was from a distance. She’s her grandparent she should come to her with my daughter not at an age she can speak yet.

Why are you so fixated on this? If she’s as horrible as you say, why do you want your DC to see her?

WhereTheTeapotsJibberJabberJoo · 23/08/2023 21:10

@Cheryl22x I can't imagine how hurtful this interaction (or lack of) must have been for you. I wish I had some advice but I didn't want to just read and run.

CantThinkOfANameAtAll · 23/08/2023 21:12

I don't know the backstory but I am assuming her son was your DDs father. It all depends on how toxic your relationship was, doesn't it.

You can't make people like you. Accept that and move on with your life.

CaptainMyCaptain · 23/08/2023 21:13

Sirzy · 23/08/2023 20:44

Given the child is so little I assume it was more you that they were ignoring for whatever reason?

not enough information to say whether that’s was a good or bad thing but I don’t think shouting across the street did much to paint you in a good light

This. It's not a good look.

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Mariposista · 23/08/2023 21:19

Hollering in the street? Not very mature is it? Be the bigger person and ignore.
As PP said, the woman is most likely ignoring you, not the child. She is too little to have pissed her off.
There must be a massive back story to this.

Winnipeggy · 23/08/2023 21:22

Cheryl22x · 23/08/2023 20:49

She is absent from her life because she’s chose to be she hasn’t bothered asking or arranging to see her in a year and 4 month or so. I had to shout because she was at a distance. Yes she can’t speak for her self so she just gets ignored by her own flesh and blood. Whatever problem she has with me shouldn’t be taken out on a innocent child. I would of happily been civil if she stopped but she clearly just ignored her any mother would be the same

She doesn't need to speak for herself in this situation, she has no concept of 'blood' ties and if her grandparent hasn't been in her life so far then she is not missing out on anything. I would suggest this feud is between the two of you and maybe you need to address it, but your daughter is probably better off without her.

StSwithinsDay · 23/08/2023 21:24

You have been posting about your ex's mother for over a year now. You have to stop fixating on this. And roaring at her across the street makes you look daft.

So at this point I got annoyed for my daughter who is 2 year old and can’t speak for herself I shouted are you just going to ignore your granddaughter.

MariaAshley · 23/08/2023 21:25

OP you'll be much happier in life if you can realise and accept that nobody owes you (or your DD) anything, including their time or a relationship with either of you. The woman didn't want to talk to you or DD, all you can do is respect that. She's entitled to make her own choices in life, doesn't have to do anything she doesn't want to do and doesn't have to justify her choices to you or anyone else either.

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Cheryl22x · 23/08/2023 21:25

Because she’s her grandparent and she complains to her son that she doesn’t see her but has clearly just ignored her in the street!

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