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I can't stop thinking about Lucy Letby and it's too upsetting

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EightMonthsScared · 21/08/2023 21:26

My son was in intensive care for three months after he was born. They were the worst three months of my life and I've never felt so scared. There's too much to write here but I'm still in therapy for Ptsd for everything that happened.

The amazing doctors and nurses saved my son's life and supported me and DH throughout the whole ordeal. I'd sit up until the early hours, by my son's bedside, talking quietly to the nurses who became my friends.

I can't stop reading about the Letby case because I just can't understand it and I'm trying to make sense of it. But obviously, it's bringing up a lot for me and it's fucking me up.

It's nothing to do with me but my heart breaks for all of those babies and their parents. They will have implicitly trusted in the nurses just as we did, and they were betrayed in such a breaktakingly awful way.

I don't know what the point of this thread is really, I'm just crying into the void. All of my feelings are so mixed up and I just want to protect all of those little babies that she hurt, but I can't.

What are you supposed to do with the feelings?

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EarlofShrewsbury · 22/08/2023 12:49

I completely understand the disbelief and the bewilderment.

My DD was born at 33 weeks in 2016, during the dates that the murders happened

I live in Wales right on the boarder of Wales and Chester. When I was pregnant I was given the choice of Chester or Wrexham to have my DD. I chose Wrexham.

When I was in prem labour they told me Wrexham was full and I was told I was going to be transferred to Chester.

For some reason this didn't actually happen and my DD was born and treated at Wrexham.

I keep thinking 'what if' all the time.

Its horrible and I can't get my head around it at all.

OrlandointheWilderness · 22/08/2023 13:18

I'm a nurse, this case has hit me as we. I think because it is so utterly incomprehensible.

NameChangeEmbarressed · 22/08/2023 13:36

It's just horrifying. My eldest was 9 weeks early and only 2lb 12 born (a long time ago and not the same trust as Letby).

We put our trust implicitly in the care team at our fabulous hospital and the thought that anyone could do that to an innocent person is beyond comprehension.

My dad said the same. I was born at 25 weeks weighing 1lb 9oz and he feels the same way, both about me and his grandchild.

Awful, just awful. My thoughts are with the families of those suffering. Hopefully they can find some peace, however small, that this monster will never again harm another human being

ConsuelaHammock · 22/08/2023 14:22

My eldest was in NICU for 3months. She was born at 23+5 and weighed 600g. Being in NICU was the worst experience of my life and I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. Not once did I ever doubt the love and care the staff showed my baby.
Is it awful that I’m not remotely shocked by the actions of this woman? There are some horrendous people in the world committing heinous crimes every day. This is just one we know about. We think we are a civilised society but we are only one disaster away from lawlessness.

ConsuelaHammock · 22/08/2023 14:25

I know it’s upsetting for you but you don’t have to read about it. Imagine how the parents of those little ones feel? They are the victims as they have to live with this forever. The ones who are left behind are the ones who suffer.

NameChangeEmbarressed · 22/08/2023 19:05

Copperoliverbear · 22/08/2023 02:22

@Holidayvibes I'm so glad I'm not alone in thinking this, the fact that she didn't want to go to court and they allowed her not to go infuriates me too, they should have dragged her there.
Hopefully someone in prison will get her. X

Chances are they will. Look at how many baby and child killers they have to segregate for their "own safety" 🙄🙄

Copperoliverbear · 22/08/2023 21:44

@Holidayvibes I know it won't help the babies but her just going to prison just doesn't seem enough

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EightMonthsScared · 22/08/2023 22:05

@Copperoliverbear

I agree. There's just no satisfactory outcome to this case. No punishment would be enough.

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Holidayvibes · 22/08/2023 22:12

Copperoliverbear · 22/08/2023 21:44

@Holidayvibes I know it won't help the babies but her just going to prison just doesn't seem enough

I agree. I’m pretty sure her life will be made a misery as a child killer but she still gets to live her life after ruining so many. It’s not just the babies it’s their parents, siblings and families. Murder is wrong but to murder defenceless babies, whose parents relied on you to help them in their moment of need, is beyond sick. She doesn’t deserve prison it’s not enough.

ssd · 22/08/2023 22:14

Copperoliverbear · 22/08/2023 01:32

They should bring back hanging for her.

No no no, far too fast a death for her

sezzer87 · 22/08/2023 22:15

I can relate to how you feel my daughter was admitted to hospital with an undiagnosed genetic disorder and was critically unwell. The nurses were what kept us going.
This case has been very triggering for me, and I'm sure many others x

Holidayvibes · 22/08/2023 22:17

EightMonthsScared · 22/08/2023 22:05

@Copperoliverbear

I agree. There's just no satisfactory outcome to this case. No punishment would be enough.

See I agree this is the thing, what possibly could be enough? Nothing. It’s tragic. Times like this are when I think the death penalty should still be a thing but then she would get to die and leave the world, is that maybe easier?! Never having to think of what she’s done or see/hear the hatred. Then living a life in prison is still a life which she doesn’t deserve.

sezzer87 · 22/08/2023 22:21

I think being kept in segregation in a cell for 23 hours a day with only 1 hours exercise in a metal cage, for the rest of her natural life is quite a big punishment. She could live another 60 years.

Coleslawandcabbage · 23/08/2023 22:46

sezzer87 · 22/08/2023 22:21

I think being kept in segregation in a cell for 23 hours a day with only 1 hours exercise in a metal cage, for the rest of her natural life is quite a big punishment. She could live another 60 years.

Yes that's pretty horrendous and nothing less than she deserves

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