Do you fancy older guys as you get older?

[weegiemum]

Dh and I were just discussing this (yes, we have erudite discussions like this all the time 🤣).

So when you're watching a film in your 20s, you tend to fancy the young male lead.

But in your 50s (like us) do you still fancy the young 20 something guy or do you prefer the wise, 50-something mentor guy? Dh is watching some shite with an actress who is certainly in her 50s and his crush is Sandra Bullock (now, not in Speed etc).

My young person crush was Harrison Ford but he's too old these days. But yes, I think I prefer the older guys. Is that just giving up that young guys would ever go for you?

(FYI we've been married almost 29 years and together since our teens with no real issues ever. We talk about who we fancy occasionally but basically we just fancy each other!!).

I definitely fancy older men now I'm in my fifties. The idea of young men really turns me off, I've got kids their age 🤮
However, I've always liked older men, even when I was young, so I don't know if that changes things!

Hmm. I guess it mirrors real life? E.g. I'm no longer 18 (I'm old enough that I could hypothetically be an 18 year olds mother), so I no longer find 18 year olds attractive (far too young to be in any way appealing).

Definitely older, but also less interested in looks and more interested in other qualities these days. I like people who interest me.

Older men, as always. I have no interest in anyone younger than me.

I’m 64, I don’t fancy the 20 year olds, but late 30’s, 40’s are good, maybe at a push early 50’s. I don’t find older men attractive. This is all hypothetical of course, I’m actually done with men!

yes I think your tastes age as you age, for example…

Friedrich then, Captain Von Trapp now
Dr Carter then, Dr Ross now
Prince Eric then, King Triton now 😂

I like this

https://www.thepoke.co.uk/2023/08/07/the-answer-to-this-question-about-people-ageing-is-making-everyones-day-better/

I'm in my 40s and now find men older than me attractive. Some in their 70s 😂 I can appreciate a younger attractive guy, say in his 20s, but in a motherly type of way.

I'm 50, I DO fancy younger men but here's the thing: only younger men from the past i. e men in real life are actually older than me.
For example, I recently watched an interview with Adam Faith when he was 20-gorgeous guy! He's (or would be if still alive) 30 years my senior.
Or a young rock star from the 70s, or Gene Hunt from Life on Mars (who is in early forties).
Or a few characters in their early 30s set in an 80s TV show.
I do not fancy current day younger guys at all.

I don’t fancy men my own age and older (early 50s). Occasionally I do fancy some one on the telly, e.g. Sean Bean or David Tennant. But it depends on the role they’re playing e.g. Ned Stark or Dr Who and it’s not real.

Not at all interested in toy boys but occasionally find myself chatting to a guy and wondering if he single and then realise he’s only about 35-40, therefore probably not interested in me.

Good question - I hadn't thought about this before, but yes.

At every age, I reckon I've fancied men of roughly my own age. 25 year olds at 25, 50 year olds at 50.

The 20-somethings just don't appeal any more. They look like kids. Especially now I have an adult son for that extra ick factor.

im mid 40’s and can categorically say I rarely find men my age or older attractive (they probably think the same of me tbf 🤣)

typically I find guys 10-15 Years younger the most attractive

I’m 47 now and I do find men older than me attractive now, sometimes those aged from about 30 onwards but it’s usually as another poster said it’s more the character they play and not n real life.

i fancied David Tennant as the tenth doctor way back and I still fancy him as the 14th Doctor but not as much as I I do as the tenth and defo not in RL.

men in their 20’s eww, my ds is 24 and its wrong!

No. Whilst I can appreciate they are attractive (Timothee Chamolet) it’s not a fancy. It’s definitely the older guy or the one who is my age but still fit!

I'm 65.. l fancy distinguished men 40 plus... who have aged well.. but l do have celebrity crushes .. yes l know I'm old.. but one can still have a crush..
Jason Manford for one.. ( yes I've seen him live.. but l think in his case it's not just the looks it's the humour and kindness).. but Jamie Dornan and David Gandy it's obviously the looks.

I would say that for me it tends to be the same age as I am at the time (currently 46) When I was younger I thought Harrison Ford was repulsive but as he has aged I think he is rather gorgeous!

I'm very happily married in my 40s and got two crushes, one is a married man in his 70s and the other is a married woman in her 60s. DH knows about both and is fine with it. They will never know about it, and he agrees they're lovely.

I would definitely say that as I get older I don’t look at younger men in the same way - you do definitely ‘keep up’ with your own age group IMO. I can appreciate a younger man if he is handsome but I don’t look at them in a sexual way I’d say. Maybe be because I have a son who is going on 27!

I always preferred older men anyway but now when I see young men in films they just look like children to me, like DC's friends who I don't see as adult men even if they are in their early twenties.

Been binge watching Shetland over Christmas and have a bit of a crush on Mark Bonnar.

I'm 28 and even when I was younger, I always found tall, dark and handsome to be the most attractive. Always a little older tbh. Even now, still attracted to the same type of looks. Henry cavil.....

Opposite for me, always liked older men

Now I've reached 40s younger men are actually looking alright

I’ve thought about this and think it must be natural to find people in your own age group attractive as you get older. I definitely don’t find young men attractive eg my daughters like Harry Styles and I just can’t see the appeal, even trying to imagine myself as young. I know 29 isn’t that young but far too young for me!

I have a 20 year son so fancying someone his age or not much older turns my stomach now. I mightvthink they are good looking or handsome but fancy or sexual interest? No way. Not now at my age.

30 plus maybe. I liked a guy in his eighties when I was in my late teens (actor). But now it would be a pysh to like someone 20 years older. Harrison Ford is 30 plus years older than me, I'd make an exception for him 😄

There are only two guys on earth (except dh ) I fancy. Tom Hiddleston and Brian Cox. But out any man who enthusiastic and passionate about science who lights up talking about and I'd fancy him. Can not resist a intelligent science loving man. They are ALL irresistible

This

Handily, I’ve found you just stop finding anyone attractive. Bye bye oestrogen