Do you fancy older guys as you get older?

[weegiemum]

Dh and I were just discussing this (yes, we have erudite discussions like this all the time 🤣).

So when you're watching a film in your 20s, you tend to fancy the young male lead.

But in your 50s (like us) do you still fancy the young 20 something guy or do you prefer the wise, 50-something mentor guy? Dh is watching some shite with an actress who is certainly in her 50s and his crush is Sandra Bullock (now, not in Speed etc).

My young person crush was Harrison Ford but he's too old these days. But yes, I think I prefer the older guys. Is that just giving up that young guys would ever go for you?

(FYI we've been married almost 29 years and together since our teens with no real issues ever. We talk about who we fancy occasionally but basically we just fancy each other!!).

It is kind of true that you fancy older men as you get older or at least your own age but I don't find most men my own age attractive to be honest. I like the same guys I always liked for 20+ years. So Cillian Murphy, Roy Keane and Bill Pullman who to be fair is old enough to be my father, he seems so nice though and was still hot in The Sinner.

I think younger men than my are more attractive than men my age but I don't fancy 20 somethings, they are too young.

I think studies show women prefer men their own age up till about 45 then they start to prefer men a few years younger and it continues on that way.

As I've got older I am attracted to older men in old films that my younger self thought 'Yuck'!

For w ample I remember thinking that Charles Dance in the 1980s was the last person on earth I would ever fancy!

Now when I watch a show or film that he's in from the 80s, I find him rather dashing!

The idea of fancying someone close to the same age as your kids is pretty grim.

I’ve always liked younger men - dh is 8 years younger than me - and now I’m in my mid 40s I don’t fancy anyone famous my age at all. But then I think I’m massively in denial about how old I am / look … I still think I’m about 25 in my head. 🤣 Men in their 40s upwards just remind me of my friends Dads or something.

My DS is 21 so any 'lads' in their early 20's I just feel maternal to- could never fancy them * DH is same age as me (early 50's) and I suppose I would be attracted to 5 yrs either way- so 45-55 ish. I've always crushed on around these sort of parameters.
When I was I was mid 20's I could sort of see the attraction to a late 30's/40's 'boss' man- but I've seen people totally used by these guys so never for me.
money and power I suppose but it's very shallow really and would not have lasted. It's horses for courses!
I have friends who go 20 years either way and are happy with their partners so it's all good.
*Must say I've watched 'Saltburn' this week and Felix - well I would! 😍Not that he would come near me! The actor is 26 by the way but it feels very wrong.

I mean I could probably still look at a man in his twenties and objectively see he was attractive... but yes I prefer older men and they have aged as I have aged.
Some of these leads in films look like actual kids to me now..
And I find myself finding men who I would have considered grandads in my twenties, actually attractive now. The guys I tend to think 'wow' about now are in their 40s and even sometimes 50s
I was looking at Timothee Chalamet in dune and thinking he was quite attractive at points and then at other points feeling like a paedo about thinking that as he seemed so young... looked up his actual age and he's late 20s lmao.. I'm only 35. But I felt like the randy old lady in the Catherine tate show

It's a strange one because, when I was say 18 I couldn't imagine fancying anyone over the age of say 30.
Then when I was 30, I couldn't imagine fancying anyone over the age of 40.
And so on.
Now I'm 60, I can't imagine fancying anyone over the age of 65.
So I suppose I could say it's all relevant to my own age.
That said, my eyes do wander over a handsome man, particularly a younger one.
It's not just men who wish they were 20 years younger 😉

When I was dating in my 40s I dated men from age 19 to 65. I ended up with a guy a few years older than me. Been together nearly a decade now. All previous relationships post teenage years including marriage were same age so the age has gone up with my age. I love a silver fox!