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WWYD - homeless for a month

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roarrfeckingroar · 20/08/2023 11:17

Morning,

I'm due to complete on the sale of my flat in a few weeks. The house I'm buying won't be ready until about 5/6 weeks after. It's me, DS (nearly 3) and 6m DD. Their father is moving into a shared house in two weeks so although we are entirely amicable, we can't go there.

We don't have in laws family in the country. I just have my father and he's 80, very stuck in his ways and lives in a 2 bed, so not much room. It's not somewhere we could stay more than two weeks without threatening our currently wonderful relationship - and it's too far for nursery.

My best friend would have us for a week or so but again, not much space and in middle of nowhere so couldn't get to nursery.

I could get an Airbnb nearby but that'll cost ££££s (London).

Or I could decamp us all to the seaside for three weeks. Friends could visit. XP could drive down regularly. Nice change of scenery and a bit cheaper out of season than a London place.

Any ideas?

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Clymene · 20/08/2023 11:19

I'd go for the seaside option.

Duchessofspace · 20/08/2023 11:19

Yep caravan sounds good

SparkyBlue · 20/08/2023 11:25

Seaside 100%. We had to move to temporary accommodation in our last house move. It was stressful and an awful expense and hassle with young children but just look at the bigger picture and you will be fine. Best of luck with it.

Twospaniels · 20/08/2023 11:25

Yes, go to the seaside for a few weeks and make a holiday of it.

I don’t understand why your partner has himself sorted with accommodation but you and the children don’t.

Mindymomo · 20/08/2023 11:25

What about a one bedroom holiday cottage.

Rainbowqueeen · 20/08/2023 11:27

Seaside sounds like best option. Or any place out of London for a little holiday that fits in your budget

Comedycook · 20/08/2023 11:29

I think the children's father also has a responsibility to make sure his children are housed...why can't he take one of the children for the month?

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roarrfeckingroar · 20/08/2023 11:30

Twospaniels · 20/08/2023 11:25

Yes, go to the seaside for a few weeks and make a holiday of it.

I don’t understand why your partner has himself sorted with accommodation but you and the children don’t.

We're parting ways and I own the flat. He's moving into rental and I've had to pull out of a house purchase that was due to complete on same day as my sale due to an awful survey. The new house I've found is part of a chain and can't move as quickly.

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roarrfeckingroar · 20/08/2023 11:31

Comedycook · 20/08/2023 11:29

I think the children's father also has a responsibility to make sure his children are housed...why can't he take one of the children for the month?

  1. I don't want him to!
  2. He's working and I'm on maternity leave
  3. I don't see this as a hardship, I see it as an opportunity to have a lovely time with my little family - somewhere that will not hinder him also seeing them.
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roarrfeckingroar · 20/08/2023 11:32

Ok seaside seems popular.

Question is - where? South coast recommendations please!!

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Comedycook · 20/08/2023 11:32

roarrfeckingroar · 20/08/2023 11:31

  1. I don't want him to!
  2. He's working and I'm on maternity leave
  3. I don't see this as a hardship, I see it as an opportunity to have a lovely time with my little family - somewhere that will not hinder him also seeing them.
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But it's extremely unfair that you have to find accomodation that can take three people and is close to your DC's nu

winelove · 20/08/2023 11:32

Seaside sounds great. We had a 6 month wait fir our new house. We did caravan for 4 months until end of season. My mother for 1 month absolute hell, she didn't want us there and it was the worse time of my life. Our relationship has survived just about. Then we rented a flat for 1 month. I loved the caravan by the sea.

Comedycook · 20/08/2023 11:34

Posted too soon...but

It's much harder to find accommodation for three people and close to the nursery...but your ex only has to house himself, a single man. Does he not give a dam where his children will be living?

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roarrfeckingroar · 20/08/2023 11:38

@Comedycook I'm in a much better financial situation than he is. He's also working full time. There's not much he can do and I feel very sorry for him. Ultimately, I get to have this wonderful time with our kids and then live in a beautiful house I own. If I do book somewhere I'll take toddler out of nursery. He needs a new one anyway because new house is in a different area.

Can anyone recommend a place to go?

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roarrfeckingroar · 20/08/2023 11:39

@winelove that sounds wonderful! Where did you stay by the sea?

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Jessbow · 20/08/2023 11:50

Along the south coasta bit- Hastings/Bournemouth Eastborne, or go To Suffolk coast depending on which side of london you want to be

screentimehelpplease · 20/08/2023 12:51

I'm going to suggest Bournemouth as it's lovely. I've only ever stayed in hotels there so can't recommend accommodation but it would be a fab place to stay for a few weeks.

purpletrees16 · 20/08/2023 13:22

My favourite beach is camber sands and would stay in Rye for the interest. Big sand dunes! Bit of an effort to get the buggy over the dunes through.

Crunchymum · 20/08/2023 13:41

We go to a cottage in Broadstairs a few times a year. I'd happily spend a month there whilst between houses.

Lovely little town, easily accessible from St Pancras (1h 20m).

Clymene · 20/08/2023 13:44

Do you want sand or stones? Are you planning on renting a mobile home?

tweetsandchirps · 20/08/2023 13:45

Seaside. Also check out house sitting options. There are websites where people need ‘house sitters’ whilst away to keep plants alive, run some errands etc

Lovegood · 20/08/2023 13:55

I'd be off to Broadstairs! It's absolutely a lovely little town. And if you drive you can explore lots of Kent.

Enjoy it, I'm sure you'll make the most of this opportunity for the three of you to be together having fun.

DanceMumTaxi · 20/08/2023 14:45

Bournemouth is great. The beaches in Bournemouth and Poole are lovely.

Swearwolf · 20/08/2023 14:52

Boscombe, just along from Bournemouth, is lovely. Not sure of your budget but Bournemouth beach lodges (on Boscombe beach) are gorgeous and worth a look.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 20/08/2023 14:55

Swearwolf · 20/08/2023 14:52

Boscombe, just along from Bournemouth, is lovely. Not sure of your budget but Bournemouth beach lodges (on Boscombe beach) are gorgeous and worth a look.

Boscombe's a shithole full of heroin addicts and drunks in HMOs and bail hostels.