Any social workers if possible?

[Ted10]

Quick background. My children are on a CIN plan after I reached out for help because my 16 year old have been aggressive/violent towards me . So as you will know that lead to the other children also being on the CIN plan.

So things have been/are being put in place.
One of the things we have is a family practitioner. The is absolutely lovely. Talks to use in a nice way . She's really mice with the kids . She sees my 16 year old separately he seems to like her . So no clashes in that way.

But I feel like im.being given the wrong support the focus is wrong. For me the problem is being able to approach my 16 year old without the fear of aggression and violence. Being able to leave 13 year old dd at home if she wants to without worry about her safety. But the family practitioner is focusing on stuff that's not needed . Although she's lovely. She talking to me like I'm a young mum of under 5s . And talking to me about . Routine What time do the kids go to bed, how do you sort meal times. Etc etc its just not the right help. There's just no point . I mean I wantnthe help and support definitely but the fucus is wrong.

I can't approach the social worker about it because she's awful . I'm.not saying that because I'm a difficult Clint. She's not approachble at all and let's us know we are below her and she's in charge. She doesn't listen or fully discuss things. I have met some lovely social workers. She's just not one of them. So basically I keep her at arms length.

So how to I get the right support.

Yes people always say ss are supportive ect but not always. They caused me more stress than anything else! A cin plan is voluntary even though they try to make you believe it isn’t.
we also had a family practitioner and she was just as irritating, didn’t suggest anything I didn’t already know and really didn’t help. I hope you find what you need, but I just wanted to say that it’s ok to say no to ss and despite what people say it doesn’t always have consequences. Once I just stopped letting them come round they left me alone. I really found they just added more stress to my life.

Yeah i think you still have to be careful though. Because if they really wanted to if CIN plan is refused they can escerlate to child protection. Obviously in your case you were fine.and I'm OK to its them that made the decision. Family practitioner in my case is nice but fucus on the wrong stuff. Won't have her anymore as she was part of the CIN plan. 16 year old is still on CIN so he will still have her. He seems to like her so I think that's a good thing.

What did pee me off is they said the other children (had) to be on it because vthru are part of the house hold. I do believe that if the children are all a young age. But at 16 I was quite sure it could just be my son. But I was not 100% sure. But the fact they have taken the other kids off just shows they never needed to be on it.

Anyway never mind hopefully things will be mire focused now

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