Are you your parent’s favourite child?

[Bobje]

I am categorically most certainly not!

But life goes on.

Are you?

I suspect I am, as I was (and am) the easier child. Though I also joke that DH is my parents favourite child.

They love DB and me equally and always treat us the same, but I suspect they like me more and we have a lot more in common (partly as I tried to make sure neither were disappointed in my choices in life).

DB still lives at home due to severe mental health problems and tends to treat my parents like a constantly pissed off moody teenager would. Understandably as his life has not gone well (understatement)!! So they've all had over 30 years of constant underlying tension. I was kind of left to just get on with things growing up due to necessity, and on paper have been pretty successful (though also in reality eating disorders, ptsd, anxiety and now find it really hard to rely on others etc, all of which I hide from them as much as I can).

Frankly it's a shit situation all round and I'd give anything to be in jokey 'competition' for favourite child

Nope. My brother was DM's favourite, despite being the one that caused them the most grief! Sister is dad's favourite, I'm nobody's!

As a child, absolutely not.

As an adult; yes.

Well yes, but then my sibling is very. hard. work 😬

My DP are v careful to treat us all equally, and have done an amazing job of this 🤩 They step up more when one of us needs it, but as we've all had times we've needed more support it evens out and they're v open about it so it's never been an issue.

This is partly due to their own natural fairness and a lot due to the fact my DM's mum used divide and conquer with her 6 and definitely played favourites 😕

My parents have done a great job of making us feel equally valued and loved.

My sister has had more financial help because my parents circumstances have been quite up and down (serious illness etc) and her needs coincided with their up times and mine with their downs, but they gave us as much help as they could in either case, so it's fair in that sense.

I'm definitely the easier one as I'm less volatile, but they've never made that into anything that translated into greater or lesser value iyswim. So all in all a decent balance.

Id say Im probably my moms favourite, and my brother is my dads favourite.

I'm my Mother's least favourite child, that's my sister's role. My Mother is also very blatant; my sister gets help with childcare, was given a share of money when our father died intestate ( I was not gifted anything). Mother dearest always reminds me of my sister's birthday and tells me what present she bought. I don't get as much as a phone call😃
My Father and I were very close, he was the one who nurtured me as a child and as I grew up we shared similar interests.
Thankfully my sister and I are close and I harbour no resentment towards her. Her's is a difficult role.
I have a wonderful relationship with my PIL, I call them Mom and Pop😊

I came on to post this!!

I’m my mum’s favourite but I’m her only child.

my dad has 3 children and I’m definitely not the favourite. He values creativity and musicality of which I have neither. When he was alive he would regularly repost the things my makeup artist sister had worked on( magazine covers/ photo shoots) and the music tracks my brother who is trying to make a career as a music producer had created. On the rare occasion he posted something of me it was pics of my kids because that was all I did he liked.

No, my younger sister is. The effect of this however is that they supported her financially for a long time, interfere in her life and assume she’s less capable than she is, so tbh I think I got the better deal.

Yes!

Both parents.

I don't think either of us are tbh. Mum moans about us to each other, in equal measures

Absolutely not, my sister is, which is annoying as she's a massive spoilt wanker.

My grandmother has just died (Saturday morning) but stepmum still went to a festival with sister on Saturday until midnight, leaving my dad alone, because heaven forbid anyone tells her no.

I was there, helping support and sort things, as you naturally do, but was still ignored in favour of golden girl. Golden girl who then ferreted through the jewellery (four hours after Nan had died) so she could take stuff to sell - she said blatantly that's what she was going to do. Dad then made a pile of stuff that she could take! Like I say, she's a spoilt wanker 🤷🏻‍♀️

Was then asked to leave on Sunday lunchtime with my daughter (the only grandchild) so they could take sister out to lunch - clearly we weren't invited. Further kick in the teeth was that they took her to the pub next door to my house 😂

It's been like that forever, but this weekend has really pissed me off. I may be done now.

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This really tickled me!

No! I am not. My brother and sister both are though.

I think I am, but I wasn't. Sibling was extremely smart ambitious and has become very successful. They have less time for parents and to a certain extent look down upon others a little. I have masses of kindness but certainly not the same success or ambition as my sibling. I think in the past 5 to 10 years both my parents (seperated) have grown closer to me and 'favour' in their own way towards me now

Of course both would say they never had a favourite when we were younger, but they sung my siblings praises far more, and now wouldn't say they have a favourite but the singing of praises has shifted entirely

As a child, no. But I'm the only one who had grandkids so I am now.

Nope

My mum once said to me "everyone always thinks your sister is my favourite but it's actually your brother"

The fact she was telling this to her oldest child who was clearly never even in the running was lost on her.

No way! But I'm not bothered, as these people are irrelevant to me.

Definitely my Dads favourite. Not sure on my mum, she flutters between 😂

Well I am the PFB and eldest grandchild on one side - so that earns me points!

My younger brother is darling baby boy though, so that earns him points.

I talk to my parents more but am more of a needy child (adult) so not sure if that makes me the fave or least fave 😂

Not at all.

I was always labelled the “difficult” one because I dared to express differing opinions to my Dad. My mum always told me and my brother to “keep the peace” which my brother was much better at doing.

My brother is financially MUCH better off than me and my parents view that as a measure of how hard he works.
(I am a single mum of an ASC teenager and I work full time with vulnerable children and children with Learning Disabilities. I love my job but the pay isn’t amazing.)

I know my mum loves me but she definitely thinks the sun shines out of my brother. My dad generally has little to no respect for women in general so I don’t stand a chance there 🤣

it’s taken me almost 50 years to not let it sting. I’ll let you know if that day ever comes 🥹

There are seven of us and I'm fairly certain the favourite is and always has been Bertie.

Bertie is my mother's donkey.

I know my parents love me but I have always felt that my younger sister (by 2 years) has been their favourite. I have never given them any hassle (not in my childhood years or adult), where’s she has been a total (PITA) from the beginning but they have still done far more for her than me (like pay off her debts etc). Mum now has Alzheimer’s and dad doesn’t cope well so I pop in most days and do lots for them. My sister cleans their house once a fortnight and according to my dad I do nothing for them but dsis is great because she cleans!

There’s no doubt in my mind that my parents would favour a pet donkey over me, and I just think that’s fair enough really.